The Official ROE gems

[Raheel bin Ramadan]

The Official ROE Gems

Ideal Discarded

Under appreciating my mother, mother, mother, and father.

~Banu anonymous~

Ever thinking that aklaq was something that could be learned anywhere and anytime and not needed to be focused on.

~banu anonymous~

InshaAllah I have discarded some of the frustration I feel with my non-Muslim parents who do not understand where I am coming from. InshaAllah I will increase in my patience and kindness towards them

~Banu Haizoom~



The thought that maybe I should avoid my mother because of her disappointment in my Islam-way of life how that I am muslim.

~Banu Anonymous~



I am one who finds it hard to openly show affection…especially to those I love the most.

The Homework of asking my mother to forgive me was done in a way similar to pulling off a band aid…Quickly as to reduce pain.

InshaAllah this activity will help me to discard this shyness with my mother and help me to degrade myself at her feet

~Banu Haizoom~



TRASH: impatience and ego

~Banu haizoom & Banu Ibrahim (working together for the sake of Allah)~



TRASH: Envy, Hasad, Backbiting, ego, and “Prince Charming” the man, the myth.

~Banu Haizoom~

Contrary to popular belief, being humble doesn’t = pessimisim. We must replace it with optimisim!

~Banu Kifah~

Ideal Muslim

Lower Gaze

~Banu Sideeq~

Lowers his gaze~ All the way!

~Banu Sideeq~

Sail in his boat along with his wife and children, geared towards the pleasure of I in all walks of life

~Banu Sideeq~

Prophet Muhammed salla Allahu alayhi wasalam

~As sideeq~

The Ideal Muslim man is one who gives MORE to his wife than just her rights.

~Banu Haizoom~

Wears Black and white Thawbs

~Banu Kifah~

Cares for his sisters in islam

~Banu Kifah~

Honesty with himself

~Banu anonymous~

Has intention of memorizing the quran

~Banu Kifah~

Be my Teacher in Islam

~Banu Kifah~

Understanding of the wife’s past and the wife’s change

~Banu Sideeq~

Be an example to the family

~Banu Ibrahim~

Understanding of different people

~Banu sideeq~

Not to spend so much time on books, rather he should read the quran.

~Banu Anonymous~

Lowers his gaze!!!!! Modest in all aspects.

~Banu kifah~

Haya

~Banu Haizoom~

Love more than he loves me

~Haizoom~

Fears I

~Banu Kifah~

Humility à shoot your ego

~Banu Anonymous~

Good Akhlaq

~Banu Ibrahim~

Respectful of not only my parents, but also his

~Banu sideeq~

Helps me improve in deen

~Banu Ibrahim~

Strives to be the best

~Banu anonymous~

Controlling their anger

~Banu Ibrahim~

His control over his gaze

~Banu ibrahim~

Does not judge by looks, instead he judges by the heart

~Banu Haizoom~

Know how to communicate in a polite manner

~Banu Anonymous~

Has sincere Taqwa

~Banu Ibrahim~

Patient

~Banu Ibrahim~

Anger Management

~Banu Anonymous~

Good Character

~Banu ibrahim~

Unselfishness

~Banu Kifah~

Stick to your word

~Banu Ibrahim~

Religious

~Banu Anonymous~

Compassionate

~Banu Ibrahim~



Hes gotta be dependable/reliable—be my mountain, always there.

~Banu Ibrahim~

Be an Islamic role model for me- My imam, so that I can live and worship freely in my home without worrying about a conflict of our lives- and keep good Islamic company so I feel secure in our social structure.

~Banu Kifah~

Copey the prophet in all aspects

~Banu Ibrahim~

Ideal Learned

“I learned Ethics”

~Banu Anonymous~

Once a discussion turns into an argument, pull out.

~Banu Ibrahim~

Majority of men surveyed in an experiment consider their wives to be their best friend- in contrast wives consider someone else to be their best friend.

~Banu Haneef~

“Receiving the rights without demanding them is better than receiving them after demanding them.”

~Banu Haneef~

“Fulfill your obligations you will get your rights, if not in this life, then the next life, bidhnillah”

~Banu Haneef~

Attitude

Fear is only a egative attitude if it is applied to any other than Allah

~Banu Siddeeq~

“Allah gave me 4 limbs. He took one and left me with three.”- 3utbah ibn Az-zubayr

~Banu Anonymous~

There is no protector, except Allah subhanahu watala

~Banu Haneef~

There is no protection except from Allah

~Banu Kifah~



When some one asks you how you feel, respond by one word that describes HOW you feel, then say alhamdullilah.

~Banu Kifah~



I would rather be patient in obeying Allah than be patient during the punishment of Allah.

~Banu Kifah~


“May Allah have mercy on the one who presents to me my faults” –Umar bin Alkhatab

~Banu Haizoom~



Going into something ready to do it, wanting to, eager to start will effect your performance and success. Try it. Tell yourself and convince yourself you love doing something you may not be up to doing. It will make the process much easier

~Banu Haneef~

If you are arrogant, think about these:

1.“Sayyida waladi Adam, wala Faqe” (Leader of the peogemy of Adam, and no pride)

2.Do you kno who I am? “Basharum mim man Khalaq”

“you are one (man) of creation”

~Banu Anonymous~

Matters of Manners

Husn al khuluq is dynamic always trying to perfect all aspects of virtue and character seen in men (and woman too).

~Banu Haneef~

Your Family has a right over you. We should strive harder to look better for our wives than our male friends. –Do not neglet your weekends!!

~Banu haneef~

The amazing model

• The incident when the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasalam responded to sahabas comment to give a wink. Its not befitting for the prophet to be khayan
• Imam shafie was TWELVE when he gave fatwas
• The prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasalam’s absolute devotion in all things related to the world and the hereafter.\

The patience

~Banu Hayzum~



inspiring to do good and forbid evil

~as-sideeq~

Anyone could approach the prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings upon him)..anyone..subhanAllah

~Banu kifah



The fact that every time Mohammed salla Allahu alayhi wasalam got mad, he, instead of taking revenge, he was kind, he controlled his temper and in return he was kind.

~Banu sideeq~

The prophet did not want to have any extra praise

~Banu Ibrahim~

The prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasalam stayed and listened patiently to a woman even though she had mental problems until she said her last words.

~Banu Ibrahim~

The Fine Line

“Balance”

May Allah have mercy on he who presents my faults to me – but the line is ver fine between telling someone off, and giving them positive feedback… When you have the certain “tone” in your voice (you know what im talking about!!) you don’t want to really help the person so WATCH IT!!

-Banu Ibrahim



Balance comes from sincerity

-Banu Sideeq



We need to know the fine line between making jokes and makin fun of friends

-Banu Kifah

Taqwa is like walking through a mine field, if you don’t watch your step in the dunya, you will be blown away in the akhira.

~Banu Haneef~

Unity and ikhtilaf

à Sunnah v. Biddah

à islam v. kufr

à iman v. shirk

-is down with the mannerisms of your akhlaq and the precursors of your adab”

~ Banu Haneef~

The Hadith defines every line, by what is good and bad.

~Banu Kifah~

Defining haram is more that a one liner, “This is Haram”. Each one of us can detect haram with our own moral meter based upon the criteria in the hadeeth of an-nawwas

~Banu haneef~

“Haram-o-meter” (referring to our conscience)

~Banu Haneef~

There is not much benefit or us in listening to the stories of pious men, and just passing it.

~Banu kifah~

“The ummah has aqeedah problems and those that ascribe themselves have akhlaq problems..”

~Banu anonymous~

Knowing fully well, the mannerisms of akhlaq and adab, leads one to ponder: if you say you are following the quran and sunnah and preach the quran and sunnah; YET people are disdained or displeased with your akhlaq/adab. KNOW FOR SURE you are in reality in one aspect or another not following the quran and sunnah.

~Banu Haneef~

You cannot stop learning

~Banu Haneef~

• Changeàgrowthàsuccess in short term as well as long term, among Muslims and non-Muslims.
• implement what you have learned, what you already know and don’t stop improving
• alm is not which you have memorized, but that which benefits you

~Banu Ibrahim~

You have to conceive it, and believe it, before you can achieve it~

~Banu anonymous~

Positvity will get us through life. In general we tend to have a negative out look in life. Moreover, when we interact with others or have conflict with one another this usually stems from our “win vs. lose” mentality. In a state of conflict we want to join and make the others lose. Never the less, we should have a win vs. win mentality. In an argument we are probably trying to change some one else, in reality the only person we can change is ourselves. So if some one is making you angry or upset, don’t try to make your opponent lose by escalating your anger and worcening the situation. Rather one should wrk on controlling their anger and temper by allowing the other to win. Because if in the end you have controlled your temper and are respectful to your fellow brother or sister you will be the winner. For you have followed the sunnah of the Prophet salla Allahu alayhi wasalam. By the will of Allah you will probably achieve the desired behavior of your opponent in this manner any ways. In the end your desire to change you Akhlaq and Adab will only come from the strength of your conviction, will and intentionality. In other words, learn to have full dedication to your values and belief in Allah.

~Banu haizoom~

Ideal improved

Recognizing akhlaq is necessary and can be implanted in all situations in one way or another

-Banu Anonymous



If your parents, especially your mother can’t rely on you, neither can anyone else.

-Banu Anonymous



One who does not appreciate his parents, especially his mother, cannot appreciate anyone else.

-Banu Anonymous



What is the biggest room in the world? The room form improvent.

-Banu Anonymous





Improving my adab towards my siblings

~Banu ibrahim~

My awareness of my faults and realized that I should continue to give because I deserve noble character.

~Banu anonymous~

The way I think

~Banu Kifah~



My relationship with my mother…

~Banu anonymous~

My manners

~banu kifah~

Desire to spend more time with my parents.

~banu haizoom~

Trying to be upright and righteous in my speech

~banu haizoom~

My manners with those I know and even more with those I do not know.

~Banu Haizoom~

I hope I impoved my outlook and attitude towards my parents and that putting myself in their shoes will help my better understand/appreciate them.

~banu kifah~

Ideal Enjoyed

Everything learned in the class can be put into immediate practice à my favorite al maghrib class by far.

~Banu anonymous~

Without akhlaq the 5 pillars of islam is like a home with no walls, no AC, no power, no water, just a bare concept.

~Banu Anonymous~

“Is the shaytan related to you?”

~Banu Anonymous~

One morning I busted out laughing remembering or picturing Sheikh abdul bari Yahya’s smiling face, when sheikh Muhammad Faqih asked him about doing push ups. mashaAllah sheikh abdul Barries smile.

~Banu kifah~

The entire class – it was a life improving experience.

~banu anonymous~

Stories of how the Sahabah spread salam to each other.

~banu anonymous~

Jokes and massages

~banu anonymous~

Mekkan mekki

~Banu Haizoom~

Stories of how ayahs from the quran affected the sahaba

~Banu Haizoom~

Sheikh Muhammad’s “Pan American” smile

~Banu Haizoom~

Ideal Acquired

Effective time management

Taking advantage of lost moments that might help me find my way to jannah

~Banu Haizoom~

Awareness that my actions and reactions reflect what I truly value and believe

~banu haizoom~

Respect for my mother because it is true that her love is unconditional. If you were to rip out her heart and trip while running away, her heart’s only comment would be “Are you hurt?” subhanAllah, and may Allah protect us from ever hurting or disrespecting our mothers. AMEEN!

~Banu Kifah~

Increased my desire AND need to improve myself and seek more knowledge.

~banu haizoom~

A deep respect for learning and knowledge

~Banu Haizoom~

Improving my adab towards my siblings!

~Banu ibrahim~





Actually listening to my parents instead of looking down and letting it go though my ears.

~Banu Ibrahim~

It does not matter how you say it or what you mean, what matters is how they took it.

~Banu ibrahim~

Sidq puts you in the pursuit of virtue, and sabr gets you going

~Banu ibrahim~

Ideal Muslimah

“My Wife”

~banu sideeq~

Modesty

~banu anonymous~

Please be content

~banu anonymous~

Must be a hijabi

~banu ibrahim~

Some one who gives me a good beating if I do not get up for fajr

~banu kifah~

Not every guy is Amitb-Bachan…He shouldn’t be

~banu anonymous~

Hour al ayn

~banu anonymous~

Modest, comforting, and able to rear my kids well

~banu ibrahim~

Modesty, honesty, sincerity

Banu-asideeq

Who asks questions which make some sence

~banu anonymous~

Encourages Islam to my children

~banu ibrahim~

“Please don’t expect guys to be romantic, we do not really know what that means. We need your help.

~banu haneef~

Kind obedience and soft speech.

~banu siddeeq~



Understands and knows that I will not be the essence of perfection. Have disagreements and comprehends me in all my rights and responsibilities of her… knowing this, inherently she will know I will always be there

~banu haneef~

To fear Allah in every aspect of her life

~banu sideeq~

Always happy no matter what happens

“If you can get confidence from er, than she is perfect”

~banu ibrahim~

Some one who encourages grpwth of iman and is patient in following islam

~banu kifah~

The important thing

We make deals with Allah (subhanawata’ala) when we are in trouble, “get me out of this and I promise I will do this..” or “ ill never do this” Just Feeling guilty @ the moment is not enough!!

-Banu Kiffa7



ROE inspired me not to tell my dad the Chai he make for me tasted VERY bad, alhamdullilah

-Banu Sideeq



Ihsan

-Banu Ibrahim



to treat everyone with resect!!

-Banu Ibrahim



Respect your parents

-banu sideeq



To improve our Aklaaq we must have desire, we must be DESPERATE!!

-Banu Ibrahim

Matters of manners

No manners, no success

-Banu as-sideeq



Be the person for whom qabool is placed in the heart of people

-Banu as-sideeq

[Mujahid]

Assalamu 'alaykum wa Rahmatullah,

Corrections needed.

This one is under the heading of "Attitude"

There is no protection from Allah

~Banu Kifah~



This one is under the heading "The Amazing model". I, personally, feel very uncomfortable using or reading words like "got mad" when talking about Prophet Muhammad (sallAllahu 'alayhi wasallam).

The fact that every time Mohammed salla Allahu alayhi wasalam got mad, he, instead of taking revenge, he was kind, he controlled his temper and in return he was kind.

~Banu sideeq~

Jazaakumullah khair.
Wassalamu 'alaykum.

[Raheel bin Ramadan]

Jazakalhukahir for catching that brother, it has been edited. But i dont quite understand your stance towords the second gem.

Originally Posted by Mujahid

This one is under the heading "The Amazing model". I, personally, feel very uncomfortable using or reading words like "got mad" when talking about Prophet Muhammad (sallAllahu 'alayhi wasallam).

The fact that every time Mohammed salla Allahu alayhi wasalam got mad, he, instead of taking revenge, he was kind, he controlled his temper and in return he was kind.

~Banu sideeq~

Jazaakumullah khair.
Wassalamu 'alaykum.

This love that we show for our beloved prophet just boosts my imaan. Even though the words used in the above Gem might've hurted our feelings, we understand exactly what its writer meant, which is the benefit that these gems bring to our hearts. May Allah reward you for this great effort and help.

Raheel, jazakum Allahu khayran for you and your team for posting this!

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JazakAllahkhair for posting these beautiful, uplifting and inspiring words of wisdom, Raheel.

barak Allahu feek