The Fiqh of Love

[Hasan]

As-salaamu 'alaikum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh,

THE FIQH OF LOVE
Marriage in Islam
Taught by Shaikh Yaser Birjas
Feb 11-13/18-20


LOCATIONS:

Friday, Feb 11 - Houston Room in the University Center (University of Houston)
Saturday, Feb 12 - Park Plaza Hotel
Sunday, Feb 13 - Houston Room (UH)

Friday, Feb 18 - Houston Room (UH)
Saturday, Feb 19 - Park Plaza Hotel
Sunday, Feb 20 - Park Plaza Hotel

For directions to the University Center, see:

http://www.uh.edu/campus_map/buildings/UC.html

For directions to parking (which should be free by 7pm), see:

http://www.uh.edu/cgi-bin/showlots.cgi?LOT1B

For directions to the hotel, you can mapquest it at www.mapquest.com (http://www.mapquest.com)

Here's the hotel address:

8686 Kirby Drive
Houston, Texas 77054

We encourage all of you to carpool because it'll save you the hassel of finding parking and, well... it's just more fun that way. And since you can never predict the traffic situation in Houston, we advise that you leave for the seminar early.


REGISTRATION:

Please arrive on the first day at UH no later than 7:00pm so that we can take care of registration. Come even earlier to avoid the rush and to get good seats. Be sure to bring a PHOTO ID and your TUITION if you have not paid yet. YOU MUST PAY TUITION BEFORE ENTERING THE CLASSROOM. We will not be allowing students to enter the classroom without full payment of tuition and past dues. Because of previous problems, we will be very strict on this so don't forget to bring your cash, check, or money order. Credit cards will not be accepted on site, nor will sob stories. Also, remember that your seat is not guaranteed until payment is made: First pay, first serve.

To view our registration policies, please visit:

http://www.almaghrib.org/regpop.php


AGE LIMIT:

Only those who are 17 years old and up can attend this class, regardless of registration or payment status. We are making absolutely NO exceptions.


TIMINGS:

1st Friday 8:00pm to 10:00pm (registration at 7pm)
2nd Friday 7:30pm to 10:00pm

Saturdays 10:30am to 8:00pm
Sundays 10:30am to 8:00pm

Lunch breaks will be from 1:15pm to 3:00pm, Saturdays and Sundays. There will be 10 minute breaks every 50 minutes, so you'll feel like the day is flying by, in sha Allah.


APPLES VS. DONUTS:

No food or snacks will be provided due to hotel policies. You can bring your own personal snacks, but please don't eat 'loud' snacks while the instructor is speaking (e.g. Doritos). AND NO DONUTS ALLOWED! That's an AlMaghrib rule! Eat apples instead!


INSIDER'S TIP:

Don't wander off too far when going out for lunch as you don't want to return late. Also, don't eat a heavy lunch or you'll feel drowsy and won't be able to get the full benefit of the seminar.

In sha Allah, this is going to be the biggest class size in AlMaghrib history!

ARE YOU READY?!!

[Hasan]

I'm sure. If I see donuts, I'm going to confiscate them. Wouldn't be the first time.

[Hasan]

Dude, that is an awesome idea, ma sha Allah! Hotel policies won't allow food, except personal snacks. Maybe you can do like an underground date distribution thing for the bros and maybe a sister can do the same for the sisters. Just keep it on the D.L.

I can see it now. You walking thru the class at maghrib time with a trenchcoat full of dates...

BTW, bro, please introduce yourself to me at the class, in sha Allah.

Jazaakum Allahu khaira.

[faisaltai]

so is it possible to move the lunch break to maghrib?

[Hasan]

Hmmm... yet another brilliant idea, ma sha Allah!

Lemme look into it. No guarantees.

[Hasan]

Ok, we'll see what people think about that idea at the class. Someone, remind me on Friday, cool? Jazaakum Allahu khaira.

[Faizan]

I'm sure. If I see donuts, I'm going to confiscate them. Wouldn't be the first time.

what about cinamon rolls?

[Hasan]

what about cinamon rolls? يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ لاَ تَسْأَلُواْ عَنْ أَشْيَاء إِن تُبْدَ لَكُمْ تَسُؤْكُم
O you who believe! Ask not about things which, if made plain to you, may cause you trouble. [5:101]

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

so is it possible to move the lunch break to maghrib?


As-salaamoualaikoum wa rahmutAllah,

While that sounds like a very brilliant idea, I think one must consider the parents who have to go to the baby sitting(which requires the time at lunch break to travel and get food for the kids if needed ect) and also it must be considered the fact that some students are pregnant and breastfeeding and they cannot and/or will not beable to fast and actually HAVE(*meaning no if's ands or buts just because we pregnant women sometimes have to eat like every hour) to have that lunch break(my friend if she reads this she's going to laugh)...so perhaps a window can be left open for us few???

Allahumma yirzukaqum al ajr, Ameen.

[3lmir Salam]

يَا أَيُّهَا الَّذِينَ آمَنُواْ لاَ تَسْأَلُواْ عَنْ أَشْيَاء إِن تُبْدَ لَكُمْ تَسُؤْكُم
O you who believe! Ask not about things which, if made plain to you, may cause you trouble. [5:101]
Masha Allah, masha Allah

[Hasan]

As-salaamoualaikoum wa rahmutAllah,

While that sounds like a very brilliant idea, I think one must consider the parents who have to go to the baby sitting(which requires the time at lunch break to travel and get food for the kids if needed ect) and also it must be considered the fact that some students are pregnant and breastfeeding and they cannot and/or will not beable to fast and actually HAVE(*meaning no if's ands or buts just because we pregnant women sometimes have to eat like every hour) to have that lunch break(my friend if she reads this she's going to laugh)...so perhaps a window can be left open for us few???

Allahumma yirzukaqum al ajr, Ameen. Wa 'alaikum as-salaam wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakatuh,

Jazaakum Allahu khairan for pointing this out!

[Jannah]

Asalaamu Alaikum,

We ran into this issue at TPA. It was finally decided that we keep the regular lunch break but we took away two breaks and combined them at maghrib time and everyone was happy. It just might work for Hosna too. Don't let the other Durbites know I'm helpin you guys out here though.

:)

[Danish Hasan]

Adive to me and everyone else...Please take a shower before you come...300 + people in a single room ...thats pretty crazy...

You not taking a shower could cost AlMaghrib it image

[Sumiyyah]

Maybe the combinig two breaks into one long one at Maghrib sounds better than skipping lunch...because I know that there are 19 children in babysitting (including 3 of Sh. Yasir Birjas's children!)...and that means ALOT of dedicated students who have gone to great lengths to be there...so please keep the lunch as scheduled, or it would disrupt everything else...and we definately do NOT want cranky children or babysitters! :)

[alisalaah]

Yeah lunch is crucial as a break for them

[Nihalk1]

hm....by the time the class comes up...im still not eligible to take it :(

[Abdul Majeed]

Assalamu Alaikum,

Even though I will turn 15 on November 19th, but I am still not eligible to go to the class.

[alisalaah]

sooooooo how was the class. We had first night of TPA here :D

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

As-salaamoualaikoum,

MASHA'ALLAH....awesome turnout!!!(Record numbers from what I understand (Right??Someone correct me if I'm wrong).

GEM::::

Ibn Hazm RahimuAllah said:::
"True Happiness is to attach oneself to the aakhirah..."
(Wa Allahu 'Alem)

Also::
Ibn Hazm (R) said in reference to his love of his life when he was age 16(he was in love with a blonde slave girl but she was very stubborn- so it's like an 'incomplete love story' that he tells);Here is the softer side of Ibn Hazm, the Sword of Al- Hajjaj,
"When she was playing the lute, I felt she was beating my heart with it...."

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

As-salaamoualaikoum,

Sis Summayya gets so much credit because without her kind help I couldn't have easily attended FOL :D..(Ana ba7ibik ya Summayya fillah injaad) Hey share some of your awesome notes mine look like chicken scratch...(but as long as I can read them :-) )

[Sumiyyah]

JazakAllahuKhairan, Oum AbdurRahman!

Hey I see a post of yours last night at 12:45 and then this morning at 6:00am...I guess you got NO sleep just like me!

(too excited, I guess?) ;)

[Sumiyyah]

Masha'Allah! The class is so awesome so far...Beautiful setup....sound system excellent...view of instructor/powerpoint clear...kids happy in babysitting...Alhamdulillah, Allah has blessed us...what more could we ask for?

[alisalaah]

Seeing Allah's face in Jannah :D Allahuma ameen.

The people of Jannah will get everything and Allah will ask them what else do you want until they will say nothing (what else could we ask for?). Then Allah will remove the veil and we will see the blessed face of Allah, inshaa' Allah.

Ya Sister Sumiyyah, I pray that Allah makes you and I one of those who say "what else could we ask for?" in the next life and get this blessing. Allahuma Ameen

[سمر]

siigh... im at home crying right now... j/k im not really crying im just sad because i really wanted to go :(. i turn 17 in march. oh well, don't forget to post your gems!

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

As-salaamoualaikoum,

I know this is a very simple gem but okay I will post it:

"Deal w/the tests of love by making dua'ah(referring that we are tested with khair and with evil) so if one is confused, just make dua'ah that the one you love becomes your khair in this life and the here after."

"Opposites attract:::Icy cold leads to a flaming fire."

[sabirah]

as salaamu alaikum:

when Shaykh Yaser quoted ibn Hazm (i believe it was him) n said (not an exact quote):
If you haven’t loved passionately you’re nothing but an animal/donkey so get up and eat some hay.
i thot that was funnyyyy :)

subhan'Allah, during our group activity, we all realized that Islam promotes love, and culture totally taboos it, even if its totally halal love b/w spouses. I think we should all jus follow Islam, cuz culture causes too much confusion...

[sheik speare]

assalamu alaikum,

i heard a prominent scholar state that after Bareera RA turned down the request of Mugeeth RA in the presence of RasoolAllah SAW, Mugeeth's RA feelings towards Bareera RA began to change drastically. in turn she started chasing him, but there was no 'happy hollywood' ending to this. Sheik Yasir Birjas said theres no validity to this though, so im stuck in a bind :(

whatever it be, the lesson learned is still one of great importance.

and Allah Almighty knows best.

sheik speare.

[nightsofworship]

Bismillah hir Rahman nir Raheem


SubhanALLAH! :) The classes are verrrryyy good, Alhamdulillah.

~Oum AbdurRahman~: I got goosebumps when you shared your gem with me at the table... I thought it was really beautiful, mashaAllah! :)


It's also SO nice to see Sister Sumiyyah back! She's also one of the sisters who convinced us to come to these classes in the first place, as well as Sabirah! <-- remember that! :)


Well, one really interesting thing I got out of the classes so far was during our group discussion. One sister made a REALLY good point about the 2nd question (If love is mentioned in the Qu'ran and Sunnah and the Prophet (salAllahu alayhi wassalam) and his Companions practiced it, why are people not able to show it at home today?) She said that at the time our parents came to this country (which is where most of us have grown up and live), they were so worried about just making a living here, that their focus was not really based on the smaller aspects of their marriage. They were just fighting to survive (sure they were probably a very strong couple, b/c they've made it through until now, but it wasn't a very "easy" life as to where they got used to being comfortable showing affection at home). That's why it's not too common to find couples who have that background showing that kind of affection. On the other hand, they had to raise their kids (us) in a full-blown western society. Which means, they had to worry more about keeping us away from this idea of "love" rather than promoting it in our lives. In a sense, they had a complete backwards reaction to the whole showing love and affection issue.... to protect us from all the fitnah that has developed in our societies. HOWEVER, if you look at today's generation, Alhamdulillah, due to the hard work of our parents, we can live a little bit better and more comfortably than they did, and young couples do try to follow the Sunnah in their married lives (which includes being able to show love and affection at home.) We're slowly getting there (inshaAllah.)


The last question also had a good answer: Why is love not discussed in our Islamic gatherings? I know marriage is always discussed everywhere we go, but this topic of love has been often avoided, and it has developed into a taboo more or less for the same reason as mentioned above. While most of the young people who are attending these lectures are probably in relationships themselves (I mean, non-halal relationships), promoting and encouraging love to them will just be another excuse for them to continue what they are doing. Most often when people talk about love in Islamic gatherings, they have to discourage it, b/c so many people are doing it (the wrong way.) Another thing a sister in our group said is that most of the speakers at these gatherings are men, and well, men just aren't as "mushy mushy" as women! :)


I hope you all enjoy our last day of this weekend... can't wait till next weekend, too!


Assalam u 'alaykum wa Rahmatullah

[nightsofworship]

Bismillah hir Rahman nir Raheem

Assalam u 'alaykum wa Rahmatullah

SubhanAllah, I remembered something while Shaykh Yasir was telling us that the Jews have similar marriage contracts to the Muslims. I have a book called, "Symbols of Judaism" published by Barnes & Noble in which they speak of the different aspects of Judaism. The section on the Marriage Contract is written, "The Ketubbah" (as it is said in Hebrew.)

Here is an excerpt from the book: "Under the Huppah, the Rabbi or person conducting the wedding ceremony puts before the bride and groom (the Khaltan and the Kallah) a "marriage deed," the ketubbah. Literally, the word ketubbah means "that which is written," an abbreviation of the expression "written commitment."

The ketubbah, which is inaccurately translated as a marriage contract is, in fact, a divorce insurance. It guarantees that in the event of an official separation the husband will give the wife enough money to live on for several years, for however much time it takes her to find a stable situation. It is a standard legal document which is signed by the future husband in the presence of two witnesses before the wedding and given to the young wife during the ceremony.

Written in Aramaic, this document enumerates the husband's obligations, especially financial, to his wife on a daily basis and in the case of a divorce."

That is an amazingly close comparison to the contract and ways of Islam! :) True enough, the origin of both systems is from Allah, but theirs has of course also had it's share of changes, whereas ours has not. I just thought it would be something interesting to share, inshaAllah. :) (*The bolded sections are what are very similar to our ways/meanings/etc., and please do correct me if I'm wrong!*)

Assalam u 'alaykum!

[nightsofworship]

Bismillah hir Rahman nir Raheem

Assalam u 'alaykum

....

A gem that I had was about the very cool idea that Allah created woman from the rib of a man. Well, I was thinking about this, because a lot of things like this that are mentioned in the Qur'an or in ahadith often have symbolic meanings, too. In the form of an analogy, the man represents the whole body while the woman represents just one rib. If one compared their size, it would seem that the man dominates the woman, hands down. However, if we think of the role of each, there would be no structure to the body if there was a bone missing (and at that, one from the ribs... which is what protects the heart.) So, I think Allah made a beautiful lesson in that for mankind, that it seems the norm for man to be the totally dominant, prominent and possibly the more empowering of the two, yet He gave women the role of being the support and the "backbone" that the men need in order to survive. (Well, it’s worded a little bit different on the gem board, but that's b/c I couldn’t exactly write all of ^ that!) :)

Let's share more gems, peoples!

Assalam u alaykum wa Rahmatullah

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

As-salaamoualaikoum,

*GEM*(This occured to a special friend of mine during our group meeting :::

"A woman will respect her husband 1,000 times over if he's righteous."

(Here is my addition to this) What is the meaning of righteousness in this context?

A man who follows Allah Azza wa Jal and His Rasul 3leyhi salat wa salaam, in action, and with ihsaan. SO the good manners and character, would automatically mirror that of what is beloved to Allah Ta'ala and His beloved Rasul Allah 3leyhi salat wa salaam, if the husband is righteous(And this GEM can easily be reversed too I think).
(A husband who is righteous , saalih, he will automatically want his mizaan (scale) to be heavy, by striving to have good manners.)

*Also Another GEM that I think I have really found so profound always is:::
"BE the one , that you want to marry(as in set the example by being all those qualities you'd want to see in your spouse-And INSHA'ALLAH, Allah Azza wa Jal, will grant that blessed special one, to you without limits."

[Sumiyyah]

I think one reason LOVE is not really mentioned is because it is part of the Fitra of a human being. In fact, even animals feel a sense of love.

I still think people need to learn how to show this love properly, especially if they grow up in an environment where they do not see it, but this may be one of those things that Shuyookh and teachers think unnecessary to go over, feeling it may be redundant or a waste of time.

ANyway, I think the main thing that we need to focus on is teaching our children Halaal from Haraam in terms of Love. They should know exactly what is permissible in Islaam.

For example, I and many of my friends, growing up, never even realized that things such as kissing, for example, were halaal! (Since our parents never did it or told us about it).And the problem is only magnified when the child happens to see something that their parents should have hidden. And even to an older age, there is a whole generation of youth who feel very uncomfortable when their parents suddenly decide to show affection after years of nothing. SubhanaAllah!

We need to let parents realize that their children learn alot about love through how they see their parents at home.

So, just as many couples never argue in front of the children, they should remember about the opposite and show more affection in front of them (the things that are permissible to show). Allahu'Alam.

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

..........

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

I think one reason LOVE is not really mentioned is because it is part of the Fitra of a human being. In fact, even animals feel a sense of love.

I still think people need to learn how to show this love properly, especially if they grow up in an environment where they do not see it, but this may be one of those things that Shuyookh and teachers think unnecessary to go over, feeling it may be redundant or a waste of time.

ANyway, I think the main thing that we need to focus on is teaching our children Halaal from Haraam in terms of Love. They should know exactly what is permissible in Islaam.

For example, I and many of my friends, growing up, never even realized that things such as kissing, for example, were halaal! (Since our parents never did it or told us about it).And the problem is only magnified when the child happens to see something that their parents should have hidden. And even to an older age, there is a whole generation of youth who feel very uncomfortable when their parents suddenly decide to show affection after years of nothing. SubhanaAllah!

We need to let parents realize that their children learn alot about love through how they see their parents at home.

So, just as many couples never argue in front of the children, they should remember about the opposite and show more affection in front of them (the things that are permissible to show). Allahu'Alam.

I loved the part where it was mentioned, that(not exaaact quote some words might be different than the Sheikhs but same meaning) "Love is natural, and it is out of your control. HOWEVER it is how you react to it, that is what you will be held accountable for, on the Day of Judgement."

It was also amazing to have it pointed out, as to actually how big of a cultural bias we face today. Today, in so many places a woman who is divorced is automatically looked down upon. Where as in Islam, this was not something looked down upon at the time of RasulAllah 3leyhi salat wa salaam, it was normal, she was either widowed or divorced, and then quickly she got remarried, just like that, no big deal. But now days since the religious are few, and the non religious are widespread, they gossip and spread slander, out of lack of knowledge and understanding of the deen la howla quwwata ila billah. But alhamdulilah, the knowledge is that valuable light we have to strive to keep alive, in our hearts as mu'mineen.

[ZkrofAllah]

asalaam o alaikum...i would like to know exactly what is the meaning of "Awrah"...i know the sheikh Yasir Birjas explained it in class but can anyone clarify it cause ppl have different opinions on it...jazakallahu khair

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

As-salaamoualaikoum wa RahmutAllah,

Bismillah hir Rahman nir Raheem

Assalam u 'alaykum

A couple of things us sisters were talking about in the car later included the topic of polygny (I think that’s how it’s spelled.) Then, one of the sisters mentioned something that Shaykh Muhammad AlShareef had said in one of his lectures. He said that he would never marry another wife, even though it is permissible, just because it his duty to fulfill the rights of his wife and one of them would be to never hurt her (as a pious, and righteous husband would never, ever want to do.) He said that on the Day of Judgment, he would still be questioned for why he hurt his wife, and therefore, he wouldn’t marry more than one.


Sa7, you are right, a pious righteous husband would never want to hurt his wife in any way. HOWEVER, sh. Yasir Birjas had mentioned, that one can gain the pleasure of RasulAllah,(so it's a matter of which deed is more virtuous-right? Wa Allahu 'Alem which one is though) 3leyhi salat wa salaam, by having more children in order to increase the Muslims, so naturally polygany could be the means one takes in order to do so.(Please does anyone have this hadeeth he was referring to written down, I didn't get it word for word.)

Also, imagine the rewards a righteous brother would earn from Allah Azza wa Jal, for saving a sister from having to face a life of constant fitnah, for relieving her of her distress(perhaps Allah Ta'ala would relieve him of one of the trials on the day of Judgement, because he saved a muslimah from harm and relieved her of an extreme hardship masha'Allah, especially now days where fitnah is found where ever one goes.)*There is a hadeeth I'm referring to but I don't have enough knowledge to interpret it..)

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

asalaam o alaikum...i would like to know exactly what is the meaning of "Awrah"...i know the sheikh Yasir Birjas explained it in class but can anyone clarify it cause ppl have different opinions on it...jazakallahu khair

Wa aleikum Salaam,
This is what I wrote in my notes:::
"Awrah= The Shame, private parts, the legal parts that need to be covered.

Man- Navel to knees
Malikis : Thighs of man or NOT a part of Awrah, and Sh. Bin Uthaimeen RahimAllah holds this opinion, however one must BLOCK all means to evil and cover the thighs in public.

For Women:
Awrah= All of the body

Please look here at this link::::
http://islamqa.com/index.php?ln=eng&ds=qa&lv=browse&CR=437&dgn=3

and you will find a lot of the info you'd need on this subject.(I'm sorry that I don't know a website that speaks about Sh. Al Albani's opinion but someone insha'Allah might. Actually this is what Sh. Yasir had suggested we do, search for it on the internet, and then make your own decision, because this leads to a very, sensitive and deep tabloid issue, that the scholars themselves disagree upon. But let it be known, that Sh. Yasir holds the personal opinion that the niqaab is more pure( wa Allahu 'Alem correct me if I'm wrong) And he mentioned that those ladies who strive to adhere to the complete and correct hijaab, are like mujahideen fi sabilillah. So imagine the virtues of covering the entire body including the face and hands, not only that, it is an act of purification of the soul. (Wa Allahu 'Alem, please please someone correct me if my information is wrong or incomplete, or if you wrote something down different). Also, my own input,imagine the 3izz, or honor, wa Allahul Mu3iz,(the Giver of Honor) a sister earns, and the respect she automatically and unknowingly commands, when she covers her entire body,
when she does this fil sabilillah. Not only that, she draws nearer to Allah Azza wa Jal because of her patience in doing this deed. What more could one want,--being near, to Allah, Rabbul 3alemeen.

[Faizan]

I was wondering why this class didnt have a poetry contest like the BOC had... with all the poetry that we are learning from all the scholars maybe we should have our own poetry contest as well... so hasan can we insha'Allah?

[UmmSarah]

.... that the scholars themselves disagree upon. But let it be known, that Sh. Yasir holds the personal opinion that the niqaab is more pure( wa Allahu 'Alem correct me if I'm wrong) And he mentioned that those ladies who strive to adhere to the complete and correct hijaab, are like mujahideen fi sabilillah. So imagine the virtues of covering the entire body including the face and hands, not only that, it is an act of purification of the soul. (Wa Allahu 'Alem, please please someone correct me if my information is wrong or incomplete, or if you wrote something down different). Also, my own input,imagine the 3izz, or honor, wa Allahul Mu3iz,(the Giver of Honor) a sister earns, and the respect she automatically and unknowingly commands, when she covers her entire body,
when she does this fil sabilillah. Not only that, she draws nearer to Allah Azza wa Jal because of her patience in doing this deed. What more could one want,--being near, to Allah, Rabbul 3alemeen.
Assalaamu alaikum,

The face/hand-covering issue is one where the ikhtilaaf is perfectly valid. Both opinions come from worthy scholars and both are supported with strong proof. However, only one opinion can be the correct one. One should earnestly study this issue for herself in search of that correct opinion.

Note:

Opinion One says that uncovering the face is permissible and that covering it is recommended.

Opinion Two states that uncovering the face is haraam and that covering it is waajib.

So, generally speaking, covering the face is either permissable or obligatory upon us, and uncovering the face is either permissible or haraam for us.

The safer choice is obvious.

Add to that what Sh. Yaser mentioned about examining how hijaab has been practiced throughout history and you will see that covering the face has been part of the hijaab. Even today, if you visit villages in the various corners of the Muslim world, villages that have not suffered western influence, you will find that the women still cover their faces. Why was the niqaab so widely practiced throughout history?

Both of these points were also stated by Dr. Muhammad Al-Jeezaanee, who teaches Usool ul-Fiqh at Al-Madeenah University, in an Usool ul-Fiqh workshop on ikhtilaaf.

Wallaahu a'lam

[سمر]

Assalamu Alaikum,
Does anyone know if it takes a while for the cd to come out?

[Faizan]

is there any way i can get a new folder? i have a very good reason...

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

Assalamu Aleikum, Oum Abdurahman, i'm not sure which hadith you are referring to, i think Shaikh mentioned the first one, someone correct me if i'm wrong, but i found the following ...

Abu Hurayrah (RA) reported that Allah's messenger SAW said :
Get Married, because i will be exhibiting your large numbers (on Judgement Day) --- Ibn Majah

Also reported by Aisha (RA) that Allah's messenger (SAW) said Marriage is sunnah of mine; and whoever does not follow my sunnah is not of my followers. Get married because I will display your outnumbering of the other nations on the day of Judgement. -- Ibn Majah

In another hadith, Ma'qil Bin Yasar (RA) reported that a man came to Allah's messenger (SAW) and said"i encountered a woman of honor and beauty, but she cannot bear children. Should i marry her?" SAW indicated disapproval by saying "Marry a woman who is loving and can bear many children, because i will boast of your large numbers (on the day of Resurrection) --- Abu Dawud

Hope this helps inshallah


Wow jezak Allah khair dear sis for this! Shukran! These are exactly what I was referring to alhamdulilah.

[sabirah]

Assalamu Alaikum,
Does anyone know if it takes a while for the cd to come out?i think it does take a while, cuz teh only cd sets that are out are touched by an angel and now the fiqh of dawah.wAllahu alam.
but im hoping they get this 1 and BOC out fast, i cant wait for that 1!!

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

As-salaamoualaikoum,

Here is a GEM masha'Allah from my dear friend who couldn't attend the class, but she is like the one I mentioned before who has Phd, and masha'Allah reads fiqh books all day and takes notes on lectures from the internet::::


"Love is an obsessive delusion that is cured by marriage" or: "marriage is an obsessive delusion that is cured by love."


The first part is the islamic point of view...the second one is the western point of view...in the west marriage is considered to be something out of date and 'love' is freedom...but with this love comes socalled free sex and this ends up in broken marriages, zina and other sins...all in the name of love...it is reacting to our wills, whims and desires while marriage as correcting love is the religous morals governing these wills, whims and desires...the last part is basically what ibn Qayyim said in the article you sent me....in the west we tend to overvalue Love with a big L......while love sec is just a will and whim while marriage and love within marriage is lasting and solid, and after all, according to the design of our Creator."

[*mina*]

Masha Allah...

Jazaks to everyone who has been posting. The quotes and gems [hidden among the many posts] that HAVE been posted, so far, are deep. Knowing they come out of the mouths of prominent people juss makes 'em worth so much more than the crazy perceptions of love that literally surround us today and incorrectly possess the minds of even Muslim youth...this class opens up a whole new face on "love" for islam that many people think is wrong/doesnt exist. Insha Allah so many people will benefit by hearing the real stuff. The entire romantic/realism deal all in one package.

I'm currently taking "The Purification Act" and it is awwwesome, of course! >Yeahhh< Major props to Sheikh Abdul Bary Yahya. May Allah reward him, insha Allah. He puts a great twist on teaching wudu and Salah, even just the basic things. And wow, all the different opinions supported with daleel are so enlightening and make all the differences easier to understand, alhamdulillah. I'm sure everyone here knows what I'm talking about. :) Others, you juss gotta take it to know.

The beauty of this AlMaghrib class is that once its done, everyone will be sad, but we only have to wait two weeks before another class, Fiqh of Love, rolls around for us...insha Allah 'n alhamdulillah. :D

Challenge: Bring on the gems! [more of them and bigger 'n better 'n strong onez] insha Allah

Wa-Assalamu Alaikum...

[Danish Hasan]

is there any way i can get a new folder? i have a very good reason...

i think theyre 20 bux...allahu alim or maybe register for the class again 165 bux...man faizan hate to be you

[Yaser Birjas]

hmmm...I see many posts but not so many gems, what is happening here? Where are the gems of THE FIQH OF LOVE? :(

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

**GEM**::::

"If you cover your entire awrah(correctly) fi sabil illah, you are like a mujahidah"

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

As-salaamoualaikoum,

Here is another gem:::
(Forgive me that I did not write who quoted this, however it really sticks out in my mind: )
"Love is food and nutrition for the soul, as food is for the body."

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

Here are some more Gems:::

"Love based on passions will not last, lasting love is based on dua'ah AND understanding it's realities."

"Open love bank accounts, and keep your check book balanced with beautiful deeds."

[sheik speare]

assalamu alaikum :)

so is there a poetry competition or no?

ma'salama
sheik speare, the faqhi of love.

[ZkrofAllah]

Asalaam o alaikum....... GEM*** The Prophet Mohammed (saw) said "There isn't anything better for the ones in love than Marriage!!!" .....~jazakallahu Khiar to those who answered my question ~

[nightsofworship]

bismillah hir rahman nir raheem

assalam u 'alaykum

here's a gem:

*When the western females were happy with covering themselves, it was something like work that took away their modesty. Allah has not made work obligatory on females (and He Knows All~ so we can imagine that this would be one reason why it is not mandatory on us.) However, although our jobs aren't as laborious as theirs (working in factories, etc.) we have other excuses to start shedding our modesty, too... no one will hire us, we'll be discriminated, and the list goes on. There is no excuse good enough to excuse the obedience of Allah.*

Assalam u 'alaykum wa Rahmatullah

[bint Abu Fazil]

Actually, worl was not what changed the modesty of the western woman. Every immigrant in this country worked no matter the gender, but it was the high influx of money in the early 1920's and the idea that women outside the homes were happier. In history books "Rosie the Riveter" is covered yet wearing a guys clothing. The western world lost its modesty in thinking that women can be exactly like men. in losing their femininity they lost everything.

[muballigh]

"love is of the essence"

....oh wait that was from this other class that i took

[~Oum AbdurRahman~]

Here is a Gem (it's kind of silly, because it refers to how the Arabs used to hold the custom that if a man loved a woman, he would go and compliment her camel[Or otherwise it would be extreme shame for a man to openly express his love]):::

"Ya jamel, ya 3ainy................!"

("Oh my camel, oh my eye!")

(*Also keep in mind, that in places like Falasteen, it's a slang word to use the word "jamel"(camel) for like a really beautiful woman or a really cool thing ,you know it wasn't like a chicken, nor a duck, nor a cow, no it was like camel(so big and amazing), or she wasn't beautiful accept that she was like a camel(in beauty) wa Allahu 'Alem atleast in Gaza this in known! I find that so funny!)
Also the use of the word "ya 3ainy" is so common like they use it in songs all the time to mean "oooh my eye, what it has seen..." It's like their is a really popular song (estaghfirAllah) from Egypt called "3ainy" it's kind of funny-just thought I'd point that out since maybe some might get confused.)

[Danish Hasan]

Man i want to get me a camel...gas is expensive

[Sumiyyah]

GEM from someone I know that has to do with Love....

"I can't believe this is actually halaal!"

Alot of times we grow up thinking that love (the kind that happens between a man and woman, the kind you grow up seeing and wish you could attain...) is not a part of Islam. Sure, we know all about respect and caring, but somehow that other component...that other part of love that makes someone "not want to be cured from the sickness"...that part seems "shameful" or 'haraam".

Alhamdulillah, Allah has created this feeling and He has made it halaal. This is something the Priests who can not marry will never experience; this is one of the reasons for the "problem" they face.

Imagine the feelings of love we will Insha'Allah face in Jannah?!

[UmmSarah]

In an ideal Muslim household the wife is the Minister of Interior Affairs while the
husband is in charge of Foreign Policy and Affairs.

[shahid_a]

As-Salaamu-alaikum! These forums are so cool Alhumdulillah - we can communicate with Al-Maghrib students all over the country. Well so far the classes my family and I have taken are...Touched by an Angel, Breach of Covenant, the Dawah class, and now TPA. Been reading the gems in this thread. I wanted to ask - do you think this is a good class to take with your family? (i.e. parents, teenage siblings). Or is it more for married couples?

JazakAllah for your input,
Aminah

P.S. Samina Aunty, if you are reading this I send my salaam! :)

[Faizan]

GEM: sacrifices and comprimises are the fuel for your tank of love and you better fill it up with premium

[Sumiyyah]

As-Salaamu-alaikum! These forums are so cool Alhumdulillah - we can communicate with Al-Maghrib students all over the country. Well so far the classes my family and I have taken are...Touched by an Angel, Breach of Covenant, the Dawah class, and now TPA. Been reading the gems in this thread. I wanted to ask - do you think this is a good class to take with your family? (i.e. parents, teenage siblings). Or is it more for married couples?

JazakAllah for your input,
Aminah

P.S. Samina Aunty, if you are reading this I send my salaam! :)


AssalamuAlaikum!

I definately think this is a class for the ENTIRE family...and I think that everyone should ESPECIALLY bring their parents, since in most cases, parents do not understand about Love and what Islaam has allowed. Often parents are much harsher and more strict than even Allah in these matters. In fact, I think that the problem with youth not being able to marry at an earlier age or being forced to marry for the wrong reasons is in large part due to the ignorance of parents in this matter.

So please please please EVERYONE try to bring at least one parent to The Fiqh of Love! Do not be ashamed in matters of your religion!

(Obviously it's fun taking it with your spouse for other reasons, but I probably don't need to get into that...) ;)

[Its a Green Day]

Asallamu Ailaikum

Im allowed to chace my wife in the house, in a fun manner. and InshAllah i shall

Asallamu Ailaikum

[AbdulHasib]

Love is a vessel one can use for benefit or harm,
You can taste from wine or you can taste from milk.
Astounding are it's impacts, truly a wonder of the creation...

If the creation can love SO much...
Think of your Creator....

Love, mercy from your Lord.

WAllahu A'lam

[Abu Ubaydah]

Love is a vessel one can use for benefit or harm,
You can taste from wine or you can taste from milk.
Astounding are it's impacts, truly a wonder of the creation...

If the creation can love SO much...
Think of your Creator....

Love, mercy from your Lord.

WAllahu A'lamAs salaam 'alaykum Abdul Haseeb,

Masha'Allah bro, nice one!

Did you put this on the gem board bro? If you haven't, well, you know what will be the first thing you will be doing coming week insha'Allah. :)

Jazakum Allahu Khairan
Was salaam 'alaykum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakaatuh

[AbdulHasib]

As salaam 'alaykum Abdul Haseeb,

Masha'Allah bro, nice one!

Did you put this on the gem board bro? If you haven't, well, you know what will be the first thing you will be doing coming week insha'Allah. :)

Jazakum Allahu Khairan
Was salaam 'alaykum wa rahmatu Allahi wa barakaatuh
HayyaakAllah Ameer,

We love you for the sake of Allah awj. :)
----

another gem:
Ibn Hazm, Tawqal Hammamah " Weeping is a well-known sign of Love; except that men differ very greatly from one another in this particular..."

How many can say we've wept out of Love for your Creator... where you see day and night those that weep for the creation....

NasalAllahul a'feeyah..

WAllahu A'lam

[alisalaah]

Mashaa' Allah it is such a mercy the love we have for eachother in this dunya, and the greatest blessing of this dunya is a pious spouse.

May Allah make us all truly enjoy our marriages and make them strong ameen

[Yasser Ibn Amr Ibn Al'aas]

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:


“There are three who are entitled to Allaah’s help: the mujaahid who fights for the sake of Allaah, the slave who made a contract of manumission with his master, wanting to buy his freedom, and the one who gets married, seeking chastity.”

(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1655; al-Nasaa’i, 3120; Ibn Maajah, 2518; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1917).

To all the singles here, you're messed up if you don't get married NOW :D :D

[Yasser Ibn Amr Ibn Al'aas]

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:


“There are three who are entitled to Allaah’s help: the mujaahid who fights for the sake of Allaah, the slave who made a contract of manumission with his master, wanting to buy his freedom, and the one who gets married, seeking chastity.”

(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1655; al-Nasaa’i, 3120; Ibn Maajah, 2518; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1917).

To all the singles here, you're messed up if you don't get married NOW :D :D


I looooooooove this hadeeth. I got married, when I got married two years ago, relying on this hadeeth! I sure didn't, at all, by any means, regret it!

الحمد لله الذي بنعمته تتم الصالحات

[Yaser Birjas]

I looooooooove this hadeeth. I got married, when I got married two years ago, relying on this hadeeth! I sure didn't, at all, by any means, regret it!

الحمد لله الذي بنعمته تتم الصالحات

I believe you %100 brother, I have been married for 7 yr. Alhamdulillah and I did it based on this hadith, and you won't believe it...it's like a miracle...isn't it ;) ?

[Yasser Ibn Amr Ibn Al'aas]

I believe you %100 brother, I have been married for 7 yr. Alhamdulillah and I did it based on this hadith, and you won't believe it...it's like a miracle...isn't it ;) ?

Right on sheikh! :)

Now back to the gems of the class.

I think that the main GEM from the class, that completely changed my prespective of our scholars, is the nice, kind-hearted and compassionate personalities they had. It's almost like a pattern between all of them.

I KNOW that ALL of the students remember the story of Imam AsSan'aanee rahimahullah with his students. He accepted the intercession of his wife over the intercession of everyone else in the city. But that really wasn't the amazing thing. Being married, I know that I better fulfill the intercession of my wife or else I won't be happy for a couple of days. The REAL amazing thing is that, although he lived in Yemen, where the Arabs originated from, he wasn't ashamed of his students to come out to the class knowing that his students know that he came because he obeyed a *woman*. He even went further and said what he said !!!

That in itself pushes me to relax and give up the *built-in shame* of obeying our wives in certain matter, specially in arab culture.

I ask Allah to soften our hearts and aid us to please our spouses and push each other forward to join Muhammad and his companions in Jannah.

Ameen!

[John]

Asalamu alaykum wr wb,

Shaykh Yaser didn't you study at Medina and so how did you get married? Was it by long-distance relationship? I'd like to know how that works out or what's the case.

Anyone else who knows what that is like please let me know.

I'm happy for my brothers and sisters in Islam too :)

Asalamu alaykum wr wb

[Yaser Birjas]

Asalamu alaykum wr wb,

Shaykh Yaser didn't you study at Medina and so how did you get married? Was it by long-distance relationship? I'd like to know how that works out or what's the case.

Anyone else who knows what that is like please let me know.

I'm happy for my brothers and sisters in Islam too :)

Asalamu alaykum wr wb

I married after graduation, I couldn't before :)

[syams]

It was narrated from Abu Hurayrah (may Allaah be pleased with him) that the Messenger of Allaah (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) said:


“There are three who are entitled to Allaah’s help: the mujaahid who fights for the sake of Allaah, the slave who made a contract of manumission with his master, wanting to buy his freedom, and the one who gets married, seeking chastity.”

(Narrated by al-Tirmidhi, 1655; al-Nasaa’i, 3120; Ibn Maajah, 2518; classed as hasan by al-Albaani in Saheeh al-Targheeb wa’l-Tarheeb, 1917).

To all the singles here, you're messed up if you don't get married NOW :D :DInsha ALLAH... I'll get married when the time comes. For right now, seek knowledge about the Deen and marriage! FoL is awesome!:)