Qabeelat Haadi's ROE Online Gemboard!

[UmmZahMar]

as Salaamu `Alaikum wa Rahmatullaah,

Ma sha Allah, this is such an excellent class! Can't you just smell the Akhlaaq in the air! :):) Another great seminar comes to the Bay Area, walHamdulillaah---Jazak Allahu Khairan Usthaadh Muhammad for your effort and your patience with us!

We're two days into the class and I have so many GEMS I can't keep track! But before I burst out all my GEMS, lets see what my fellow Haadi-ites have collected in sha Allah---this is our official ROE Gemboard!

Ready, set, BISMILLAAH! :)

[Shakira]

I cant wait to start reading all of the fabulous gems... :)

[bint-e-huma]

Here's one:

The Rahma and forgiveness of Allah swt should not be taken for granted.

[Aboo Zaid]

At one point ustaadh was breaking down a very interesting chart that detailed the different categories of human needs. One of them was choice/freedom. The classic thing was that just as he was elaborating on that point, he ran out of leash on the microphone and it came free from his shirt.

JazakaAllaahukhair to Abu Smilely. He missed like three hours of class renting a wireless system so we could get the full effect of an unrestrained

Muhammad ibn Faqih

[UmmZahMar]

There is never a day of leisure and relaxation for a Believer.

Haya (modesty) that keeps you from progressing or becoming a better Muslim is not the praiseworthy Haya fid Deen.

If your behavior does not reflect your inner beliefs, you'll never be successful.

[UmmZahMar]

When you change over night people think something is wrong with you :)

If any of the basic human needs are over-fulfilled then it could be at the expense of some other basic human need.

If any of the basic human rights are taken to an extreme, then it could be at the expense of the rights of another.

[UmmZahMar]

One of the keys to success is to have a role model.

To be the best, learn and implement the best (the example of Muhammad sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam).

When it comes to the treatment we get, we are extremely sensitive. But when it comes to the treatment of others, we are the opposite.

[UmmZahMar]

I've heard that when a very young child exhibits some bad behavior, it is best to ignore it otherwise, they realize it is something bad and they do it again and again to annoy you (this is for specific cases, not generally). The Prophet (saws) used to do something similar in that he wouldn't ask why something was done or not done.

[UmmZahMar]

The closer you are to Allah, the greater your wara'.

We're all the descendents of a Prophet! :D

The DNA of a Muslim is their Akhlaaq!

[UmmZahMar]

When dealing with your own soul, it's like fighting with another person.

If we learn to question ourselves, this helps us with self-control.

What shows your worth is not the place you reside or your lineage. It is your actions.

More to come later in sha Allah....

[Aboo Zaid]

We need to be sure to take dua' from authentic sources, not because we are rigid or picky, but because of the edab with Allaah SWT. If it is not an authentic prophetic dua, then there is a likelyhood that the wording is inappropriate.

This is so deep if you ponder it. One thing that amazes me is the power in the wording of the adkhaar in the Sunnah. And when addressing Allaah SWT it is a delicate matter because of who He is and because of the fact that EVERYTHING is under His Will. Since everything falls under His will it can be difficult to come up with the proper and polite wordings that convey the meaning you want, the desperate situation you are in, and being sure to not attribute harm directly to Allaah SWT.

Many have probably experienced this. You try and make dua to Allaah and convey what you want to say and then you search for a hadith and you find how superior the prophetic supplications are to your own.

[Aboo Zaid]

When making dua to Allaah be general. Even when it is in regard to a specific matter. Don't define that matter. Leave it to Allaah. Dua is a state submission, humbling yourself before your Lord. It is not befitting that you describe to Him in detail what you think you need.

This is exactly how the prophetic dua are.

[UmA]

Jazakumullahu khayran for all the reminders about du'a

[ummzaid]

The story of the cave left an impact on me. Driving back home I kept thinking to myself what if I were stranded in that cave? What would be the deed that I use?

[ikhlaas]

One of the many things that has stayed in my mind from this class...When Ustaadh was talking about the time when he did wudu to perfection and tried to pray 2 rakaahs with utmost concentration..he said, when he finished the Salaah, he was completely drenched in sweat!!

subhanAllah!

[Aboo Zaid]

Edab with Allaah SWT and His Messenger SAAS

Don't let the Quran or an Islamic lecture play where you are not attentive. Put yourself in a state of focus and be careful not to make inappropriate gestures or personal adjustments (picking nose etc) while listening.

[third_bint]

SH. M. Faqih kept saying how important it is to have khushoo' when doing salaah and to really pay attention to what you are saying, and how the companions, etc. used to cry and get stuck in the middle of what they were reciting in prayer because they were so overcome.

It reminded me of this clip of Sh.Shuraim reciting from surah alFatiha . . .
http://www.geocities.com/doctorsaab84/al-fate7ah.ram

[ummzaid]

thanks for that - touching



SH. M. Faqih kept saying how important it is to have khushoo' when doing salaah and to really pay attention to what you are saying, and how the companions, etc. used to cry and get stuck in the middle of what they were reciting in prayer because they were so overcome.

It reminded me of this clip of Sh.Shuraim reciting from surah alFatiha . . .
http://www.geocities.com/doctorsaab84/al-fate7ah.ram

[Obid]

Choose a campanion that challenges you and brings the best of your character (akhlaq) out.

[Obid]

A nation is no more or head a steep decline, if it is deprived of akhlaq (ethics).

[Aboo Zaid]

When we hear the verses of Jannah, we imagine ourselves there. When we hear the verses of HellFire we imagine others. SubhanaAllaah, this struck me when the Sh said about paradise: why don't you think to yourself, "what if I don't get there?"

[muslimballer123]

We're all the descendents of a Prophet! :D

...sweeeeet :D

The DNA of a Muslim is their Akhlaaq!
i have to refine some of my DNA http://forums.almaghrib.org/images/icons/icon6.gif

[muslimballer123]

When we hear the verses of Jannah, we imagine ourselves there. When we hear the verses of HellFire we imagine others.
...we often let verses bypass us...never realizing that that same verse could be speaking about us

SubhanaAllaah, this struck me when the Sh said about paradise: why don't you think to yourself, "what if I don't get there?"
that question really makes you think...

May Allah Subhaanahu wa-ta'ala help us...ameen

[Aboo Zaid]

SubhanaAllaah, may Allaah make Salaah a pleasure for us. What was narration about the scholar who said words to the effect: I spent 10 years working on my Khushoo and then I tasted the sweetness of Salaah for 20 years after that.



Asalam-alaikum

One thing that struck me is when the Shaikh was talking about salah, he said many a times we just want to finish our prayer and then move on to more mundane wordly things. It is almost as if we treat salah as a roadblock or a chore that needs to be tackled first before doing something else. How horrendous! Astaghfirullah.

The prophet, sallallahu alaihi wassalam, used to ask Bilal to call out the adhaan so he could find COMFORT in salah...

May allah help us all achieve that level of khushua in our prayers, aameen.

[ikhlaas]

One of the righteous of the past, Utbah al-ghulam (May Allah be pleased with him) said, "I spent twenty years of distress during the night (struggle to gain Khushu) and then I enjoyed for the rest of the 40 years (praying with Khushu)"

[ikhlaas]

Amazing how the major scholars of the past differed, prayed with each other and joked in each others company. This was an incident when Imam Abu Hanifah happened to pray one of the prayers behind Imam Malik after their debate on the issue of raising hands more than once in the salaah:

"you were flapping so much, I though you would fly" :) Imam Abu Hanifah (rahimullah) to Imam Malik (rahimullah) when he was praying behind Imam Malik and Imam Malik was raising his hands before and after Ruku'.

Imam Malik responds, "if we were that kind, we would have both flown away with the first takbir" :D (referring to the Takbeer Ihram)

[ummzaid]

Parents rights over children: If you Mother calls ANSWER THE PHONE http://forums.almaghrib.org/images/icons/icon7.gif

[ikhlaas]

What really got me was the Hadeeth the Ustaadh said regarding how the Prophet sallalahu `alayhi wasallam would help his family around the house but as soon as the Adhaan was called, he would be as if he doesn't even know his household..subhanAllah just shows a good example of what "love" for the sake of Allah means and how that love is prioritized.

May Allah help us all follow the footsteps of Rasulullah sallalahu `alayhi wasallam

[RabizidneyILMA]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem


mashaALLAH, this class in GEM PACKED:



Kholooq---disposition

Khalq—creation



subhanAllah, look at how the word to describe your personality, your character, your traits comes from the same word as ‘creation’- your image. They both come from the same root word. Why? One of them reflects the inner image, and the other reflects the outer image. People are obsessed with their khalq, even might abuse one another based on their looks.


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The more the person stays away from negligence and the more you mention Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala, the more waraa you’re going to have…the higher your standards are going to get.

[RabizidneyILMA]

You will not attain righteousness until you actually spend from that which you love the most.
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Recognition—we go and help in the masjid, and then while we’re stuffing envelopes we get a paper cut, and we go ouch! Then we expect the president of the masjid to recognize us with a plaque, like we’re doing someone else a favor.

In reality, we’re doing OURSELVES a favor.

[UmmZahMar]

Someone asked Ibn `Abbaas (raDhi Allahu `anhu) about what made him become البحر (the ocean, i.e. an ocean of knowledge) and replied saying three things:

1. لسان سئول: A questioning tongue, asking the right questions
2. قلب عقول: A comprehending heart, the ability to understand
3. The Dua'a of the Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam): اللهم فقّهه في الدين و علّمه التأويل

[RabizidneyILMA]

If you want to know who the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam was, read the seerah. If you want to know if the Quran was a man, what kind of man would it be? Read the seerah of the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam.

[UmmZahMar]

People usually deal with different ethical dilemmas that they face according to their beliefs. In order for the solution/your behavior to your dilemma to be sound, your beliefs must be sound.

[UmmZahMar]

The more you remember Allah, the more your Akhlaaq will change for the better.

[UmmZahMar]

Your relationship with Allah is the foundation of your relationship with others. If it is sound, then the other will be sound.

[RabizidneyILMA]

ya ummzahmar, you're beating me! keep on posting mashaAllah..

Analyze this statement: I came to PERFECT, not to introduce. Meaning, there were some good qualities back then, but there was no social justice-justice was only for the strong. But honesty- everyone was honest. No one could lie; it was considered an unacceptable behavior.

[UmmZahMar]

A hadeeth was quoted regarding a place in Jannah being guaranteed for the person who gives up arguing even if he is right, who abandons lying when joking, and one who has good manners (a high place in Jannah). What is interesting is that the person who has good character would naturally also have the other two characteristics mentioned and consequently the reward for these two as well. AlHamdulillaah!

[RabizidneyILMA]

the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam was positive! There was only one incident, and this was a judgment call, when he sallahu alayhe wa sallam turned away [from the ‘blind man’ mentioned in Surah Abasa and continued to speak to the nobles of the Qurash] and he, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, was corrected by ALLAH subhanhu wa ta’ala. –and Who better as the One to correct you?

[UmmZahMar]

ya ummzahmar, you're beating me! keep on posting mashaAllah..


LOL I just noticed you're on too! :) Cyber run into each other :) I've been waiting for your GEMS habibtee :)

[UmmZahMar]

The story of the cave left an impact on me. Driving back home I kept thinking to myself what if I were stranded in that cave? What would be the deed that I use?
Yes, the same thouight occurred to me too. I was a bit disappointed....

[UmmZahMar]

Prosperity and well-being of a nation are measured by the morals and ethical values upon which they were established.

[UmmZahMar]

GEM Transmission :)

Ustaadh Muhammad IbnFaqih mentioned how Ustaadh Muhammad AlShareef mentioned that giving thanks to a person for something they have done and specifically mentioning what they had done gives more meaning and shows more gratitude than not mentioning it.

Is that a perfect example of a run on sentence or what :) (that's what happens when you have two toddlers crawling on your back as you type)

[RabizidneyILMA]

Alhamdullilah, i only have 458 more posts till i catch up to you inshaAllah.

From one of wives of Prophet sallahu alayeh wa sallam: he, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, never asked about something already done. He sallahu alayhe wa sallam would never ask like, why don’t you have food? He sallahu alayhe wa sallam didn’t say WHY, because why does it matter? Is that going to change anything? The Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam had a back up plan---

Plan A: eat. If no food, go to plan B: fast [please correct me if this was wrong]

It’s not the end of the world! Everything is an opportunity for us! Look at the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam! He, sallahu alayhe wa sallam never questioned and just kept on worshipping. Let’s stop wasting time with the useless questioning and start using that time to do a whole lot of worshipping.

[RabizidneyILMA]

when Ustadh Mohammed ibnFaqih was told 'youre quite welcome' it was more special than just 'you're welcome.' that little extra makes a difference.

The Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam, ANYTIME someone called him, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, he sallahu alayhe wa sallam would make a COMPLETE turn and face them. The companions, may Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala be pleased with them, noticed it so much they recorded it!

[UmmZahMar]

An example of the Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) wtih children:

Hasan and Husain (raDhi Allahu `anhuma) were riding on the back of Rasulullaah (sal `Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) pretending he was a camel. They kept pushing him to go faster when he said:


نعم الجمل جملكما
The best camel is your camel (that you're riding on)!

For some reason, this made me want to cry and laugh at the same time!

[UmmZahMar]

After mentioning that the Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) never asked why something was done or not done (because knowing did not bring benefit), he mentioned that husbands should now try to implement this because when us wives do something different, we don't expect a, "Why did you do THAT?" but we expect, "Hey, ma sha Allah that looks great!"

:D

[UmmZahMar]

Hasan al-Basri was recorded to have wept continuously about a certain ayah. Friends and family became concerned and tried to calm him down, but he would calm down for a little while and then become distressed once again and continue to weep profusely. They they called his good friend Ibn Sireen and when he was asked why he was crying, he quoted the verse in Surah Zumar

وَلَوْ أَنَّ لِلَّذِينَ ظَلَمُوا مَا فِي الْأَرْضِ جَمِيعاً وَمِثْلَهُ مَعَهُ لَافْتَدَوْا بِهِ مِن سُوءِ الْعَذَابِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ وَبَدَا لَهُم مِّنَ اللَّهِ مَا لَمْ يَكُونُوا يَحْتَسِبُونَ
47. And those who did wrong (the polytheists and disbelievers in the Oneness of Allah), if they had all that is in earth and therewith as much again, they verily, would offer it to ransom themselves therewith on the Day of Resurrection from the evil torment, and there will become apparent to them from Allah, what they had not been reckoning.

Upon hearing this Ibn Sireen also began to weep.

We may be living our lives full of confidence and expectation of the good in Akhirah. But imagine coming on the Day of Judgement "disappointed"....

May Allah save us from it, Ameen.

[UmmZahMar]

The Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) said: خيركم خيركم بأهله, The best of you are those who are best towards his family.

It's sad how it is usually our families that get the worst behavior from us when they deserve the best from us.

[UmmZahMar]

Ibn al-Jawzi said: If a man has a problem with his heart in doing something around the house that The Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) was recorded to have done then he has arrogance/a serious character flaw.

We should humble ourselves and follow the example of the Messenger (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam).

[I figured out why my husband was acting funny the past couple days :D Jazak Allahu Khairan Ikhlaas:)]

[UmmZahMar]

the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam was positive! There was only one incident, and this was a judgment call, when he sallahu alayhe wa sallam turned away [from the ‘blind man’ mentioned in Surah Abasa and continued to speak to the nobles of the Qurash] and he, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, was corrected by ALLAH subhanhu wa ta’ala. –and Who better as the One to correct you?
I loved this GEM!!

"Optimism is part of Iman." (Light of Guidance)

[AbuUmayrah]

Assalaamu alaykum All

"Anas bin Malik reported the Messenger of Allah (may peace be upon him) having said: When I begin the prayer I Intend to make it long, but I hear a boy crying; I then shorten it because of his mother's feelings. (Sahih Muslim, Book 004, Number 0952)"

And we start complaing the moment a baby cries in the masjid. SubhanAllah.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

When someone came to say salam to the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam, he sallahu alayhe wa sallam would give a firm handshake and would not release it until the other person released their hand first.
The Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam would not walk away until the person walks away.

subhanAllah, what adab!

[RabizidneyILMA]

‘I don’t have cooties!’ shaykh Mohammed Faqih

--->talking about shaking hands with brothers the second time ...

[RabizidneyILMA]

The Prophet sallalhu alayhe wa sallam would actually have a dialogue and discussion with the kids.

mashaAllah, our Prophet, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, was the best example!

if the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam had that much kindness to people, and that much mercy in his heart, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, then how much more does ALLAH subhanahu wa ta'ala have to those whom He wills.

[RabizidneyILMA]

O WOMEN...

The Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam would recognize the presence of women: one time the Prophet sallalahu alayhe wa sallam felt that the women didn’t hear Eid khutbah, so he, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, went to the women and gave a speech to them so they would also benefit.



--Ustadh Mohammed said he doesn’t have a problem with the women, it’s the men who need to be real MEN. He just wants the women to raise men. Look at the example of the Prophet, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, when he, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, felt the women didn’t hear, he went to give them the knowledge! And look at the generation that these women raised, by the blessing of Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala. Their examples were mothers with sound knowledge [direct from the Prophet, sallahu alayhe wa sallam]! How can we expect our future generations to keep strong in this deen, if their examples are not strong themselves?

[RabizidneyILMA]

Kindness also extends to the animals! A camel once complained to the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam about being mistreated. The Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam let the owner know.



-à SubhanAllah, there is so much to learn from the example of the Prophet sallalhu alayhe wa sallam. He, sallahu alayhe w asallam didn’t just comfort the animal, he, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, also forbade the evil and enjoined the good!

[RabizidneyILMA]

When it comes to hope—this is the other wing. A bird cannot fly with only one wing, so to balance fear you have to have hope. When people think of Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala and they think Allah is after me---that is only fear. They only see the verses of punishment. How can you totally ignore this great quality of Allah subhanbhu wa ta’ala?-- Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem---repeat it twice! His Rahma covers everybody. Rahim—this is a special type of rahma only for the believers.

[RabizidneyILMA]

When are you going to chill? When are you going to relax? When I make it to Jannah. When both of my feet are in Jannah. That’s when I’m going to relax. NOW it’s time to work hard.

[Muhammad IbnFaqih]

The MOUTHWASH is a blessing! I am enjoying it the MOUTHWASH! I think every one deserves to have the MOUTHWASH! The MOUTHWASH is an awesome idea! You should consider exporting the MOUTHWASH!

[Naima]

Analyze this statement: I came to PERFECT, not to introduce. Meaning, there were some good qualities back then, but there was no social justice-justice was only for the strong. But honesty- everyone was honest. No one could lie; it was considered an unacceptable behavior.

Is this refering to the time of Jahiliyya, before Islam? If they had honesty, what state is our Ummah at today? Subhan Allah.

[ummzaid]

The MOUTHWASH is a blessing! I am enjoying it the MOUTHWASH! I think every one deserves to have the MOUTHWASH! The MOUTHWASH is an awesome idea! You should consider exporting the MOUTHWASH!

AsSalamualaykum warahmatulahi wabarkatahu Ustadh,

Happy to hear that you are enjoying your exclusive Haadi Mouthwash!

I would like to aplogise for walking in late to class over the weekend. Forgive me for any disturbance that I may have caused.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Allah doesn’t THINK, Allah KNOWS.

[RabizidneyILMA]

“PERFECT” your relationship with the Quran! – our beloved shaykh Yaser Birjas, TCE Sac state.

If a woman in the delivery room gives birth to a child, and that child looks at the doctor and says ‘doc’, this will be an AMAZING thing! It’ll be all over the papers! That this newborn baby actually recognized the doctor and called him by his title. That same child, 28 years later, could look at the doctor and say ‘doc’ in the same way that child did, and it would be considered immature. This story was related to shaykh Mohammed by a man who had converted years before wanted to learn Quran from him, although this man, mashaAllah, already had very good recitation. He continued the story explaining that he cannot expect to recite the Quran the same way as he first did when he became Muslim- he has to perfect it EVERYDAY until he dies.


Let's make the Quran our best buddy!



It's like...man, subhanAllah, I had this horrible day and I know everyone I want to talk to is at work. What should I do? Talk to ALLAH! He, subhanahu wa ta’ala, already knows your situation! And His words are ready for YOU to read.



Like Prophet Ayub, alayhe salam. He was tested SO much- with family, with society, with disease, and what did he do? Such adab with Allah subhanhu wa ta'ala! He, alayhe salam, said [and this is not exact]: Some affliction has touched me, and You are aRahmur-Rahimeen.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Imam Malik rahim Allah ta’ala didn’t accept hadith from a learned man who didn’t appeal to him---Imam Malik rahim Allah just didn’t think he was all that. Until one day he was making Tawah and he saw this scholar giving a dars. Imam Malik, rahim Allah ta’ala, and noticed that when he mentioned the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam his eyes would well with tears. On that day Imam Malik rahim Allah ta’ala realized how genuine this man was- that someone with this type of love for our habib, Rasul Allah sallahu alayhe wa sallam, could not forge anything. So starting from that day Imam Malik, rahim Allah, started accepting the man’s narration of hadith.


Do tears well up in our eyes when we think about our beloved, Rasul Allah, sallahu alayhe wa sallam?

MashaAllah, AWESOME book: Muhammad [sallahu alayhe wa sallam], Man and Prophet, by Adil Salahi. may Allah subhanhu wa ta'ala reward his efforts. That book really makes you feel like you are RIGHT THERE, by the blessing of Allah subhanhu wa ta'ala.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

please sit before reading the following-- Intense GEM:

On day of judgment, Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala will bring those people who did not make ruku and sujoud in the dunya and they will say: We’ll make ruku now! And Allah will say SHOW ME. And their backs will become stiff---if you can’t bend in this life, you do not deserve to do so on the Day of Judgment. Finally they will drop on their faces and they will be dragged from their feet to the hellfire.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Now, a light hearted story:

Shaykh Mohammed said that a man told him that when he [or a friend of his] was making Hajj, there was a woman who was getting REALLY mad at the pillar representing shaytaan, and she was using foul language and letting out a lot of anger at it. So the man felt compelled to say something and he turned to the woman and advised her to perhaps stop using such language and what not, and she replied by asking him, "Why, is he related to you?"

[RabizidneyILMA]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Ready for another Hajj story?
[please forgive me if i got any of this wrong -- or anything i posted ever. and PLEASE correct it asap if it is incorrect.]



The first time Ustadh Mohammed was making Hajj [he was around 17 years old] it was very hot and he was sitting in the bus next to an older Pakistani brother [like 70+old]. Ustadh was sitting there, not doing dhikr or reciting Quran or doing anything beneficial. He was just restlessly watching the people and feeling the heat. So he turned to the Pakistani brother, who mashaAllah was a hafiz, and said 'harr?'- like, 'it's hot, huh?' And the Pakistani brother replied with a verse from the Quran saying that the Fire of Hell is hotter.



Later at Hajj, around 2am, Ustadh couldn’t sleep. When he woke he found the man on his knees, weeping and begging Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala to forgive him.



And I could not help but think—what kind of youth must he have lived if he remembered Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala so much in his old life? I know older people, in their 70s-80s, who have ALL DAY, and complain about having nothing to do. SubhanAllah, how much Quran they could read in that time! Or books about seerah!

What about us? Will we be sitting around [if we make it to that age], bored and just waiting for death? Or will we be like this man, weeping at 2am, begging Allah Most High for Him to forgive us?

[AbuSmiley]

Mandatory Qualities for a Mu'min (true believer)
1. To have the understanding and knowledge of the Deen
2. To have a good behaviour

A Munafique (hypocrite) will never have both the above TWO qualities together. He may have one, But not the other. From another perspective, a believer who only has one of the above quaities is at risk of falling into Hypocrisy.

Hence it is very important for us, that when we learn knowledge we should also learn the right adab (manners) to apply it.

May Allah always help us remember the above and guide us to behave with the best of akhlaaq.

[Mohammad Iman]

In the context of marriage.

"You want someone that will bring the best out of you."

[Mohammad Iman]

"When the trumpet is blown, there is no more lineage"
- Zainul Abidin (RAA)

[Mohammad Iman]

"In life when you do something you need to have a good reason for it."

[Mohammad Iman]

"Islam came to bring balance to our lives"

[Mohammad Iman]

"We need to worry about our inner image"

[UmmZahMar]

Subhan Allah, this class just keeps getting better and better with each session! It's amazing how we take little things for granted---things that can mean so much in your relationship with Allah (swt) and with others. May Allah reward Ustaadh Muhammad for the knowledge he imparts to us, his humor, and his patience with us, Ameen. For those of you who haven't taken ROE---you don't nkow what you're missing! And for those of you who are waiting to take ROE---you're in for a GEM packed seminar and it'll change your life! :)

[Orange Shajarah]

Assalamu aliakum,

Alright, here we go, my first gem. Bismillah

I really liked the statement Ustadh Mohammad ibn Faqih gave when giving dawah. You must have a drive and you must know how to talk with different types of people.

"To unlock a heart, you have to have the combinatin of the heart"

....just a question. can we really crash this server by a bombartment of gems????

[UmmZahMar]

Sisters' GEM Board:


You can only do dua'a to Allah (subHanahu wa ta'ala)!
First comes Allah (subHanahu wa ta'ala) and His Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) and then your mother.
Allah gives, Allah takes, Allah makes...no mistakes!
The DNA for a Muslim is their Akhlaaq
Salaah makes us good people.
The Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) used to pay extra attention to the sisters and re-give the khutbah to them in case they MIGHT NOT have heard it!
"No problem with the sisters" <-- But it takes a good mother to raise sons, BIG RESPONSIBILITY!
The RaHma of Allah (subHanahu wa ta'ala) should not be taken for granted.
The True Believer must have: a) understanidng of the deen and b) good conduct.
Oh Allah how can I call on You when I am a sinner but now can I NOT call upon you when You are the Most Merciful?!
Aqal is not mind!
Good deeds are a shining light.
Haya that prevents you from becoming a better Muslim is NOT the praiseworthy Haya fid Deen.
We are always searching for that perfect place and that perfect feeling - where we feel at rest and at peace, but that place does not exist in this Dunya.. That place is Jannah.
My life belongs to Allah (subHanahu wa ta'ala)
Where are the Mus'abs of today??
There will never be a day of rest/leisure for a Believer.
To be offended when it wasn't intented to offend is foolishness and to be offended with it was intended is also foolishness.

[Aboo Zaid]

Just about to hit the sack inshallaah, after capping off an incredible weekend. I know now that the ettiquette of saying thank you is to be specific. However, I'll need to do that later, too many important contributors and too many specific contributions worth pointing out. I just wanted to say that I was really touched by spirit of the volunteers and very proud of you all.

jazakumullaahukhair!

(PS Can't wait to read your newsletter articles :)

[Aboo Zaid]

Last night Ustaadh mentioned how Allaah SWT told the believers not to lose heart by the hypocrites holding back from Tabook. He was mentioning this in relation to the importance of a positive attitude and good company and power talk. Their presence would have a downer to the morale with their negative statements.

I read quickly throught the translation of Surah Tawbah and found one or two ayaat that may fit this but not an exact match. Does anyone know the ayat that ustaadh was referring to?

[UmmZahMar]

Last night Ustaadh mentioned how Allaah SWT told the believers not to lose heart by the hypocrites holding back from Tabook. He was mentioning this in relation to the importance of a positive attitude and good company and power talk. Their presence would have a downer to the morale with their negative statements.

I read quickly throught the translation of Surah Tawbah and found one or two ayaat that may fit this but not an exact match. Does anyone know the ayat that ustaadh was referring to?
لَوْ خَرَجُواْ فِيكُم مَّا زَادُوكُمْ إِلاَّ خَبَالاً ولأَوْضَعُواْ خِلاَلَكُمْ يَبْغُونَكُمُ الْفِتْنَةَ وَفِيكُمْ سَمَّاعُونَ لَهُمْ وَاللّهُ عَلِيمٌ بِالظَّالِمِينَ

47. Had they marched out with you, they would have added to you nothing except disorder, and they would have hurried about in your midst (spreading corruption) and sowing sedition among you, and there are some among you who would have listened to them. And Allah is the All-Knower of the Zalimun (polytheists and wrong-doers, etc.).

[AbuHafsa]

Set SMART goals ..

S-pecific
M-easurable
A-chievable
R-ealistic
T-imeframe

AbuHafsa

[Aboo Zaid]

Assalaam u alaykum Abu Hafsa, welcome to forums - this is a real friendly place - jazakallaahukhair for your SMART gem.

Set SMART goals ..

S-pecific
M-easurable
A-chievable
R-ealistic
T-imeframe

AbuHafsa

[Aboo Zaid]

CONSISTENCY in TEXTS

Of course one of the amazing proofs for the divinity of the message of Islam is the consistency. Ustaadh pointed to this and showed a couple of examples when we were in the sabr section. How could a human being keep track of so many different texts, revealed over 23 years, and make them line up so precisely, all reinforcing eachother?

This is not the nature of humans when left to our own devices. As we mature we often change our thinking and how we look at the world. So from the perspective of the kind of message as well as the details of it, how could it line up so perfectly if it was from other than Allaah.

"Do they not consider the Qur’ân carefully? Had it been from other than Allâh, they would surely, have found therein many a contradiction."
[The Noble Qur’ân, Chapter An-Nisâ’ (no.4), Verse 82]


When we looked at the verse:

"...only those who are patient shall receive their rewards in full, without reckoning."
Surah Az-Zumar 39/10

Subhanallaah it made me think of that long hadeeth in Kitab at Tawheed about the 70,000 (actually more after the dua) that will be saved from reckoning on the Day of Judgement.

There is a connection between Sabr and those people described.

He Sallaahu alayhee wasalaam said, `Those people are those who do not treat themselves with Ruqyah, nor do they believe in bad or good Omen (from birds etc), nor do they get themselves branded (cauterized) but they put their trust (only) in their Lord.'

These were common actions in the culture and to refrain from them and stamp them out of your personality requires deep sabr. As for the first category mentioned about ruqyah, the translation is a bit off. According to Shaykh Abu Ammar, what is meant is that it is preferrable to do ruqyah to yourself, but the Arabic implies seeking ruqyah from someone else is what is disliked.

Although it is permissible to do so, this special category of people rely so strongly on Allaah, that they do not seek it out. If it is offered, they accept. Or they perform it on themselves. This takes a lot of Sabr. Imagine being afflicted with something and you want to seek the ruqyah of the Imaam. However, because of wanting this category, you exercise sabr and rely upon Allaah SWT.

The point is that there are so many subtle connections that the believers enjoy as we get into the texts. These are not there for the disbeliever to enjoy. He has more obvious, more glaring proofs to look at that require less study. However, for believers these are like these nice treats that we experience as we go along that reinforce our faith.

O Allaah, make the Quran for us the life of our hearts and the light of our chests.

[ikhlaas]

VERY DEEP INDEED:

Ibnul Qayyim’s advice, “Resist the passing thought (evil one), because if you fail in doing so, it becomes an idea (fikr) and if you fail in resisting the idea, it will become a fantasy, when that happens, Fight it (snap out of it) don’t allow it to go any further, if you allow it to go any further, it will become a desire (an urge)….and if you don’t stop it, it will become a plan, if you stop at that point, that’s the point Allah is going to reward you. If it happens, you immediately stop and make tawbah, because if you do it again, it will become a habit, an obsession or an addiction. Then it will be very difficult for you to change it or get out of it.”

[ikhlaas]

Prophet sallalahu `alayhi wasallam “ true sabr is when the news first strikes you”

[UmmZahMar]

I few days ago I came upon this hadeeth:

The Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said: ‘Whoever has the Hereafter as his main concern, Allaah will fill his heart with a feeling of richness and independence; he will be focused and feel content, and this world will come to him in spite of it. Whoever has this world as his main concern, Allaah will cause him to feel constant fear of poverty; he will be distracted and unfocused, and he will have nothing of this world except what was already predestined for him.’”

And then I came upon this ayah:

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ اسْتَجِيبُواْ لِلّهِ وَلِلرَّسُولِ إِذَا دَعَاكُم لِمَا يُحْيِيكُمْ وَاعْلَمُواْ أَنَّ اللّهَ يَحُولُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْءِ وَقَلْبِهِ وَأَنَّهُ إِلَيْهِ تُحْشَرُونَ
8:24. O you who believe! Answer Allah (by obeying Him) and (His) Messenger when he (SAW) calls you to that which will give you life, and know that Allah comes in between a person and his heart (i.e. He prevents an evil person to decide anything). And verily to Him you shall (all) be gathered.

And then I remember something that Sh. Abu Ammar told us during LOG:

"Only a truly believer can enjoy this world to the max."

Throughout ROE, we talked about many circumstances, situations, tendencies of people, social/societal problems. And what's amazing is that Islam has some sort of solution for every single one of these kinds of problems. Even when you read about problems amongst people in the news, you start to think, "Well, Islam has a solution for that.... this could have been easily avoided if they had done such and such a thing that Islam teaches us..."

I think we terribly underestimate the value of what Allah has given us by making us Muslims. There is always a way out, there is always a bright side, and there is life, alHamdulillaah.

[UmmZahMar]

Amongst the manners we should have with Non-Muslims is that we should NOT approve of their misguidance and Kufr. This is NOT unethical!

[UmmZahMar]

Your demeanor must reflect your priorities.

This reminded me of Ibrahim (`alahis salaam)'s dua'a to Allah:

رَّبَّنَا إِنِّي أَسْكَنتُ مِن ذُرِّيَّتِي بِوَادٍ غَيْرِ ذِي زَرْعٍ عِندَ بَيْتِكَ الْمُحَرَّمِ رَبَّنَا لِيُقِيمُواْ الصَّلاَةَ فَاجْعَلْ أَفْئِدَةً مِّنَ النَّاسِ تَهْوِي إِلَيْهِمْ وَارْزُقْهُم مِّنَ الثَّمَرَاتِ لَعَلَّهُمْ يَشْكُرُونَ
14:37. "O our Lord! I have made some of my offspring to dwell in an uncultivable valley by Your Sacred House (the Ka'bah at Makkah); in order, O our Lord, that they may perform As-Salat (Iqamat-as-Salat), so fill some hearts among men with love towards them, and (O Allah) provide them with fruits so that they may give thanks.

Ibrahim's (`alayhis salaam) priorities were:

1. Spiritual well being
2. Social well being
3. Physical well being

[UmmZahMar]

Don't make a decision or act upon a reaction when you're in the state of Anger.

[UmmZahMar]

The best anger management: interrupt the sequence!

[UmmZahMar]

Without patience, you will not be able to accomplish anything.

[UmmZahMar]

Channel the good qualities that Allah has given you, using Islam as your compass to lead you to Jannah.

[UmmZahMar]

Do what you have to do but work to have a passion for it at the same time.

[UmmZahMar]

-Keeping the privacy of your neighbors is their right and your responsibility.
-Allah has subjugated the beasts for you NOT to abuse them.

[UmmZahMar]

Do you want to be a CLASSY Muslim?

Love for your brother what you love for yourself.

[UmmZahMar]

Good conduct is always about moderation.

[Asif Alam]

Salaam:

I think Qabeelat Haadi needs like 10 UmmZahMar to crash the Almaghrib Server.
Masha'Allah, she has been a most dedicated individual in posting the GEMs from ROE class this past weekend.

[Aboo Zaid]

I disagree, you can't expect more UmmZahMar's but you can expect people like Chili & Pepper to not be stingy and share some points. You know what I mean?

Salaam:

I think Qabeelat Haadi needs like 10 UmmZahMar to crash the Almaghrib Server.
Masha'Allah, she has been a most dedicated individual in posting the GEMs from ROE class this past weekend.

[shargiya]

Salam, hey ikhlas, from what I know Imam Malik did not do rafa yadain just as Imam Abu Hanifa, thats y Malikis do not raise their hands before and after rukoo. Could someone check the authenticity of the below incident please?

Amazing how the major scholars of the past differed, prayed with each other and joked in each others company. This was an incident when Imam Abu Hanifah happened to pray one of the prayers behind Imam Malik after their debate on the issue of raising hands more than once in the salaah:

"you were flapping so much, I though you would fly" :) Imam Abu Hanifah (rahimullah) to Imam Malik (rahimullah) when he was praying behind Imam Malik and Imam Malik was raising his hands before and after Ruku'.

Imam Malik responds, "if we were that kind, we would have both flown away with

[ikhlaas]

Salam, hey ikhlas, from what I know Imam Malik did not do rafa yadain just as Imam Abu Hanifa, thats y Malikis do not raise their hands before and after rukoo. Could someone check the authenticity of the below incident please?

Walaykum Assalam Br Shargiya,

I'm not referring to the authenticity of this incident here b/w Imam Abu Hanifah and Imam Malik (inshaAllah sh Muhammad can confirm that) but in regards to Rafa-al-yadain from what I've read, the strongest opinion is that Imam Malik (rahimullah) did do rafa-al-yadain. You can find this in the explanation of Jaami at-Tirmidhee by Hafidh Abdur-Raheem al-Mubarakpoore. Quoting from that:



And it is the opinion of Maalik. And it is the last of two sayings from him and the most authentic. al-Haafidh said on {al-fath}, 'ibn Abdul Barr (Maaliki) said, "noboby relates the leaving of raising the hands from Maalik except ibn al-Qaasim. And that which we take is the raising of the hands as in the hadeeth of ibn Umar. And that is what Wahb and others narrate from Maalik. And at-Tirmidhee does not relate from Maalik other than (the saying of ibn al-Qaasim)" And al-Khattaabee transmitted, and al-Qurtobee followed him in {al-Mufham}, that the last of the two saying and the most authentic from him was this. And I have not seen the Maalikiyyah use an evidence for the leaving of raising hands except with the saying of ibn al-Qaasim' [End]

wassalam

[Asif Alam]

Salaam:

Oh Please pray for me that I be less stingy and not a Turkey among the Eagles of Hadites! Ameen.

[Muhammad IbnFaqih]

as Salaamu `Alaikum wa Rahmatullaah,

Ma sha Allah, this is such an excellent class! Can't you just smell the Akhlaaq in the air! :):)
:)

I think it's the "mouthwash" :)

[Aboo Zaid]

It is a beatiful way to accessorize and celebrate the new you. I recommend all qabail that are still to take ROE to look into distributing the amazing Siwak mouthwash for your class. (Shoot me an email for special Qabail distributor pricing) aboozaid AT gmail DOT com

Ustaadh, please move here. Really it was a downer to see you go. You can't just get us pumped up about these ideas, instill all of this hope about change and being successful and then you are not there to guide us through the process.

Minty Refreshingly,

Yusuf

I think it's the "mouthwash" :)

[vendi_s]

Ramadan: Either you feel how a poor person feels or you feed them, so they won't feel that way anymore.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
Alhamdullilah, finally getting a chance to put up the second weekend gems:
Islam relied on people like Khaled ibn Waleed, radey Allahu anhu. And then Umar radey Allahu anhu comes and overnight Khaled radey Allahu anhu is demoted. What did he say? You can’t retire! You’re not working for Umar [radey Allahu anhu], you’re not working for Abu Bakr [radey Allahu anhu], you’re working for ALLAH! Subhanahu wa ta’ala.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Never hurt a believer—you might be hurting someone who has a very close connection with Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala. Don’t mess with the awliyah of Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala.

[RabizidneyILMA]

People who do evil, they don’t feel OBLIGATED to do it, unless they’re really crazy. When people do bad things, they feel the pain or guilt, or they don’t feel guilty anymore if something dies inside them. But no one really feels OBLIGATED to do it.

[RabizidneyILMA]

What the world needs to be discussing is To what extent has corruption spread in the world, to the point where a person comes and has no way to express themselves except by going and burning themselves? If a person did this and it’s considered a crime, what are you going to do? Bring those pieces together and punish them? They took themselves and other people.

[RabizidneyILMA]

What about the phenomenon of being gay? It will get to an extent where those people are uncomfortable with people who are not like them. They say that they have the right to say that their way is correct, and that others have to accept it. Why is it politically incorrect for me to say “No, you’re wrong, and you’re going to hell.” Why am I the bad guy to say that, even though I have the right to say that? But tehse people are not going to stop right there. The people of Lut alayhe salalm acme to him and they wanted to hook up with the Angels who came as men, wa Auothobillah! So they IMPOSED their way. These people want everyone to be as deviant as they are.

[RabizidneyILMA]

You’re NEVER obligated to spread the evil.

[RabizidneyILMA]

What we need to know as Muslims: knowing Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala, His Mercy, His Justice, we have to remember that Allah subhanbhu wa ta’ala says He will not lay upon us any burden or responsibility beyond our ability. So when He subhanhu wa ta’ala says fast from dawn until sunset, HE subhanhu wa ta’ala knew the average human being can do it. And if you cannot, then you have permission not to, and you get the same reward for

[RabizidneyILMA]

On stoning for adultry ---> everyone should know about this. especially since people in the west mention how unfair this is.

They criticize Islam for having stoning for adultery. Let’s compare their system with ours. They promote zina. They actually established guilt based on circumstantial evidence. In Islam, adultery/guilt cannot be established unless 4 people actually see them ALL have to describe that they have seen the actual INTERCOURSE TAKE PLACE. Or a person has to legally admit it. And even if they admit it, the judge has to turn them away. Then the person admitting it has to come back 4 times.


Or they do tawbah and keep it between them and Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala.



This punishment was NEVER established based on 4 people testifying. If those 4 people testify and there’s discrepancy, they are going to be punished.

Islam is very against this act publicly. Against it in general of course, but how can the 4 people identically see a person privately? It has to be done in a place people can see it if they testify.

wa Allahu ta'ala 'Alim

[RabizidneyILMA]

A sin could produce an effect greater than a good deed. You might do something bad and feel guilty, Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala forgives your sin because of your remorse. And if you do something good, you might start feeling proud of yourself.

[RabizidneyILMA]

There’s a scientific answer for everything, including thunderstorms. Who made the decision for that to happen? You tell me hydrogen and oxygen make water—were they just floating together and then met each other and decided to make water! Who made that decision? And then produce something with certain qualities? Why? Why water and fire are so opposite? Did water kill fire’s father? Who made the decision? There has to be SOMEONE! That’s ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala!!!

Why can’t they just settle the issue? Answer in Quran: Have you seen the one who has taken himself as a God?

The problem is that these people refer to their mind or intellect- which is something praised in the Quran- When used properly it leads to Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala. Those people don’t use it as a tool, they use it as ultimate criteria or judge.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala has given us enough evidence to go back to HIM. And HE subhanahu wa ta’ala has given us the tool to go to Him---‘aqal.

Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala says in Quran: it’s not that they don't have enough evidence, they are to arrogant to accept it!

[RabizidneyILMA]

Important to realize; WE HAVE THE TRUTH. We don’t have to jump into their ring. Bring them out to your ground. You set the rules. And that’s what great scholars did…imam Abu Haneefah, rahim Allah ta’ala. You are actually using those natural laws, you’re using logic. Never ever will true, sensible logic contradict with the Quran and sunnah. Logic itself comes from the same place as Quran and sunnah---from ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala. It’s like the laws of physics, natural universal law. Who gave us ability of 1+1=2? ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala! We will not find contradiction between logic, sound narration, something authentic. Never EVER will there be contradiction. Either there is weakness in hadith or problem with understanding. It’s obvious from the hadith it’s weak because it contradicts well established principles in the deen, and it contradicts the logic.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Look at how ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala says: he who has taken himself as God.

Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam was told by Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala: what are you going to do about someone like that? If someone has taken himself as a god, he is his own point of reference. How can he be guided? Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala lets him go astray.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Some people think it’s part of righteousness to be serious, stern. And the person is very serious the whole time, so they think this is good and respected. The Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam was not like that! He, sallahu alayhe wa sallam made them feel comfortable. And when the Companions [may Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala be pleased with them] made jokes, he, sallau alayhe wa sallam would smile.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Indeed those who say Allah is our Lord, keep themselves straight, angels will descend upon them and say don’t be afraid and don’t worry---that means up until that point you have been worried. [you were constantly worried about being forgiven, watching your actions, and at the time of death the angels will come and tell you not to worry, not to be afraid.]

[Asif Alam]

salaam:

Jazakum Allah Khair Ukhti for the effort.

Apparently, I was in the ROE class but somehow missed most of these valuable GEMS!

[RabizidneyILMA]

When you take notes, what you are writing down is what effected you the most.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Being a Muslim is 3 things:

A blessing from Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala---be thankful and grateful to ALLAH subhanhu wa ta’ala

An honor, so be proud of it

A responsibility, so take care of it

[RabizidneyILMA]

A nonMuslim woman brought her children to an Islamic school and wanted to enroll her kids. The administration was asking her: you know this is an ISLAMIC school right? Yeah, I know. You have to PAY to have your children here. Yeah, I know. In the end, when they realized she knew all of the info [this is an Islamic private school, etc], she explained that she wanted her children in an Islamic school because:

I know that you guys respect your parents, and I don’t want to spend all this money and then he’s [the child] abusive.

SubhanAllah, they think OUR children are respectful!



Side note Gem:

SubhanAllah, this would be so cool: If every single Muslim picked up trash when he/she saw it, and held open doors and was polite, prayed without fearing others looking at them, was a strong MUSLIM …we would be in a totally different state. In this case, why wouldn’t every nonMuslim want their children in our schools? Why wouldn’t every nonMuslim want their children to become Muslim? Want themselves to become Muslim? If every single person who knew a Muslim only knew GOOD of that Muslim, when disasters happen, when problems happen, they know it has nothing to do with Islam.

What are we doing to show America that? What are we doing to show the Middle East that? That it is only with practicing Islam CORRECTLY that we will succeed, bi’idnillah. The example of the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam was one of perfection. If we followed him, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, to the best of our ability, we would be modern, we would be cool, we would be popular, everyone would want to be like us. As Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala tells us:

“Whosoever desires honor, power and glory then to Allah belong all honor, power and glory…” Surah Fatir, v 10



Let’s stop chasing illusions of this life and just FOLLOW what He subhanahu wa ta’ala has commanded us to do to the best of our abilities! It’ll guarantee us the BEST of this life AND the Next. Is there not a better bargain?

[RabizidneyILMA]

A child that abused his father had children that abused him.



Violating rights of parents: ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala will hasten the punishment in this life and in the hereafter. It could be the children will disrespect him, he might never become a parent, etc. Anyone who offends the parents will suffer the consequences.

[RabizidneyILMA]

If you really love ALLAH, anything that offends Allah should also offend you.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Ways to know Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala exists:

Creation [universe]

Aqal

Fitrah

Wahey [revelation]

[RabizidneyILMA]

How to maximize on rewards by intention: When drink water for example: Bismillah. This is a great ne’mah from Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. I’m going to use the energy I use from this water for the cause of Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.
so just by making the intention, you get reward for drinking water.

[RabizidneyILMA]

You need to teach children about this deen BEFORE they are teenagers. by that time they are not going to be Abd'ALLAH, they are going to be Abdulfootball or AbdulMTV.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Brothers should vaccum. You’ll feel better if you do it because if she does it, she’ll take a long time.

[RabizidneyILMA]

For siblings and others [relatives]:
You have an obligation to give the naseeha, even if they get angry
Finally, fine etiquette: if they hurt you, you forgive them. If they wrong you, you forgive them.

If they cut you off, you connect with them. If they hold back, you provide for them. The reward will be multiplied for you.

[RabizidneyILMA]

Ustadh mentioned something interesting about the spouse:

You don’t want to go the first night and say ‘I have a gift for you---and it’s me.”

Realize that with intention, this whole thing [marriage] could be hasanat! It’s charity to put food in wife’s mouth!

[RabizidneyILMA]

Important etiqutte wtih the spouse:


Be cheerful: help other person really feel comfortable…smile when you talk to them. Even if you had a bad day, right before you take a step into the house, – put a stop sign, take a deep breath, do the YYYEAHHH and leave work right there, clear you mind and say Bismillah and leave shaytan behind you

[RabizidneyILMA]

The Husband should be:

Protecting of his wife and defending her, in every way. Not only financially, physically, and in terms of her honor. He has to be like HER MAN. So she can rely on him and say—yeah, he’s the man.

Sense of security

A lot of brothers don’t understand how critical this is. Make sure she feels safe and secure with you financially, emotionally and physically. She needs to feel like she has a man who really fears for her and take care of her.

If your wife needs something---GO GET IT FOR HER! And she’s carrying allll these bags and you’re just walking right by. GO AND GET IT FROM HER!

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About your marriage:
If you look at it as a gift, you’ll have a gift. If you look at it as a curse, it’ll be like that.

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The ulimah are the heirs of the Prophets, may Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala have mercy on them.

i. The flesh of the scholars is poisonous.

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What is good conduct? Moderation

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The relationship of the Sahabah with the Quran

The Quran used to come FRESH to the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam. When they received verses, the people would go out, telling everyone the news! Suddenly, the verses are known everywhere! They interacted with the Quran. When the Quran says ‘O you who believe’ it was first referring to them. So how could ANYONE say WE have better understanding, when they knew what circumstances the verses were revealed and what issues those verses addressed? When their understanding of those verse and the application of those verses were helped by the Prophet, sallahu alayhe wa sallam!

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Only 10,000 of the Companions are buried in the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam. And we know there was over 100,000 when the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam passed away. Where are all of the others? They’re all over! Because of Dawah and jihad---they left their homes and they left everything behind to deliver this message.

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Greeting the Muslims: Initiating the greeting is sunnah, responding is waajib. Should respond equal amount of greeting or it should be better [ie. if someone says Assalamu alaykum, you should respond with ‘wa alykum as salam’ or ‘wa alykum as salam warahmatulahi wabarakatahu’].

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When visiting a sick person, it is part of the adab to:

A. Cheer them up! Tell them: When Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala loves them, He subhanhu wa ta’ala tests them! inshaAllah this is a sign HE subhanahu wa ta’ala LOVES you!

B. Responding to sneeze of person. If they don’t know what to say back, take the opportunity to teach them.

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Helping your brother [or sister] is major rewards:

You never disappoint your Muslim brother. Don’t let them down because you don’t want ALLAH to let you down when you need HIM the most, subhanahu wa ta’ala. Whoever is in assistance of their Muslim brother, ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala will be in your assistance. That’s why one of the Companions was making it’ikaaf and a brother came to him and whispered and needed something. So he broke the it’ikaaf and went to help the brother. Doing something like this is more rewarding than making it’ikaaf for a longer time.

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If the person swears, like: please, please, take this from me, Wallahi, please take it from me. Don’t break the person’s oath by not taking it. Make them happy by taking it.

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Companions used to eat watermelon and have a watermelon shell fight. Helps people come together. FOOD FIGHT is haram. You’re abusing ne’mah of ALLAH subhanhu wa ta’ala.

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You should never do something that would scare or endanger a believer

ie. Pointing something sharp joking to hurt them

ie. scaring them—hide and ‘boo!’

ie. or take something from them and make that person panic

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DEFINITELY read to increase good adab inshaAllah [i know so many of us are guilty of this, including myself]:


Don’t use ‘ASKM’ or ‘SAWS’…type out sallahu alayhe wa sallam! You’ll get the reward for typing it, you’ll get the reward when someone reads it! inshaAllah. It is lack of adab to just abbreviate!

In old days, the older students of knowledge, if they didn’t have enough time to write the notes, they would leave a gap and then go home and write in that gap ‘sallahu alayhe wa sallam’, ‘radey Allahu anhu’. And what’s this, Jezaks? Just say it: Jezak Allah khayrin! Jezak Allah what? It doesn’t mean anything. It could be good or bad. Say Jezak Allah khayrin.

The danger is that those kind of words will become the word itself and the people will forget what the original word was. These are the duaas! Every time you make duaa for a believer…every time you make duaa for them in their absence, an angel is assigned by ALLAH subhanhu wa ta’ala to make duaa for you.

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About the Jewish boy who was sick and the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam went to see him and the boy accepted Islam on his bed and then passed away:

Alhamdullilah Who saved him from hellfire through the Prophet, sallahu alayhe wa sallam! The Prophet sallahu alayhe wa salam was so happy he was saved from hellfire! He, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, wasn’t going to get anything out of it! But he, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, had such mercy that he loved for him to be saved!

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To unlock a heart, you have to have the key to the heart. And the best of the Prophets [may Allah have mercy on them] was the Prophet Muhammad, sallahu alayhe wa sallam. With some people you have to have good example, some others must be hard, others must be gentle, you have to relate to them.

we need to give dawah to EVERYONE—have to have a PASSION for it! And it should be cradled with the rahma the Prophet, sallahu alayhe wa sallam was sent with

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There is no Abrahamic faiths. Abrahamic faith was only ONE. And that is of ISLAM. He was not a Jew, he was not a Christian, he was an UPRIGHT MUSLIM.



God is One. So is the religion leading to heaven.

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animals were subjugated for us to USE, not ABUSE them.

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Why is smiling considered sadaqa? It’s supposed to be a true reflection of what you feel about the person---makes the person feel good.

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Being Truthful:

This is VERY important for those who give dawah. Their statements must reflect honesty and trustworthy and accuracy. This is why all the Prophets, if there is one commonality between them, was that they were all truthful.

[John]

For siblings and others [relatives]:
You have an obligation to give the naseeha, even if they get angry
Finally, fine etiquette: if they hurt you, you forgive them. If they wrong you, you forgive them.

If they cut you off, you connect with them. If they hold back, you provide for them. The reward will be multiplied for you.

Asalamu alaykum wa rahmattallah,

From what hadith/verses the principle was derived? I may want to share it with someone and want to know it for myself.

I may look in books too insha'Allah, that would have to be at the end of the day likely.

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Asalamu alaykum wa rahmattallah,

From what hadith/verses the principle was derived? I may want to share it with someone and want to know it for myself.

I may look in books too insha'Allah, that would have to be at the end of the day likely.
wa alykum as salam warahmatulahi wabarakatahu,

jezak Allah khayr for asking for the proof. inshaAllah i'll get back to you on this once i find out, it's not in my notes.

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Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem

Alhamdullilah i'm almost done editing my notes, which means this will probably be the last round.. :( until next class, inshaAllah [CONQUEST! inshaAllah].

Al Ahl ibnu Qays--- a man came RUNNING to him and said –your brother died! [It was an unexpected, sudden death]. Ibnu Qays, may Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala be pleased with him, said, ‘I know.’ HOW?! The man asked, I was the first to come to you! Ibnu Qays replied: It says it in the Quran--- every soul will taste death.

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SHUKR is a result of SABR.

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Imagine Nuh alayhe sallam. 950 years of repeating the same exact words and getting the same exact response. He worked 24 hours, a night and during the day, alayhe salalm. He didn’t even have to punch in and out becahse he was working around the clock.

And we get frustrated after one day of non-effective dawah attempts!

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Ibunl Qayyim, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala be pleasead with him: get rid of any evil thoughts. If you fail in doing so, it becomes an idea. The thought develops into an idea if you continue [ie. You see something that triggers a thought. Immediately resist it, don’t allow it to go any further. If you fail in resisting, it will turn into a fantasy [you sit and imagine yourself there, visualizing things, becomes graphic in your mind]. When that happens—FIGHT IT!!! SNAP OUT OF IT!! Don’t allow it to go any farther. If you will allow it, it will become a desire, an urge. And if it becomes an urge and you allow it to go farther and you don’t snap out of it, you’ll start making plans, setting yourself up for doing it…like going to a place where you can get an opportunity to make that dream come true. If it becomes a plan, you have gotten very close. If you snap out of it at that point, THAT’S when ALLAH subahnhu wa ta’ala is going to reward you. If you make the intention and the niyyah, you will do it. If it happens, STOP immediately and make tawbah, because if you allow yourself to go through the same sequence of events, it will become a habit or an obsession. That’s how people develop obsession or addictions. THEN it will be very difficult for you to change it or to get out of it. [this is a summary of what Ustadh Mohammed mentioned in the class]

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Habits can be changed, you just have to have some determination behind it.

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Positive self talk for changing bad habits: It cannot be like: ‘you really have to change.’ It has to be like YOU HAVE TO CHANGE!! It must be POSITIVE SELF TALK. Shout: I believe I can do it! Just do it!!

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Make affirmations- positive self statements- about your habit change. Ie: “I am filled with SO MUCH HEALTH and vitality now that I exercise 6 times a week, Alhamdullilah!"

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Don’t say HOW am I going to memorize the whole Quran?? Say in 3 years I will memorize the whole Quran inshaAllah. Each day, memorize 1 page. Each month, 1 juz and have 2 months of review.

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Must be able to choose the right activity that will get you to your goals, and your lifestyle must be in alignment with your beliefs and principles. For example: If you make a plan for running daily at the beach and you know you have to lower your gaze, don’t make a plan to jog daily at the beach—you’re setting yourself up for failure.

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Discipline- something that you do because you have to do it, whereas practice is something you do with some passion. You combine both of these--- PRAY, and then work on connecting with salah, developing love for salah, ENJOYING salah!

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“I have ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala on MY SIDE.

Go uphill: say ALLAHU AKBAR

Go downhill: SUBHANALLAH!

Now THAT is what I call power talk!”

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What do you do when a Muslim says HI to you? You say—‘wa alaykumu hi’

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[QUOTE=John]Asalamu alaykum wa rahmattallah,

From what hadith/verses the principle was derived? I may want to share it with someone and want to know it for myself.

QUOTE]
Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
wa alykum as asalam warahmatulahi wabarkatahu
Alhamdullilah, sr UmmZahmar answered this question for me, may Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala reward her.

1. for Naseehah: The Prophet (sal Allahu `alahi wa sallam) said: Ad-Deenu n-Naseehah (the Religion is sincere advice). (sorry I don't know the source)

2. It was reported by Imams Ahmad and (Muslim in similar words.) when a man came to the Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) and said, "O messenger of Allah, I have relatives with whom I keep good relations, but they cut off relations with me, I forgive them, but they oppress me, I do good to them, but they treat me badly, should I get even with them (treat them as bad as they treat me)?" Prophet (sal Allahu `alaihi wa sallam) replied: "No, If you do so all the relations will be cut off this way. On the contrary, be generous and keep in touch with them, you will always have support from Allah as long as you stay this way."

wa Allahu ta'ala 'Alim

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wa eyakum.

Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala may not love you if youdo things or have habits that HE subhanahu wa ta'ala hates.
One of them is bad language.

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Bismillahir Rahmanir Raheem
wa alykum as salam warahmat Allahi wabarkatahu

wa eyakum.

more gems:
Allah subhanahu wa ta'ala may not love you if you do things or have habits that HE subhanahu wa ta'ala hates.
One of them is bad language.

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The ‘ulimah know a LOT about Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala. When learning about ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala —the ulimah---they KNOW Allah subhanhu wa ta’ala. It’s not just learning fiqh or something, it’s learning ALLAH [subhanahu wa ta'ala], knowing ALLAH [subhanahu wa ta'ala]…this is why they love ALLAH subhanahu wa ta’ala soo much…they know HIM the MOST! subhanahu wa ta'ala.

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subhanAllah..Umar radey Allahu anhu had two dark lines on his cheeks because of the tears he would constantly shed. Radey Allahu anhu.

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How does dua’a effect your moral and ethical values or your character? In many ways. One of which: through dua’a, you try to improve yourself. Almost all the dua’as of habib Rasul Allah, sallahu alayhe wa sallam, were about character.

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Dua is EVERYTHING---nobody can stop you from using it, and you can ALWAYS use it. Don’t consider dua’a to be the weapon of the helpless [rather, it is the weapon of the BELIEVER – listen to Shaykh Yasir Qadhi’s lectures on Dua: Weapon of the Believer. www.audioislam.com] Begin everything with dua..it reflects that you are helpess and that you always need Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala.

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Part of adab with Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala:

You never say I’m going to do something without saying InshaAllah

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Saying InshaAllah when making dua [ie. O Allah, forgive me inshaAllah]

No one can force Allah subhanahu wa ta’ala. It’s an unnecessary statement. It implies that you don’t believe HE subhanahu wa ta’ala is truly forgiving---- you should have CONVICTION that ALLAH will forgive you, rather than saying- forgive me, if You will.

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Be careful when you talk about the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam and respect the statements of the Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam. You better be SURE it’s authentic, otherwise you’re in BIG trouble.

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Zayn al Abideen rahim Allah ta’ala—the grandson of Prophet sallahu alayhe wa sallam was found against the kabah crying and begging Allah for forgiveness and he cried so much that he lost his strength and fell down crying and weeping. And a man saw him weeping and said...you’re the grandson of Rasul Allah sallahu alayhe wa sallam! And he rahim Allah ta'ala said: when they blow the trumpet, no one on that day is going to have lineage!

[Asif Alam]

Salaam:

Jazakum Allah Khairan for furnishing these...these will come handy for the exam...insha'Allah!

Ma'Assalaam

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When you love someone, you fear to upset/anger them, and you hope for their pleasure.

Develop love for Allah and the balance of fear and hope is established.

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When we hear about Jannah, we think of ourselves there.
When we hear about Hellfire, we think of others there.