Words I can STOP using right now

[yasser_z]

As salaamu alaikum,

Abu Hurayra reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "Anyone who believes in Allah and the Last Day, should speak good words or be silent." [Agreed upon]

Abu Sa'id al-Khudri reported that the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, said, "When the son of Adam starts the day, all his limbs supplicate his tongue, saying, 'Fear Allah in respect of us. We move by you. If you go straight, we go straight. If you go crooked, we go crooked.'" [at-Tirmidhi]

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One theme I came to understand in my journey of tazkiya is the effect my words had on my attitude (or is it the other way around??) :)

I also wanted to learn to speak efficiently and cut out idle talk. I wanted to cut out the excesses and exaggerations too. So I came up with a list of words or phrases to eliminate from my vocabulary.

So, what can you stop saying right now?

Here are a few that I had...

"like"
"not only that"
"what?" (to my parents)
"yo"
"siiick"
"like 5 million times"

[Sarah Mushtaq]

"dude"
"so" (along with like)
"man"
"Oh My God"

MashaAllah, awesome thread.

[Saynab]

Assalamu alaykum
"weirdo"
"like today"

[*~StRiViNg_4_JaNnAh~*]

dude, bro, man, like, hey, no way!, what the?, seriously?, chill, oh my god, and a lot more....

[RabiaM]

LOL!!! I have no idea how i ended up on this thread...

inshaAllah, i'll contribute as well! :)

"whus happenin?"
"YO! Same here!!!"
"Ya Bint!"---and I'm not even arab..lol

[Hala]

"say wallahi" {After like every sentence}

I knew it!!! =)

[Hala]

Stop using the words 'right now'. You don't have to think about them and post them. You are saying them again then, aren't ya? :)

Or you can just be writing them, without 'saying' them, right? ;]

[Rabiah - la Voyageure ©]

Hala - don't invite trouble :P

[Hala]

Hala - don't invite trouble :P

Yes ma'am.

[AKA]

"I swear"!
"WTH"
"gee, what a loser"

[yasser_z]

"I hate..."

[yasser_z]

"damn"
(outhubillah)

some people use it without realizing what they are doing... my damn pencil, the damn car, the damn traffic light, the damn door, etc. etc. outhubillah. the prophet (saw) told a guy not to ride the camel he just cursed

[yasser_z]

"wachamacallit"
"thing"
"stuff"
"interesting"

[UmmZahMar]

There is a word I wish people would stop using :)

"Dude!"

[The 2nd]

Words/phrases I should stop using:
whatever
shut up
I hate you (I don't really mean it...it's always only to one certain person)
stupid
psh...

wow, I'm a really mean person!

RabiaM - you shouldn't stop asking people to make du'aa for you!

[Hamda]

i've sadly been hooked on this one lately

'SAY WORD!!

honestly, who started this?!?

[RabiaM]

ms. 2nd

...lol, i just realized what i wrote---lol-i thought it read--"words i cant stop using"--but keep making dua' for me :)

i miss you by the way...

[redsun]

what an interesting thread, mashaAllah... here's what i need to chuck out:

"y'know?"
"i guess"--in my case, it seems to have taken the place of "yes" lol...would also be good to replace it with allahu'alam (Allah knows best) or remain silent, inshaAllah

[Bint_Khalid]

There are a few words that I wish people around me would stop saying!

-crap
-heck
-monkey (when calling others that!)
-son (it must be a city thing?!)
-idiot
-yo
-what the

I honestly have to hear these words from time to time from people who are around me and I pray that Allah guides us all to speak good or remain humbly quiet! :)

Jazak Allahu Khaire

[No.1 AlMaghrib Fan]

I honestly have to hear these words from time to time from people who are around me and I pray that Allah guides us all to speak good or remain humbly quiet! :)


i go to public school, so i hear people saying A LOOOT of stuff i don't want to hear...but since im around these people like 5 days a week, what they say really sticks in my head. so when i talk, i hear myself saying what i hear from them. and i do this unintentionally, without even realizing that im saying these things.
that's why (according to my mom) i talk like someone from the ghetto...im always saying "bro" and "man" and i somewhat have an accent...
it's actually really sad...i pray that i can stop saying these things and hang around better people so that my speech doesn't get affected

[bintOmar]

Bismillah.

In shaa Allah, I will say:

I have to...!
I must...!
I will...!

Instead of:

I can't...
I need to...
I should...

[yasser_z]

"that's retarded"

any ideas on a substitute?
maybe something forgiving and less judgemental

[The 2nd]

i miss you by the way... I misses you too ;)

i thought of another one - maaad

MashaAllah Sr. MeowMix (cute name btw), that's a good idea - we should make a list of words we can substitute for the ones we want to stop using. And that's a good list you have there.

[Omar Mumtaz]

"that's retarded"

any ideas on a substitute?
maybe something forgiving and less judgemental
One substitute could be "A'oudhubillah"
But the problem sometimes with it is the potential of offending the other person.

I remember witnessing that as a third person. One Mulsim said that in response to another and the other got really offended and said "What am I? Shaytaan??"

The point to understand is that we are seeking refuge in Allah from the evil of something and not from a Muslim brother! But still, I would only use it privately and not in someone's face.

And as mentioned in the post above, "SubhaanAllah" is probably the best to use since it cannot offend anyone insha'Allah.

[The 2nd]

There are a few words that I wish people around me would stop saying!

-crap
-heck
-monkey (when calling others that!)
-son (it must be a city thing?!)
-idiot
-yo
-what the

I honestly have to hear these words from time to time from people who are around me and I pray that Allah guides us all to speak good or remain humbly quiet! :) Ya Bint Khalid! How's it going? Thought it was time for me to "stalk" you! LOL...people really call other people monkey? It's gotta be a north Jersey thing! :p

"that's retarded"

any ideas on a substitute?
maybe something forgiving and less judgementalSh. Yaser recommended to us to say: Allah Yahdeek (May Allah guide you)

[Umm Salma]

"that's retarded"

any ideas on a substitute?
maybe something forgiving and less judgementalI guess it depends on what you're responding to.

Maybe "La howla wa la qoo wata illa billah"

Or just "La illaha illa Allah"

Yes, a good way to go about this is to list all the words you want to stop saying and give a list of substitutes. Rather than just being critical, be constructive as well.

I'd like to stop saying, "Yo." It sorta just pops out when someone calls my name. Maybe I can replace it with "Yes?"

[Ahmed Ibn Hassan]

Some words I cant stop saying are:

" Are you serious?"
" Say wallahi"
" Com On?"
" Bro man listen"

Other words too but these pop in my head quick.. insha allah im looking for subsitutes. May allah forgive out shortcommings and our wasteful words, ( As we all know that every word that we say is being written by nobel angles) Check Surah Qaf for reference.

Salaam

[yasser_z]

"that"

my english teacher taught me 99% of the time I have the word "that" in a sentence, it can be taken out.

ex.
my english teacher taught me that 99% of the time that I have the word "that" in a sentence, it can be taken out.

[Ghare Hira]

come to think of it:

"ill do it later"
"5 more minutes" (this one is like a permanent snooze button in day to day life)
"im not feeling it"

[Ghare Hira]

"that's retarded"

any ideas on a substitute?
maybe something forgiving and less judgementaljust the other day i was out with a friend and i said something similiar and alhumdulillah my friend corrected me

[Ghare Hira]

"mines"- ive heard that one before
"ugghh"- when frustrated
"naa uhh"
"seriously"
"like"

[Al-Hayaa]

after reading this, I went back to working on my assignment and a couple of minutes into it, I immediately noticed it in a paper i was editing! lol its the first time im hearing about this, but i can see now how true it is

Jazak Allah khair for the tip.. keep them coming! (veryy beneficial Alhamdulilah)wow, thats so true, im gonna go back 2 my coursework n try 2 look at th number of times i used th word 'that' unnecessarily!

jazakallahu khayran yasser!

[Al-Hayaa]

maashallah, very beneficial thread! cant believe i just saw it now!
here r some words which i use tht are not necessary at all:

neway
whateva-might sound rude
man
yea man
mmmh-might sound like im not interested

im sure there's more 2 cum inshallah....

[Al-Hayaa]

how about we put up a thread that is in the contrary, like a thread where ppl can suggest beneficial words to say in our every day life? sounds good?

[ansariyah]

how about we put up a thread that is in the contrary, like a thread where ppl can suggest beneficial words to say in our every day life? sounds good?
i like how that sounds Insha'Allah maybe beneficial replacements for the words you can't say how about everytime someone posts up a word they can't say Insha'Allah they can replace with a new word that will bring benefit
Let me begin:
Oh my God... Subhana Rabbil Archil Athem or Subhana'ALLAH
This way we can replace those old not-so-great with some rewarding words

Wallahu Alam

[Al-Hayaa]

i like how that sounds Insha'Allah maybe beneficial replacements for the words you can't say how about everytime someone posts up a word they can't say Insha'Allah they can replace with a new word that will bring benefit
Let me begin:
Oh my God... Subhana Rabbil Archil Athem or Subhana'ALLAH
This way we can replace those old not-so-great with some rewarding words

Wallahu Alam
Yes, maashallah that sounds lik a good idea.
k, my turn, bismillah

to say bi fadhlilah instead of 'why' so frequently...

[ansariyah]

Bismillah

how about instead of
I'll do it Later... try Insha'Allah (simple yet sweet)

[Mariam 3:36]

As-salaamu Alaykum wa Rahmat Allah,

I've heard this from others, and I really liked it!

They say "it-taqi-llah" instead of "for real?" or "no way!" or "Seriously?"...etc.

[Tuwaylib]

Are not some of these words just colloquial? I can see how some of the negativity can/should be replaced or the impulse to always tell someone "say Wallahi" but I find most of the others to be an issue of 'urf. You will find exaggerations and emphasis in the Arabic language. That being said, I do despise very much the 'I wish i were a gangsta' lingo.

Also, our British brother can you stop saying and spelling "innit"???! :)

[Mariam 3:36]

Are not some of these words just colloquial? I can see how some of the negativity can/should be replaced or the impulse to always tell someone "say Wallahi" but I find most of the others to be an issue of 'urf. You will find exaggerations and emphasis in the Arabic language.

I agree with you brother, and Allah knows best. I also think, however, that it is nice to change a habbit-phrase to a phrase that reminds us of Allah subhana wa ta'aala, waAllahu A'alem.

I am quoting the thread starter below. I think this is where he states his objective:


I also wanted to learn to speak efficiently and cut out idle talk. I wanted to cut out the excesses and exaggerations too. So I came up with a list of words or phrases to eliminate from my vocabulary.

[yasser_z]

They say "it-taqi-llah" instead of "for real?" or "no way!" or "Seriously?"...etc.i love this one! I am actually excited to use it. jazakallah khair!

[Al-Hayaa]

Also, our British brother can you stop saying and spelling "innit"???! :)[/QUOTE]
Yep, thats true brother about the british using 'innit' too much and can definetely be taken out! I should've put that into one of my list! its kinda hard if you've lived in that country for so long an aftr evry sentence or so, you have 2 add innit to it!

so instead of 'innit', you could say 'Allahu 'alam' cos 'innit' is short for 'isnt it', well Allah knws best really....

[Ai Tet_Gimel]

I think some of you dun really need to get rid of those words, but swears needa go, real bad,

May Allah (subhana wa ta'ala) help me and you, Ameen (Say Ameen)

AsalamuAlaykum Warahmatullahi Wabarakatuh.

[Mariam 3:36]

I gave someone their change back (I work at a store) and his reply:

"thanx mama" ??!!!!

I went to bed thinking that night someone my age called me "mama" and someone might think that was cool. Subhanallah, where are we living??!!!As-salaamu Alaykum Wa Rahmat Allah,

I ride public transportation regularly, and the other day I heard a man call a woman (stranger to him) "baby"--it sent chills up my spine. I'm pretty sure neither of them were Muslim, but Alhamdulillah for Islam...I would like to think that if a strange man saw a woman dressed as a Muslimah, he would not use that kind of language with her.

[ummati]

Asalam walikum wr wb
"like"
"wallahi"
"yea right"
"for real"

[SubhaanAllah]

another word to use to replace these "Allahu Musta'an" courtesy of Sh. Yasir Birjas :)

[sireen]

"I know eh!"
"I'm so mad!!"
"oh my god"
"Man!"

[Asha]

One thing i need to stop saying is good luck.. i dont mean it but it comes out once in awhile :(

[yasser_z]

One thing i need to stop saying is good luck.. i dont mean it but it comes out once in awhile :(subhanallah i find that non-muslims say this one all the time!

whats a good substitute?

[Asha]

subhanallah i find that non-muslims say this one all the time!

whats a good substitute?
Non-muslim are not the only ones who say this UNFORTUNATELY!
A sister just told me a good substitute
May Allah give you success
does that work?

[Serious*Ilm*student]

One thing that I keep repeating while i'm talking to people is I tend to keep saying sorry....No kidding Ahlam ;)

[Al-Hayaa]

Assalamu-Alaikum,
Ok.. so words and phrases that I need to stop using.. Saying "Oh my God", "Wallahil Adheem", and yelling "Mama!" LOL, even though we now know it's not shirk http://forums.almaghrib.org/images/icons/icon10.gif
YEP! I always used to say 'Allah Hoyoo' or 'hoyoo' (means mum in somali) with every little that wud happen! I heard that its better to just call 'Allah' rather than any1! I mean, to have tawakul in Him swt....wallahu a3lam

[Sweet Muslimah]

All the words i need to stop saying were probably already mentioned :)
ok so here's my mini list:

wtv
shut up
wallahi
ight
ur such a loser
Oh no YOU didn't!!!
that's crazy
freakin
shishhh man
theres so many other ones i cant think of..arghh

[Serious*Ilm*student]

YEP! I always used to say 'Allah Hoyoo' or 'hoyoo' (means mum in somali) with every little that wud happen! I heard that its better to just call 'Allah' rather than any1! I mean, to have tawakul in Him swt....wallahu a3lamLOL, definatly! I think alot of people call to their mothers out of habit when something goes wrong not because they think they're mothers can really help them at the moment, but yeah ofcourse it is better that you call upon Allah immediatly not a person ;).

[Sweet Muslimah]

Assalamu-Alaikum, just wondering what ight means?or did you mean to write right?http://forums.almaghrib.org/images/icons/icon10.gif Not really important LOL, just thought it might be some Canadian thing.
lol...ight is a short word for alright...i hate using that word but since i hear it all the time i end up using it here n there..

[Al-Hayaa]

lol...ight is a short word for alright...i hate using that word but since i hear it all the time i end up using it here n there..
LOL i used to say that too! those times used to be funny...when i was younger of course!

[NusaybahBintKa'aB]

FREAK
i'll see....
so what ???
who cares?!
wait
no wayyy
yes way
yuckss
urghhh
hhmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm

[brother_bruce]

Words / phrases I'm trying to eliminate the use of:

Unfortunately
Good luck
Unluckily
'That sucks'
'If [only]...'

[Mubarak]

I got a few...

1) Don’t be stupid

2) You’re too naive

3) Say Word?

4) Holla Back!

5) Like Whoa!

6) Lower your gaze playa (maybe that’s not really a bad one)

7) I’m saying though…

8) I can explain (when in fact, I cant explain)

9) It’s been a minute…

10) Catch you on the next turn…

11) What’s really GOOD!

[Nadeem R]

"
"ugghh!" (better to take a deep breath and smile)
when I do that (breathe and smile), it freaks out brothers more, because then they know FOR SURE I'm upset...

[brother_bruce]

Yes I'm actually following the same train of thought alhamdulillah... jazaks!

[Allah's Slave]

words that i cannot stop using are...
OH MY GOD, STOP IT, ALHAMDULILAH, AND YOU'RE SO WIERD..

[DesertShip]

-NO WAY!!
-liaaar!!(its saddly a bad habit)
-thts soo random!
-like 17 times!!
-snap
-ur jus jelous:P
-oh....my.....god(the ... r for dramatic affects!)
-oh my lord
-holy!
-thats jus stupid

[Alima]

-whateverrr .......im sorry i disagree with you, this is why'
-chillax
-man
-no ........maybe another time
-what
-silly

[aminah.]

- lie! (alternated with "say walahi")
- "___" much? (annoying much? , loser much?, loud much? etc.)
- creep (i use this too often, subhan'Allah).
- eww! (i reeeally want to get rid of this one, especially when referring to food!)
- oh.em.gee! (...no comment). --> this can be easily substituted with subhan'Allah.

I agree with what was said earlier about being influenced by the language we hear at school. One of the things that really helped me was pointing out to my friends when they would swear, or backbite. And alhamdulillah, its successful so far...just gotta do it a bit longer and they'll stop completely insha'Allah.

[aminah.]

And, my favourite, "still".
I think we can all agree this word is completely unecessary.

[Mujahidah101]

-You noe what i'm sayinn??
-ur pathetic
-u know gurllll
-im better than you at that a.k.a hahahaha you suckk
-meh...I could care less
-ur such a hypocritee
-thats a stupid thing to say
-omggg
-no wayy
-don't know,don't care,don't count on it:P:P

These r just a few that i'd like to take out of my vocab.