View Full Version : 60 ways to keep your Wife Happy

05-31-2008, 12:13 AM
Assalamualaykum warahmatullah:
This is for everyone who are planning to get married, married, looking for a spouse...For the sisters who are married and want their husbands to read this please do share with them inshaAllah. And there's a khutbah for sisters too:

60 ways to keep your wife happy:

1. Make her feel secure and sakinah - donít threaten her with divorce

2. Give sincere salaams

3. Treat her gently - like a fragile vessel

4. Advise in private, at the best time, in the best way and atmosphere

5. Be generous with her

6. Warm the seat for her, you will warm her heart

7. Avoid anger, keep wudu at all times

8. Look good and smell great for your wife

9. Donít be rigid or harsh-hearted or you will be broken

10. Be a good listener

11. Yes for flattery, No for arguing

12. Call your wife with the best names, cute nicknames, names she loves to hear

13. Utilize pleasant surprises

14. Preserve and guard the tongue

15. Expect, accept, and overlook her shortcomings

16. Give sincere compliments

17. Encourage her to keep good relations with her family

18. Speak about topics that interest her

19. Express to her relatives, how wonderful she is

20. Give each other gifts

21. Get rid of routine, surprise her

22. Have a good opinion of each other

23. Have good manners, overlook small things, donít nitpick

24. Add a drop of patience, increase drops during pregnancy, menses

25. Expect and respect her jealously

26. Be humble

27. Sacrifice your happiness for hers

28. Help at home and with housework

29. Help her love your relatives, but donít try to force her

30. Let her know that she is the ideal wife for you

31. Remember your wife in dua

32. Leave the past for Allah subhanahu wa ta ala, donít dwell on, dig into, or bring it up.

33. Donít act as if you are doing her a favor by working or providing, Allah is the Provider, the husband is the carrier of the sustenance to the family

34. Take shaytaan as your enemy, not your wife

35. Put food in your wifeís mouth

36. Treat your wife like she is the most precious pearl that you want to protect

37. Show her your smile

38. Donít ignore the small things, deal with them before they become big

39. Avoid being harsh-hearted

40. Respect and show that you appreciate her thinking

41. Help her to find and build her inner strengths and skills

42. Respect that she might not be in mood for intimacy, stay within halal boundaries

43. Help her take care of the children

44. Give her gifts with your tongue, be an artist with your compliments

45. Sit down and eat meals together

46. Let her know that you will be traveling or returning from travel, give her sufficient notice

47. Donít leave home in anger

48. Maintain the secrecy and privacy of the home

49. Encourage each other in ibaadat

50. Respect and fulfill her rights upon you

51. Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times

52. Kiss your wife, foreplay, ďDonít jump on her like a bullĒ

53. Keep disputes between the two of you, donít take it outside

54. Show care for her health and well-being

55. Remember you are not always right or perfect yourself

56. Share your happiness and sadness with her

57. Have mercy for her weaknesses

58. Be a firm support for her to lean on

59. Accept her as is, she is a package deal

60. Have a good intention for her


05-31-2008, 01:12 AM
These are amazing, mashallah.
I'm glad the first one is at the top of the list!!
And number 44 is beautifully worded.
Jazkallah khair roohi.

05-31-2008, 01:24 AM

**Sorry i didn't know we are not supposed to post outside links... i was just trying to cite it that way. Well it's by Ahmed Shebab and you can find his lectures on islamictube

06-26-2008, 04:18 PM
So, so good to read this. And so true it is.

06-28-2008, 10:54 AM
mashAllah jazaki allahu kheirun..
i esp liked 44 and 51
be artistic with coments.. nice nice :D
and Live with her in kindness, goodness, fairness in good and bad times
is a good way to deal or act during all times

06-28-2008, 12:43 PM
57-60 are really good mashaAllah...
They're ALL really good...

I think it's very important for him to be patient with her too...