silence in this case is not so good

burger_ring · 06-03-2005, 07:51 AM

is it haram to stop talking to someone?.. i heard the maximum is three days u can go without speaking with someone.. someone please enlighten me.. also wat if the person that u weren't talking to was one of ur parents.. i guess this makes it worst... i need advice, how would u go about it? it has been a couple of wks... what would u say?... im in a awkward predicament..

Daeef Jiddan · 06-03-2005, 05:49 PM

Assalamo alaikum!

The simple advice: If you made the mistake of not talking to your parents for any amount of time, you should go back to them, talk to them and apologize most humbly and unconditionally for this (no if's and's or but's).

Even if they had done something unjust to you (that started this problem off).

Given the circumstances, this may be a bitter pill to swallow, but this is what you must, must, must do.

Wassalamo alaikum.

P.S. The humiliation of the aakhirah is far, far worse than any humiliation in this world. Remembering this point may help you in trampling and overcoming your ego.

Dua'a · 06-08-2005, 03:32 PM

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The humiliation of the aakhirah is far, far worse than any humiliation in this world. Remembering this point may help you in trampling and overcoming your ego.

that was an AMAZING reminder!!!
jazaka Allahu khaira

i gtg home and call my mommy...salamat

Amirah · 06-09-2005, 10:10 AM

In the condition of not talking to ones parents, as Daeef Jiddan has put it, I cannot disagree at all. Allah (swt) has made it haram for us to against our parents unless they force us to go against the Qur'an and Sunnah.

"And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in you life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor." Surat Al-Isra' 23

If we are not even aloud to say a word of disrespect to one's parents what gives us the right to do anything greater than that? Insha'Allah ta'3ala, we should all try to have little more patience especially when dealing with parents. WAllahu ta'3ala '3alam

Dua'a · 06-09-2005, 11:07 AM

i called

....buuuuttttt no answer!

lol...don't worry Qamar..i dont think she's upset with me or anything..i just haven't spoken to her in a while

burger_ring · 06-11-2005, 01:32 AM

jazakAllah khair for all ur replies... it really put things into perspective, u need little reminders like this now and again...

thnx again

p.s. we're talking now

06-18-2005, 07:11 PM

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Originally Posted by burger_ring

p.s. we're talking now

This is very good news, alhamdulillaah...

burgundy · 06-19-2005, 02:20 AM

wow . thats awesome. im so happy this forum can bring about things like this mashallah!!!

muslimah77 · 06-29-2005, 12:02 AM

assalaamu 'alaikum,

what about if you are considering moving to another state for a better Islamic environment for your kids but your parents don't want you to move away from them? what is more important then?

wassalaamu 'alaikum

UmAmna · 06-29-2005, 12:21 AM

walaykumassalam Sister,

Have you considered asking them to move with you? May Allah SWT rectify your affairs, Insha Allah. Wassalamualaykum.

06-03-2005, 07:51 AM	#1
burger_ring Ummat Muhammad Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: australia Posts: 24	silence in this case is not so good is it haram to stop talking to someone?.. i heard the maximum is three days u can go without speaking with someone.. someone please enlighten me.. also wat if the person that u weren't talking to was one of ur parents.. i guess this makes it worst... i need advice, how would u go about it? it has been a couple of wks... what would u say?... im in a awkward predicament..

06-03-2005, 05:49 PM	#2
Daeef Jiddan Ummat Muhammad Join Date: Feb 2005 Location: USA Posts: 378	Re: silence in this case is not so good Assalamo alaikum! The simple advice: If you made the mistake of not talking to your parents for any amount of time, you should go back to them, talk to them and apologize most humbly and unconditionally for this (no if's and's or but's). Even if they had done something unjust to you (that started this problem off). Given the circumstances, this may be a bitter pill to swallow, but this is what you must, must, must do. Wassalamo alaikum. P.S. The humiliation of the aakhirah is far, far worse than any humiliation in this world. Remembering this point may help you in trampling and overcoming your ego.

06-09-2005, 10:10 AM	#4
Amirah Staff Join Date: May 2005 Location: Ottawa Posts: 1,895	Re: silence in this case is not so good In the condition of not talking to ones parents, as Daeef Jiddan has put it, I cannot disagree at all. Allah (swt) has made it haram for us to against our parents unless they force us to go against the Qur'an and Sunnah. "And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in you life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honor." Surat Al-Isra' 23 If we are not even aloud to say a word of disrespect to one's parents what gives us the right to do anything greater than that? Insha'Allah ta'3ala, we should all try to have little more patience especially when dealing with parents. WAllahu ta'3ala '3alam

06-09-2005, 11:07 AM	#5
Dua'a Qabeelat Ansar Join Date: Nov 2004 Location: Ottawa Posts: 1,212	Re: silence in this case is not so good i called....buuuuttttt no answer! lol...don't worry Qamar..i dont think she's upset with me or anything..i just haven't spoken to her in a while __________________ "Allahuma inni ureedu an laa ureeda illa ma tureed." "Oh Allah, I desire to not desire except that which you desire"

06-11-2005, 01:32 AM	#6
burger_ring Ummat Muhammad Join Date: Jun 2005 Location: australia Posts: 24	Re: silence in this case is not so good jazakAllah khair for all ur replies... it really put things into perspective, u need little reminders like this now and again... thnx again p.s. we're talking now

06-19-2005, 02:20 AM	#8
burgundy Ummat Muhammad Join Date: May 2005 Location: East coast Posts: 397	Re: silence in this case is not so good wow . thats awesome. im so happy this forum can bring about things like this mashallah!!!

06-29-2005, 12:02 AM	#9
muslimah77 Ummat Muhammad Join Date: Mar 2005 Location: DC Posts: 27	Re: silence in this case is not so good assalaamu 'alaikum, what about if you are considering moving to another state for a better Islamic environment for your kids but your parents don't want you to move away from them? what is more important then? wassalaamu 'alaikum

06-29-2005, 12:21 AM	#10
UmAmna Qabeelat Majd Join Date: May 2005 Location: mississauga Posts: 77	Re: silence in this case is not so good walaykumassalam Sister, Have you considered asking them to move with you? May Allah SWT rectify your affairs, Insha Allah. Wassalamualaykum. __________________ *~~ "And know that your possessions and your children are but a trial and that surely with Allah is a mighty reward." [Qur'an 8:28]** I ask Allah to forgive me and you and all of the Muslims from every sin. Turn to Allah in repentance for surely He is The Oft Forgiving and The Most Merciful.

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