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Old 06-03-2005, 07:51 AM   #1
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Unhappy silence in this case is not so good

is it haram to stop talking to someone?.. i heard the maximum is three days u can go without speaking with someone.. someone please enlighten me.. also wat if the person that u weren't talking to was one of ur parents.. i guess this makes it worst... i need advice, how would u go about it? it has been a couple of wks... what would u say?... im in a awkward predicament..
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Old 06-03-2005, 05:49 PM   #2
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Re: silence in this case is not so good

Assalamo alaikum!

The simple advice: If you made the mistake of not talking to your parents for any amount of time, you should go back to them, talk to them and apologize most humbly and unconditionally for this (no if's and's or but's).

Even if they had done something unjust to you (that started this problem off).

Given the circumstances, this may be a bitter pill to swallow, but this is what you must, must, must do.

Wassalamo alaikum.

P.S. The humiliation of the aakhirah is far, far worse than any humiliation in this world. Remembering this point may help you in trampling and overcoming your ego.
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Old 06-08-2005, 03:32 PM   #3
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The humiliation of the aakhirah is far, far worse than any humiliation in this world. Remembering this point may help you in trampling and overcoming your ego.
that was an AMAZING reminder!!!
jazaka Allahu khaira

i gtg home and call my mommy...salamat
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Old 06-09-2005, 10:10 AM   #4
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Re: silence in this case is not so good

In the condition of not talking to ones parents, as Daeef Jiddan has put it, I cannot disagree at all. Allah (swt) has made it haram for us to against our parents unless they force us to go against the Qur'an and Sunnah.

"And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in you life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor." Surat Al-Isra' 23

If we are not even aloud to say a word of disrespect to one's parents what gives us the right to do anything greater than that? Insha'Allah ta'3ala, we should all try to have little more patience especially when dealing with parents. WAllahu ta'3ala '3alam
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Old 06-09-2005, 11:07 AM   #5
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i called....buuuuttttt no answer!
lol...don't worry Qamar..i dont think she's upset with me or anything..i just haven't spoken to her in a while
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Old 06-11-2005, 01:32 AM   #6
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jazakAllah khair for all ur replies... it really put things into perspective, u need little reminders like this now and again...


thnx again

p.s. we're talking now
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Old 06-18-2005, 07:11 PM   #7
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p.s. we're talking now
This is very good news, alhamdulillaah...
 
Old 06-19-2005, 02:20 AM   #8
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wow . thats awesome. im so happy this forum can bring about things like this mashallah!!!
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Old 06-29-2005, 12:02 AM   #9
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Re: silence in this case is not so good

assalaamu 'alaikum,

what about if you are considering moving to another state for a better Islamic environment for your kids but your parents don't want you to move away from them? what is more important then?

wassalaamu 'alaikum
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Old 06-29-2005, 12:21 AM   #10
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walaykumassalam Sister,

Have you considered asking them to move with you? May Allah SWT rectify your affairs, Insha Allah. Wassalamualaykum.
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