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fearhopelove
10-03-2006, 01:12 AM
What if someone fasts to control desire and results in increased desire?

Say the desire increases so much during fast (it IS Ramadan) that it causes an enormous amount of stress. This stress then impounds the person's ability to be productive (school work, etc.). The person has yet to give into any urges but it will not leave their mind. While they fast, when they pray, when they attend regular halaqa's or khutbah's at the masjid, avoid contact with the opposite sex, increasing contact with fellow muslims of the same gender...and yet nothing is aiding in controlling this desire. In fact, it keeps growing considerably as time passes.

Is this even "normal"?

The person wants to get married so they do not fall into sin and to sate this terrible desire gnawing at them in every way. But marriage does not seem like a option that can be obtained at the moment. Or if it is so serious should the person seek a marriage that could be possible in order to protect themselves from major sin?

Allah yihdeena jami'an

Um Tammer
10-03-2006, 02:58 PM
May Allah help all our youth...it is hard to be young. But use your time
and extra energy for acts of worship. When you get older it becomes harder
physically and so many responsibilities weigh you down.

May Allah guide you

fearhopelove
10-03-2006, 03:42 PM
Well, as I said the person is spending as much time as they can doing religious acts of worship and when not doing that spedning time with either family or Muslims of the same gender. As I also previously mentioned, these acts are not aiding it as the desire grows more and more.

Now suggesting patience seems to be the thing to say. But this person is at risk of giving into urges at some point.

fearhopelove
10-03-2006, 06:31 PM
What if the person has lead a life of sin up until recently where they discovered Islam?

Islam has very much limited and controlled them, but they still fall into desirous sins.