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muslimahKM
01-24-2008, 08:54 PM
Before I say "yes"

by Na'ima B. Robert

~

Here we stand, apart, not touching, not looking.

Tomorrow is our nikah.

But today, it is as if we are standing at the edge of the sea, the tide coming in to meet us.

We are almost ready to plunge into the rolling surf and swim out to the world of tomorrow, with its far-off horizon.

Families, words of praise and recommendation, questions and shy glances are behind us now.

You have seen what pleases you.

And I have seen what pleases me.

But I have not seen your heart.

And you have not seen mine.



And so now, before our fates are inextricably entwined, I will bare my heart to you.

Without reservations, I will show you the core of my being.

I am like a sapling, a tender sapling, whose roots reach eagerly to drink life’s goodness.

Take care when you hold the tender sapling between your fingers.



I was created by Allah, a delicate seed, born of my mother and father’s love.

My mother nurtured me in her womb

where an angel blew a soul into my tiny form.

My mother’s body cradled me and I breathed of her air.

She nourished me from herself and spoke love to me in the darkness.



I was born into the love of my parents and I began to grow.

Seed became seedling under their care and attention.

They showered me with praise, and my self-esteem sprouted.

They guided me with kindness and my character blossomed.

They weeded the world around me so that I could grow strong and pure.

And now that my first buds are about to open, they have entrusted me to you.



How will you tend me?



Will you coax my buds to unfurl with words of love and kind attention?

Or will you pluck them before they’re ready, crushing their new petals and delicate stems?



When I bring forth delicate blossoms of talent and inspiration,

Will you smile at their dreaming petals and share in the blush of hope?

Or will you watch as blossoms wither under your disapproving gaze,

Your criticism, your scorn, and your self-righteous censure?



Will you guide my wilder branches, gently, coaxing them to grow straight and true?

Or will you simply break off the ones that displease you, trampling them carelessly underfoot?



And when, insha Allah, I come to bear your children, will you continue to water me?

Or will you pluck those precious fruits, one by one, and turn away from the empty branches?



And when my trunk grows wide and thick with age, will you marvel at my strength?

Or will you recoil from touching my rough, brown bark?



When the years have become mere memories, will you admire how tall we have grown?

Or will your restless, selfish heart long to reach out for another sapling?



When I am as weak as the waving branches of a weeping willow – will you protect me?

When I am as strong as the trunk of the mighty Redwood tree – will you support me?

When I am as wise as the age rings of the old, old oak tree – will you respect me?

When I am as foolish as the fickle blossoms of early Spring – will you be patient with me?

When I am as fragile as the flowers of a jasmine tree – will you keep me safe?

When I am as bold as the roots that break through concrete – will you believe in me?



How will you tend me?



For now I have shown you my heart, its dreams, its hopes and fears.

Look carefully as we stand at the edge of the water.

Are you willing to bare your soul and show your heart to me?

So that I feel safe as the two of us swim on out to sea.



Remember that I am like a sapling, a creation of Allah.

Take care when you hold me between your fingers.

~

© 2005 Na'ima B. Robert

muslimah_
01-26-2008, 01:03 AM
beutiful.

Osob Mohamud
01-31-2008, 11:31 PM
Masha'Allah, I really enjoyed it! JazakumAllahu Khairun for sharing.

Sajed
02-01-2008, 01:27 AM
Salaam

MashAllah, the poem was good.

Often time brothers seem to think that the respect and obedience expected from a Muslim wife is something that is a given, irrespective of how the man treats his spouse. They often times at verbatim quote the hadith of the Prostrating Camel and such to show some sort of superiority over women. However, we forget how Nabi SAW has left nothing more precious in this world than a pious woman, and that we should not seek to change the character of a woman as per the hadith of the crooked rib; these being just two of examples of the level that women have in Islam.

I always think that when I get married inshAllah, I would never thing that respect is something that I deserve in and of itself, rather it is something earned through love, intimacy and learning. lol, Sometimes I think brothers forget that respect is also a two-way street. Anyways, I am rambling... but good job with the poem!

- Sajed

Al-Hayaa
02-01-2008, 06:25 AM
Salaam

MashAllah, the poem was good.

Often time brothers seem to think that the respect and obedience expected from a Muslim wife is something that is a given, irrespective of how the man treats his spouse. They often times at verbatim quote the hadith of the Prostrating Camel and such to show some sort of superiority over women. However, we forget how Nabi SAW has left nothing more precious in this world than a pious woman, and that we should not seek to change the character of a woman as per the hadith of the crooked rib; these being just two of examples of the level that women have in Islam.

I always think that when I get married inshAllah, I would never thing that respect is something that I deserve in and of itself, rather it is something earned through love, intimacy and learning. lol, Sometimes I think brothers forget that respect is also a two-way street. Anyways, I am rambling... but good job with the poem!

- Sajed
Wa'alaykum salaam warahmatullah, i dnt think ur rambling at all n u r right about respect being a two way thing, but i think there r very few brothers out there that think lik this (respect being 2-way) n focus more on the prostrating to your husband hadith...........well i think newy

jazakallah 4 posting, there r some places which i felt exactly th same maashallah tabarakallah.

spana3rabia
02-07-2008, 10:56 PM
beautifully poem masha ALLAH! JazakomAllahu kheiran.

Khalidah Met
02-08-2008, 02:37 PM
that's a beautifully written poem.

QTbklynmuslimah
02-08-2008, 05:21 PM
did u rite dat ur self? its really gud mashallah!

MahbubaR
02-20-2008, 01:42 PM
This is a very good poem, mashallah. As I read the poem I could picture myself from the beginning to the end. Often I fear marriage due to all the unsuccessful muslim marriages falling apart or barely staying together, due to children’s and society. My biggest fear is not finding a “real man” :) whose finest quality is his deen and taqua

Tariq Maruf
02-21-2008, 10:25 AM
Assalamu Alaikum Wa Rahmatullahi Wa Barakatuhu!

Really amazing poem! The whole comparison with the stages of a tree's life really hit it. I think all brothers should read this poem before getting married and should return to it on a regular basis throughout one's marriage.

Jazak Allahu Khairan for sharing it with us..

ammatu'rahman
02-21-2008, 12:27 PM
As I read the poem I could picture myself from the beginning to the end. Often I fear marriage due to all the unsuccessful muslim marriages falling apart or barely staying together, due to children’s and society. My biggest fear is not finding a “real man” :) whose finest quality is his deen and taqua

Subhaha'ALLAH i guess that is every muslimah's Night merer.

HiBz EsSenSe ©
02-22-2008, 12:00 PM
Asalamu Alaikumw aRahmatullahi waBrakatu

Bismillah MashaAllah, You did an amazing job with this...
May Allah increase your talent for His sake and bless you with he who will "tend" to you as your parents did *ameen*

May Allah grant this Ummah righteous spouses who will brings us closer to Him, Aazawajal and in which we will find tranquility therein *ameen*

sireen
02-28-2008, 10:13 PM
That was sooo sweet :) mashaAllah...

MahbubaR
03-01-2008, 08:36 PM
Subhaha'ALLAH i guess that is every muslimah's Night merer. It sure is, and i hope inshallah we will all be able to find our better other half, with whom we can enter paradise.

fi'sabillilah_inshaAllah
03-02-2008, 03:41 PM
finally got a chance to read it all. MashaAllah, it's beautiful :)

Sally Mahmoud
04-12-2008, 10:14 PM
As salaamu alaikum,

Great poem mashallah.

It's actually written by sister Na'ima B. Roberts, author of From My Sister's Lips (an excellent, excellent, excellent book mashallah)

what a lovely poem- thank you for sharing!

Buraq
04-13-2008, 01:41 AM
MashaAllah, what a beautiful, beautiful poem.

It was fantastic to read it.

Baraka Allahu Feekom

Durriyya
04-17-2008, 09:47 AM
MashaAllah...that was lovely! I think I have to buy this book now, even if just for this poem! (Is it a good gift to give to my friend who's getting married? along with something else of course!)