How do you want to die?

Abu Abuua · 04-05-2010, 11:59 AM

Assalamu'alaaikum,

Death is INEVITABLE!

"Every soul shall taste death" - alQur'an

It doesn't matter;

YOUNG or OLD

POOR or RICH

MALE or FEMALE

CHILD or ADULT

HEALTHY or ILL

..... or .....

Death will find you at the appointed time and place!

The question,

HOW DO YOU WANT TO DIE?

Abu Abuua · 04-05-2010, 12:33 PM

Someone very close to me, who lived a very simple life according to the teachings of the Qur'an and Sunnah and who was loved by everyone (that's no exaggeration).

He was in his front room, "Wa'laikum ussalaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuhu", he replied. His family (those who were present) were in the sitting room were left baffled as to who granddad was speaking to. They went to see who the visitors were. To their shock there was no one present in the front room and granddad had passed away. Innalillaahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon.

His Janazah.

When it was time to take the Mayyit to the Masjid, it was literally impossible for a few individuals to escort the coffin, but rather it was passed along on a bridge of people all the way to the Masjid he constructed and was once the imaam off.

I want the Angels of Death to give me Salaam when they take my soul, inshaAllaah. And i want a sea of people at my Jannazah as the Prophet (saw) said, [font='Arial', 'sans-serif']"If a Muslim dies and the people who pray the Janazah (funeral) prayer for him total one hundred, and all of them intercede with Allah and ask Him for forgiveness for the deceased, then their intercession will be accepted."[/font]

Nisreen · 04-13-2010, 09:41 AM

Assalaamu 'Alaikum Warahmatullaahi Wabarakaat

This is an email I got from someone:

Please pass on the following information to every Muslim you know, your Islamic studies, Qur’an teachers people of knowledge , sheikhs imams and masjids those who may benefit .

Recently in my family there were 4 successive deaths alhamdullilah all were good ending, infact amazing endings.

Its been a se’real experience, and I feel that perhaps Allah has put me in this position so that I may convey the glad tidings of those who do good that for them awaits a beautiful reward especially the patient. Please pay special attention to the dreams mentioned.

I have given everyone mentioned a Qunyaa (Nickname) for confidentiality. There is a total of six stories four good ends and 2 bad endings

There were a few more amazing stories, but due to time constraints I have been unable to mention them. inshallah this will suffice, if any one else knows of similar stories (good and bad) please share with everyone, perhaps our hearts may be effected . Ameen.

’’And those who are blessed, they will be in Paradise, abiding therein for all the time that the heavens and the earth endure, except as your Lord will, a gift without an end’’.

{11:108}

‘’The description of the Paradise which the Muttaqûn): have been promised! -Underneath it rivers flow, its provision is eternal and so is its shade, this is the end (final destination) of the Muttaqûn (pious - see V.2:2), and the end (final destination) of the disbelievers is Fire’’.)

{13:35}

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Good Ends

Story : 1 Umm Assia

Died: Ramadan 1429 September 2008

Cause of Her Death: Initially Cancer in the stomach, which was treated, but then later reoccurred, this time in her head causing her sever head aches. The Doctors didn’t realise until, she only had a short while left to live.

Umm Assia was a young sister, 24 years old, married with a 1 year old daughter. The death took place some time in the middle portion of Ramadan this year , (2008/1429) My mother, Aunties and Uncle attended the Janaza .

Her Death: She had developed cancer in her head which caused painful headaches she suffered for quite some time with this. When the doctors told her she was going to die soon. she was just calm, and reassured her mother not to worry. In the last days she stayed in a bedroom in her mothers house. Her mother said in those days before her death all you could hear from that room was the constant sound of beautiful Qur’anic recitation & the shahdah etc.

at the janaza Umm Assias mother said I still her the Echos of her recitation Whenever the pain would reach an unbearable level she would just say ‘’ALLAHUAKBER’’

The Janaza: The Masjid was full of Muslims coming to pray over her. My mother was telling me how surprised she was to see that, as this was a weekday, in Ramadaan in a community that does not normally see many people attending Janazas full stop, let alone a weekday. But this Janaza was very different.

Everyone just kept praising her saying she was such a lovely girl she was, ‘’a kind humble good girl’’. My Mother said her face was shining bright and beautiful, she said ‘’her face was shiny and beautiful when she was sleeping’’

‘’For those who have done good is the best (reward, i.e. Paradise ) and even more (i.e. having the honour of glancing at the Countenance of Allâh جل جلاله) Neither darkness nor dust nor any humiliating disgrace shall cover their faces. They are the dwellers of Paradise , they will abide therein forever.’

{10:26}

The Person She Was: by profession she was a Qur’an teacher at her local\ Madrasa .A women who was content in living simply, not taken in by the glitter of life. She married at the age of 21, and died at 24, she was a very quite and loving person, she served both her grandmothers and her mother.

My mother said the people were saying she use to just sit by her grand mother talking with her. Umm Assias mother said she never gave her (the mother) any trouble as a child ,before she married or after, she was not like other young girls her age wanting to go out all the time. She was a blessing. She also mentioned that Umm Assia use to read the Qur’an a lot.

After she married her and her husband moved far away from Umm Assias Mother, so Umm Assia wanted to move closer to her mother. Her husband found a small council house that was right next to the masjid, and she was so happy for this small humble house only because it was next to the masjid, she kept saying take it take it! She would talk about how she would be able to hear the adaan now.

Story: 2 Abu Sara

Died: Dhu 'l-Hijjah1429

Cause of His Death: He was suffering from some illnesses for quite some time

His Death: He was getting ready to pray salah he had just made Takbir and he died, Subhannallah the difference of less then a minute, if Allah had willed he could have taken the soul of this man before the salah, or after, but Allah chose to take his soul in salah, and on the day of judgment this man will be raised in state of waduu and in salah

The Janaza:

A few days before his death his family said it was as if he knew he was going to die ,and that he just kept making duaa for his daughter (in the U.K)

The Person He Was:

He was a very humble kind and generous man; he truly truly honoured his guests, a family member described as having a very big heart, that though he did not have much yet he gave sooo much to people. He was very good to people.

’’Those whose lives the angels take while they are in a pious state (i.e. pure from all evil, and worshipping none but Allâh Alone) saying (to them): Salâmun 'Alaikum (peace be on you) enter you Paradise , because of (the good) which you used to do (in the world)."

{16:32}

Story: 3 Umm Aaylia

Died: Dhu 'l-Hijjah1429 December 12th December 2008 5 days after Eid Al Adha .About an hour before Saltul Jumma

Cause of Her Death: Cancer of the stomach, and Tuberculosis.

The Prophet, salaallaahu `alayhi wa sallam said: - "Getting killed in the Path of Allaah ta`aalaa is martyrdom,
- [death in] confinement during childbirth is martyrdom,
- [death by] getting burned [by accident] is martyrdom,
- [death by] drowning [by accident] is martyrdom,
- [death due to] tuberculosis is martyrdom,
- [death due to] stomach ache is martyrdom."

[Tabaraanee, Ahmad, authenticated by al-Albaanee]

She had just returned after travelling to many countries visiting family. She was totally fine then all of a sudden two weeks before Eid al Adha I think she got ill and was admitted into hospital. Initially the doctors thought I to be TB, she seemed quite fine, at the time, but then her stay in hospital was prolonged, the doctors then started testing her for various diseases they were unsure but kept saying there was a possibility that it could be cancer or both. Right till her death and even now were not quite sure weather she had Stomach Cancer, Tuberculosis or both. At this point in time she had a dream which Inshallah I will be discusses below due to its’ significance.

The doctors had then said that her survival was hit and miss, a day after that that they gave her 48 hours but the next day she died.

Just like in the case of Umm Rayeesa everything happened so quickly all of a sudden. One minute she was fine the next she was in hospital and then we were attending her Janaza.

Her Death: Umm Aaliyas story is almost identical to Umm Rayeesahs story (story 4 below) only the ending is more amazing. The two ladies were distantly related, they knew each other. In fact Umm Aaylia visited Umm Rayeesah a few days before Umm Rayeesahs death, only back then none of us knew Umm Rayeesha would die, or even that Umm Aaylia was even suffering from cancer let alone that we would soon be attending her funereal just a few weeks later.

Subhanallah the two ladies are even buried in the same grave yard (Gardens of peace in Chigwell London) just parallel to each other. Subhanallah! How Allah brings together the righteous in life and in death.

As mentioned above during the stage when the doctors were conducting various tests, Umm Aaliya had a dream that she was drowning, after that dream she was very scared of what was ahead and she kept saying her goodbyes to everyone. She knew she was going to die, even though everyone kept trying to assure her but she was certain. Even her family didn’t actually think that she would die.

Eid Al Adha was on the Monday. At that that time we all thought that she’d get better, but 3/4 days later her condition worsened and she was in and out of consciousness, she was put on a heavy oxygen mask, on the Friday of that same week, she became very weak My Auntie (Umm Aaliyas daughter) said Umm Aaliya wanted the oxygen musk to be removed it was causing her pain, but they (her family) did not want to remove it. Umm Aaliya kept saying ‘’Behind this mask is Malikal Moout’’ ‘’behind this mask is Malikal Mouut’’ (angel of death),My Auntie told me she (Umm Aaliya) wanted to go she wanted to return to Allah but the family wanted to hold onto her, and would not remove the mask. The room was full of people all concentrating on her.

Umm Aaylia then began talking to someone (not the people in the room), saying ‘’Yes’’ ‘’Yes’’ (in Urdu)

Her family then removed the heavy oxygen mask to replace it quickly with a lighter musk, but in seconds between the changes of the masks Umm Aylia died, and no one even noticed until a while later.

Her death was so smooth it was as if her soul just slipped out of her body as, someone would just fall asleep.

Her death took place at around 11 pm almost an hour and a half before Salatul Jumma

"Verily, those who say: "Our Lord is Allaah (Alone)." and then they standfirm, on them the angels will descend (at the time of death) (saying): "Fear not, nor grieve! But receive the glad tidings of Paradise which you have been promised! We have been your friends in the life of this world and are (so) in the Hereafter.

{ 30-32}

’’And those who remain patient, seeking their Lord's Countenance, perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), and spend out of that which We have bestowed on them, secretly and openly, and defend evil with good, for such there is a good end;’’

{13:22}

The Janaza: The Janaza took place the following day Saturday her ghusal took place in the same masjid as Umm Rayeesah. I was unable to get detailed information regarding the janaza

Dreams:

Umm Assias first child was a still born.

After the Janaza 3 people saw Umm Assia in their dreams

The first dream was seen by a relative a few days after the Janaza they saw Umm Assia sleeping peacefully next to a baby

The next dream was seen by Umm Assias son just recent to writing this Umm Assias story (3rd January 2009) she came to him and said

‘’I’m just sleeping peacefully’’

The third dream was a reoccurring dream that my Auntie, kept seeing My auntie said ‘’ I kept dreaming that we buried her alive’’ ‘’I still think did we do that ‘’ the reoccurring dreams felt so real to my aunt and reoccurred so often that she needs to sometimes remind herself that her mother did in fact die and she was not buried alive.

The Person she Was:

She was an elderly lady with 10 grandchildren and 5 children.

My mother described her as ‘’ very humble lady, very down to earth, very patient she never raised her voice at her children, and she use to read the Qur’an a lot ‘’

When I asked her close family members who lived with her and those didn’t they all told me she was always reading the Qur’an she never missed any fasts, and was devoted in her salaah ,she would never sit idle, my Auntie said that, even when she was just sitting on the sofa, she would be making diker.

She was a kind and soft lady with good character , she always use to tell her grand children to read Sura Yasin she use to say it is very powerful (she called to what she knew)

Her patience:

She went through a lot of hardships in life and was patient with them, without complainant. She was a loving mother and a devoted and patient wife.

When she married she was told by her husband that she could not enter the house unless she agreed to bring up his niece which she did, after that her mother in law who suffered from a sever mental illness for many years was very harsh with her. She would scream and shout at her much. she ones dragged her out of the kitchen pulling her by her hair. Through all this and much more that I don’t even know about Umm Aaliya was patient without complaint.

’’Whatever is with you, will be exhausted, and whatever with Allâh (of good deeds) will remain. And those who are patient, We will certainly pay them a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do .’’

{16: 96}

The final and to me the most amazing of these four stories is that of Umm Raeesa, mentioned a few times above in Umm Aaliyas story, story:3

Story 4: Umm Rayeesah

Died: Dhu 'l-Hijjah1429, about a week after Eid al Fitr

Cause of Her Death: Cancer of the Stomach

Her Death She died in a state of wadoo, as that is what she insisted on throughout the entire illness she also told her daughter in law ‘’no matter what happens make sure I’m in wadoo’’ (meaning when she dies, and so after the death the first thing my cousin did (though still in a state of shock) was to ask the nurses if she could give Umm Rayeesah wadoo.

Umm Rayeesah lived a relatively healthy life until then, she even said her self’ from her hospital bed ‘’I’ve never been ill before’’ she lived with her husband with her son and his wife (my cousin) she was a very active lady who eat healthily and took care of herself, for some weeks before her death she had been complaining of a stomach ach, then after a while she began loosing a lot of weight at which point she was admitted into hospital, and then released no one thought much of it, until all of a sudden she was readmitted in hospital in the beginning of Ramadan she remained in hospital until the middle of Ramadan and died just after Eid al Fitr.

When she was readmitted in hospital the doctors were very unsure what the illness was, and were conducting many test as in the case of Umm Aaliya, they suspected cancer. At the last stage of the illness, they informed the family that she was indeed suffering from cancer and that it had spread throughout her body even in her skin, hair and nails and there was nothing that could be done now . The doctors said that she had 2 months left.

My cousin and Umm Rayeesah’s son and father never did tell her what was going on even until the end (though she knew) they didn’t want her to loose hope. She was sent home and the family had decided that after Eid they would all fly her back to Pakistan so she could die around friends and family ,. The visit never did take place.

She had become quite weak in hospital in the run up to the illness

After she was discharged from the hospital she remained bed ridden though was fully conscious then a few days before she died, all of a sudden she regained a lot of strength she came out of her room and sat in the living room (among the gusts for the first time) who came to visit her,

it was at this point Umm Aaliya mentioned in the story above came to visit her, at that time we had no idea that Umm Aaliya was suffering from lung cancer My cousin (Umm Rayeesahs daughter in law) beautifully commented ,

‘’with all the pain she must have been going through she still came to visit her (Umm Rayeesah) , and she walked all `the way to the conservatory (which is located to the back of the house)

it shows that the righteous people do good deeds right to the end ‘’

She could not have put it more perfectly.

Umm Rayeesah had lost her apatite throughout the illness but at this point she was in such good spirit, and in a sudden burst of energy that she even requested my cousin (her daughter in law) to cook a particular special meal and stood there talking her through it as she cooked it, she eat well that day.

A few days after that she suffered something like a stroke and was taken to hospital, the next day I think it was 11 pm Monday night she died in hospital.

The Pangs of Death:

The day Umm Rayeesah died, My cousin(who had nursed her lovingly throughout the illness) had returned home for the first time in days to collect Umm Rayeeshas daughter and her husband who had just flown in from Pakistan to see their mother, my cousin said, ‘’we were sitting in the living room and all of a sudden I had this feeling as if she (Umm Rayeesha) was calling me, I just stood up and said I’m going to the hospital , I hadn’t been there all day my husband and everyone else kept saying to me, sit down , they just arrived ( Umm Rayeeshas daughter) well’ go tomorrow sit down, but I kept saying I have to go I have to go,’’

Allah was guiding her, if they had waited they would have never seen Umm Rayeesha again. When she arrived at the hospital, Umm Rayeesahs situation had quickly worsened her breathing had become very constrained and she was in a lot of pain, my cousin called her husband and Umm Rayeeshas daughter and husband telling them to arrive at the hospital immediately , there wasn’t much time left . They arrived as Umm Rayeesah was in the stages of death though conscious, my cousin said.

‘’She was sweating so much her whole pillow was wet, she was taking deep breaths, I kept reading the Qur’an ,and encouraging her to say the Shahdah I said to her in her ear ‘’lets read the Shahdah together I kept reciting the Shahada in her ear’’ Umm Rayeesah’s daughter shocked to see her mother like that started panicking and saying goodbye to her mum, Umm Rayeesah looked at her, my cousin said ‘’ as to say I’m not dead yet ,she just wanted to get on with it’’ (the pangs of death).

Just before she died ‘’she was looking up at something’’, then before ‘’her eyes rolled back’’ she looked up again

I remember a specific incident my cousin told me, aboust Umm Rayeesah she said ’’ she never complained throughout the entire illness and she never cried except for once, her husband saw her standing to pray Eisha, but the pain and weakness in her body was so bad she couldn’t stand, she lay on the bad and cried so much that day because she couldn’t pray’’

‘’However, those who believe are stauncher in their love of Allah"

(Qur'an, al-Baqara 165).

The Janaza:

It was a beautiful sunny day, almost Se’real , though it was a such a crazy time there was a strange air of calmness, the only way I can describe it is Sakineena, there was Sakeena that day.

The funeral itself was very calm, no whaling no confession, no rush just calm

My cousin said ‘’ She was a very calm person herself, and her funeral was also calm and everything was done Islamically only the mahrams saw her’’

She was referring to the fact that the family who are not practising, know a very cultural Islam, though with all of that the funereal was segregated and absent of most of the practises of biddda. Only Umm Rayeesahs Mahrams saw her at the funereal from the men.

My cousin told me that When they began washing her body the room filled up perfume, my cousins said ‘’we kept wondering were the perfume was coming from’ it wasn’t in the room before. When the first drops of water went on Umm Rayeesah my other cousin said ‘’it looked like she was smiling’’. My cousins also said that her arm (where the injections would go in) kept flowing with blood, as they were washing her.

Throughout her time in hospital whenever the nurses tried to administer her injections, they could never find the vain, and when they did it would be a difficult task trying to get blood out of her. They just could not get any blood.

At the time of burial when her son lowered her into her grave and turned her head towards the Kaba my cousin (his wife)said he said ‘’he felt so peaceful in there ( the grave) he just felt like he wanted to crawl in and sleep there’’

I’m not sure at which point this was (weather before or during the illness) but my cousin told me that Umm Rayeesah strangely went to visit all her relative here in London, she even visited her foster mother too, who said ‘’ as she was leaving she said to me ‘’Fiamanillah’’ she never said that before’’. Though she was never told of her illness or that she was going to die, it seemed from early on she knew and was making preparations.

Dreams:

Again as in Umm Aaliyas story dreams were very prominent there were four main dreams in this story.

The first was seen by Umm Rayeesah herself a few weeks before she got ill, she saw a dream which distressed her she got up in the night, at the same time her granddaughter (3 years old) also saw a bad dream my cousin took her downstairs to the kitchen trying to keep her away from Umm Rayeesahs room (near the kitchen) so not to wake her, but she (the granddaughter ) went straight towards Umm Rayeesahs room pulling the door handle , at that same time on the other side Umm Rayeesah was opening the door handle my cousin said

‘’when they both saw each other they were okay’’ ‘’My father in law said she (the grand daughter) knew from then that Umm Rayeesha was going to die’’

After Umm Rayeesahs death, maybe 2/3 weeks after, all of her children saw her in their dreams

The first dream her daughter saw her and she said to her’

’ ‘I’ve got cancer yes I know I’m okay’’

The second dream her son (my cousin husband saw her) he was quite distressed about the death she said to him

‘’Why are you upset what I have here is so much better then what I had there’’

The last and most amazing dream her youngest daughter saw, the child who was most attached to her, and was still in Pakistan throughout the entire ordeal she was unable to attend the funereal.

She said she saw her mother on ‘’a Golden Throne’’

‘’These! For them will be 'Adn (Eden) Paradise (everlasting Gardens); wherein rivers flow underneath them, therein they will be adorned with bracelets of gold, and they will wear green garments of fine and thick silk. They will recline therein on raised thrones. How good is the reward, and what an excellent Murtafaqâ (dwelling, resting place, etc.)!’’

{18:31}

And (when) it is said to those who are the Muttaqûn (pious - see V.2:2) "What is it that your Lord has sent down?" They say: "That which is good." For those who do good in this world, there is good, and the home of the Hereafter will be better. And excellent indeed will be the home (i.e. Paradise ) of the Muttaqûn

{: 16:: 30}

The Person she Was:

A family member described her as being a ‘’very very patient women, she never complained, she never spoke bad of anyone, even when we would be talking about someone in front of her and we’d say to her , what do you think about this person, she would just remain quit, she was so thankful she never hurt anyone’’

Again she was an elderly lady though mashalla quite active for her age and an extremity hardworking woman, especially in matters of taking care of her husband and children, She lived a very hard life (yet never complained my mother said

’’All her live she struggled and now when it came time for her to finally relax, she died’’ My mother perhaps didn’t see that Allah had tested his slave and now wanted his slave to return to him to rejoice in the fruits of what she put forward

She was such a considerate person, never wanted to burden anyone, even when we went to visit her In hospital she just kept saying, sorry we had to come to the hospital to see her in Ramadan while we were fasting .My cousin sad, when she became bed ridden, and ’’ I would help her up, she would never put all her weight on me’’

She was not a practicing women nor were her family, (nor is my family) and they didn’t have a lot of knowledge about Islam but the difference between her and also Umm Aaylia and us was that they Acted upon what ever they knew, and their hearts were attached to Allah, they were not perfect they made mistakes, and perhaps they didn’t know about the Islamic ruling of this and that as many of us do and they didn’t know that many of the things they did culturally were not from the sunnah, nor did they know anything about tajweed

They didn’t have the theoretical side but their belief about Allah was correct (Aqeedah wise) and they had the implementation of what they knew and they made their deeds beloved to them.

Many people spoke highly of her, I don’t remember anyone having anything bad to say.

There were 7 main characteristics people kept mentioned about her,

She was extremely patient in the oppression of other, in difficulties of life, patient with her husband and in her illness all without complaint.

She never spoke ill of anyone, even when people would ask her position on certain people she would remain quite. She had good character, humility and kindness.

(General note though if we ever are in a situation when a Muslim is being backbitten we are suppose to defend that Muslim or walk away from the gathering)

Diker rememberence My cousin said she was always making always Diker even just walking around the house

Hiyaa modesty she was a woman of hiyaa when my Auntie was discussing who would be the ones to wash Umm Rayeesah, My mum offered to be among them, my Auntie responded ‘’No she was a women who had a lot of hiyaa, it’s not right ‘’ My cousin her sister Umm Rayeesah daughter and my cousins mum were the ones who washed her.

Shuker thankfulness. She was a very thankful person generally. One incident, my cousin gave me an example of was that if the food would be burned she would continue eating it for dinner even if it was for a week she would never throw it away. she would just say, ‘’no this is from Allah’’, Mashallah Allah has blessed my cousin with wealth and their home had no shortage of cupboards packed with luxurious food yet Umm Raeesah would eat the burned food until it was finished.

‘’and make them remember the annals of Allâh. Truly, therein are evidences, proofs and signs for every patient, thankful (person)."

{14:5}

Ibadaa all I know regards to this is she never missed any fasts apart from the year of her illness for which she gave fidayaa for, and I know she was devoted in her salah, I don’t know about other secrets acts of worship, but what I know from my cousin is that she was devoted in her worship my cousin said in Pakistan she taught so many people to read the Qur’an free of charge .Throughout her illness she was particular wanted to stay in a constant state of waduo.

She had a good character when people were rude to her, she would not answer back but remain quite ignoring and forgiving the person. She never held grudges, no matter how spiteful people were to her, weather they made horrible hurtful comments regarding sensitive matters, she looked the other way.

She was a devoted and patient wife and outstanding mother, she would go out of her way to ensure the safety of her children and she was kind and gentle with them. The good character and humility is something you can see in all children ,What ever of Islam she knew she knew she would teach it to her children, it’s common to hear her children saying , ‘’I remember my mum told us she read this hadith or she told us this’’

My mother and others described how she served her husband so well without complaint, that he became so dependant on her, that not only would she cook fresh food for him for every meal, and lay it out in front of him, but if she had to go to get something at meal time, he would not even take the food out of the dish to put it on his own plate. Or spared the margarine on the toast in in front of him by himself .Yet with all of that she knew the rights of Allah had their place.

In the early years of her marriage, her husband did not use to fast in Ramadan, she said to him ‘’ I don’t like it that in Ramadan there is food cooked in the house so your going to` have to fast’’ he never missed a fast after that.

Subhanallah even after death she is benefiting people, since this experience my cousin (Um Rayeesahs daughter in-law) by the blessings of Allah is now wearing hijab and julbab, praying 5 times a day and changing her entire life around from haram to halal. May Allah give her success and give her an end as good or better then Umm Rayeesahs Ameen.

’’Their greeting on the Day they shall meet Him will be "Salâm: Peace (i.e. the angels will say to them: Salâmu 'Alaikum)!" And He has prepared for them a generous reward (i.e. Paradise ‘’)

{33:44}.

"Enter you therein in peace and security; this is a Day of eternal life!"

{50:34}

Mujahid said: "Beautiful patience is patience without any panic."

There are many other stories that I have recently heard about from relatives, but time does not permit me to discuss those. There were also two bad ends I learned about that I wanted to briefly discuss.

Bad Ends

Story 1: Umm Shayla

She was an old collage friend of my cousin (Umm Rayeesahs daughter in law)

State of Death : she died while making a film in Pakistan

The Janaza: My cousin said they flu her body back to the U.K (at my asking about her state she said) at the funereal I remember her body was stinking.

Story 2: Umm Hanun

State of death: on disbelief in the hereafter, in her underwear and handcuffs in her boyfriend’s car after being raped and killed.

Her Story: This story is very famous many people spoke about it, it was also in the local newspapers.

A sister I know told me that Umm Hanun was her cousin’s friend, she was a sister who had been practising for many years, she was described as being very strong in her deen. She was in complete julbab and niqaab, and was teaching in circles for some years .

I’m not sure of the details but from what I can remember, there was a trial in her life and her emaan became weaker and weaker, until she stopped teaching and then later removed her niqaab , and then some time later she removed her julbab, then finally her hijab.

She then began involving herself in haram such as committing zina going to night clubs etc,

A few days before she died she rang her friend and told her ‘’I’m not sure if I believe in the hereafter’’

Soon after that she was found dead.

’’And the stupor of death will come in truth: "This is what you have been avoiding!" {50:19}

’’Verily! As for those whom the angels take (in death) while they are wronging themselves (as they stayed among the disbelievers even though emigration was obligatory for them), they (angels) say (to them): "In what (condition) were you?" They reply: "We were weak and oppressed on earth." They (angels) say: "Was not the earth of Allâh spacious enough for you to emigrate therein?" Such men will find their abode in Hell - What an evil destination!’’

{4: 97}

May Allah protect us all from all forms of disbelief, kuffer ,hypocrisy and give us all a good end Ameen

’’Say (to them): "Verily, the death from which you flee will surely meet you, then you will be sent back to (Allâh), the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen, and He will tell you what you used to do.’’

{62:8}

Conclusion

I thank Allah for giving me this opportunity, to know the people who had good ends and to know of the stories of those who didn’t, the 4 deaths have affect my entire family in a good way, mashallah its helped everyone to come closer to Allah what a na’iema.

Its ironic, the 4 family members were not overtly practicing nor had much knowledge yet Allah may have seen something in them that he loved and so he gave them beautiful endings, and the sister who was practicing for many years, learning and teaching, ending up dying on kuffer, May Allah protects us all from disbelief and an evil end Ameen.

There are some reoccurring habits that I saw in those who had a good, I’m briefly listing those qualities below, your welcome to share your thoughts and views with me regarding this or other stories you know of .

Characteristics for Success:

Patience, in illness ,ibadaa (worship) when people are bad to you

Diker remembrance of Allah constantly ,praising Allah with the heart and tongue during chores etc

Qur’an played a big part in all their lives, reading it a lot and teaching it to people for free.

Shuker thankfulness, being thankful even for the small insignificant things in life, counting ones blessings, as well as being thankful in calamity as well.

Tawakkel, Trust in Allah without panic

Speaking Good. Always speaking good ,no backbiting, complaining etc

Honouring the guest

Acting upon what is learnt, be it little.

Contentment with the decree of Allah, without complaint upon the tongue.

Humbleness ,kindness and generosity (general good character)

Love of obligatory ibadaa

Being a devoted patient and loving Wife, regardless if the husband is the same back.

Being an outstanding loving and devoted mother

Iklas in all deeds

’’He will sip it unwillingly, and he will find a great difficulty to swallow it down his throat , and death will come to him from every side, yet he will not die and in front of him, will be a great torment.’’

{14:17}

’’And spend (in charity) of that with which We have provided you, before death comes to one of you and he says: "My Lord! If only You would give me respite for a little while (i.e. return to the worldly life), then I should give Sadaqah (i.e. Zakât) of my wealth , and be among the righteous [i.e. perform Hajj (pilgrimage to Makkah)].’’

{63:10}

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Sunday 5th December 2008

Abu Abuua · 04-13-2010, 10:00 AM

SUBHANAALLAAH, jazakaAllahukhairan for sharing... does really make you ponder and think.

May Allaah (swt) give everyone of us a beautiful death, in the state of Imaan and in a righteous action, Ameen.

04-05-2010, 11:59 AM	#1
Abu Abuua Qabeelat Fawz Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Birmingham Posts: 290	How do you want to die? Assalamu'alaaikum, Death is INEVITABLE! "Every soul shall taste death" - alQur'an It doesn't matter; YOUNG or OLD POOR or RICH MALE or FEMALE CHILD or ADULT HEALTHY or ILL ..... or ..... Death will find you at the appointed time and place! The question, HOW DO YOU WANT TO DIE?

04-05-2010, 12:33 PM	#2
Abu Abuua Qabeelat Fawz Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Birmingham Posts: 290	Re: How do you want to die? Someone very close to me, who lived a very simple life according to the teachings of the Qur'an and Sunnah and who was loved by everyone (that's no exaggeration). He was in his front room, "Wa'laikum ussalaam wa rahmatullaahi wa barakatuhu", he replied. His family (those who were present) were in the sitting room were left baffled as to who granddad was speaking to. They went to see who the visitors were. To their shock there was no one present in the front room and granddad had passed away. Innalillaahi wa inna ilayhi rajioon. His Janazah. When it was time to take the Mayyit to the Masjid, it was literally impossible for a few individuals to escort the coffin, but rather it was passed along on a bridge of people all the way to the Masjid he constructed and was once the imaam off. I want the Angels of Death to give me Salaam when they take my soul, inshaAllaah. And i want a sea of people at my Jannazah as the Prophet (saw) said, [font='Arial', 'sans-serif']"If a Muslim dies and the people who pray the Janazah (funeral) prayer for him total one hundred, and all of them intercede with Allah and ask Him for forgiveness for the deceased, then their intercession will be accepted."[/font]

04-13-2010, 09:41 AM	#3
Nisreen Ummat Muhammad Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: London Posts: 14	Re: How do you want to die? Assalaamu 'Alaikum Warahmatullaahi Wabarakaat This is an email I got from someone: Please pass on the following information to every Muslim you know, your Islamic studies, Qur’an teachers people of knowledge , sheikhs imams and masjids those who may benefit . Recently in my family there were 4 successive deaths alhamdullilah all were good ending, infact amazing endings. Its been a se’real experience, and I feel that perhaps Allah has put me in this position so that I may convey the glad tidings of those who do good that for them awaits a beautiful reward especially the patient. Please pay special attention to the dreams mentioned. I have given everyone mentioned a Qunyaa (Nickname) for confidentiality. There is a total of six stories four good ends and 2 bad endings There were a few more amazing stories, but due to time constraints I have been unable to mention them. inshallah this will suffice, if any one else knows of similar stories (good and bad) please share with everyone, perhaps our hearts may be effected . Ameen. *’’And those who are blessed, they will be in Paradise, abiding therein for all the time that the heavens and the earth endure, except as your Lord will, a gift without an end’’.* *{11:108}* ‘’The description of the Paradise which the Muttaqûn): have been promised! -Underneath it rivers flow, its provision is eternal and so is its shade, this is the end (final destination) of the Muttaqûn (pious - see V.2:2), and the end (final destination) of the disbelievers is Fire’’.) *{13:35}* .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 #EC_yiv1523295719 p.EC_MsoNormal, .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 li.EC_MsoNormal, .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 div.EC_MsoNormal {margin-bottom:.0001pt;font-size:12.0pt;font-family:'Times New Roman';} .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 EC__filtered #EC_yiv1523295719 {;} .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 div.EC_Section1 {;} In case attachment does not open info pasted below Good Ends Story : 1 Umm Assia Died: Ramadan 1429 September 2008 Cause of Her Death: Initially Cancer in the stomach, which was treated, but then later reoccurred, this time in her head causing her sever head aches. The Doctors didn’t realise until, she only had a short while left to live. Umm Assia was a young sister, 24 years old, married with a 1 year old daughter. The death took place some time in the middle portion of Ramadan this year , (2008/1429) My mother, Aunties and Uncle attended the Janaza . Her Death: She had developed cancer in her head which caused painful headaches she suffered for quite some time with this. When the doctors told her she was going to die soon. she was just calm, and reassured her mother not to worry. In the last days she stayed in a bedroom in her mothers house. Her mother said in those days before her death all you could hear from that room was the constant sound of beautiful Qur’anic recitation & the shahdah etc. at the janaza Umm Assias mother said I still her the Echos of her recitation Whenever the pain would reach an unbearable level she would just say ‘’ALLAHUAKBER’’ The Janaza: The Masjid was full of Muslims coming to pray over her. My mother was telling me how surprised she was to see that, as this was a weekday, in Ramadaan in a community that does not normally see many people attending Janazas full stop, let alone a weekday. But this Janaza was very different. Everyone just kept praising her saying she was such a lovely girl she was, ‘’a kind humble good girl’’. My Mother said her face was shining bright and beautiful, she said ‘’her face was shiny and beautiful when she was sleeping’’ ‘’For those who have done good is the best (reward, i.e. Paradise ) and even more (i.e. having the honour of glancing at the Countenance of Allâh جل جلاله) Neither darkness nor dust nor any humiliating disgrace shall cover their faces. They are the dwellers of Paradise , they will abide therein forever.’ {10:26} The Person She Was: by profession she was a Qur’an teacher at her local\ Madrasa .A women who was content in living simply, not taken in by the glitter of life. She married at the age of 21, and died at 24, she was a very quite and loving person, she served both her grandmothers and her mother. My mother said the people were saying she use to just sit by her grand mother talking with her. Umm Assias mother said she never gave her (the mother) any trouble as a child ,before she married or after, she was not like other young girls her age wanting to go out all the time. She was a blessing. She also mentioned that Umm Assia use to read the Qur’an a lot. After she married her and her husband moved far away from Umm Assias Mother, so Umm Assia wanted to move closer to her mother. Her husband found a small council house that was right next to the masjid, and she was so happy for this small humble house only because it was next to the masjid, she kept saying take it take it! She would talk about how she would be able to hear the adaan now. Story: 2 Abu Sara Died: Dhu 'l-Hijjah1429 Cause of His Death: He was suffering from some illnesses for quite some time His Death: He was getting ready to pray salah he had just made Takbir and he died, Subhannallah the difference of less then a minute, if Allah had willed he could have taken the soul of this man before the salah, or after, but Allah chose to take his soul in salah, and on the day of judgment this man will be raised in state of waduu and in salah The Janaza: A few days before his death his family said it was as if he knew he was going to die ,and that he just kept making duaa for his daughter (in the U.K) The Person He Was: He was a very humble kind and generous man; he truly truly honoured his guests, a family member described as having a very big heart, that though he did not have much yet he gave sooo much to people. He was very good to people. ’’Those whose lives the angels take while they are in a pious state (i.e. pure from all evil, and worshipping none but Allâh Alone) saying (to them): Salâmun 'Alaikum (peace be on you) enter you Paradise , because of (the good) which you used to do (in the world)." {16:32} Story: 3 Umm Aaylia Died: Dhu 'l-Hijjah1429 December 12th December 2008 5 days after Eid Al Adha .About an hour before Saltul Jumma Cause of Her Death: Cancer of the stomach, and Tuberculosis. The Prophet, salaallaahu `alayhi wa sallam said: - "Getting killed in the Path of Allaah ta`aalaa is martyrdom, - [death in] confinement during childbirth is martyrdom, - [death by] getting burned [by accident] is martyrdom, - [death by] drowning [by accident] is martyrdom, - [death due to] tuberculosis is martyrdom, - [death due to] stomach ache is martyrdom." [Tabaraanee, Ahmad, authenticated by al-Albaanee] She had just returned after travelling to many countries visiting family. She was totally fine then all of a sudden two weeks before Eid al Adha I think she got ill and was admitted into hospital. Initially the doctors thought I to be TB, she seemed quite fine, at the time, but then her stay in hospital was prolonged, the doctors then started testing her for various diseases they were unsure but kept saying there was a possibility that it could be cancer or both. Right till her death and even now were not quite sure weather she had Stomach Cancer, Tuberculosis or both. At this point in time she had a dream which Inshallah I will be discusses below due to its’ significance. The doctors had then said that her survival was hit and miss, a day after that that they gave her 48 hours but the next day she died. Just like in the case of Umm Rayeesa everything happened so quickly all of a sudden. One minute she was fine the next she was in hospital and then we were attending her Janaza. Her Death: Umm Aaliyas story is almost identical to Umm Rayeesahs story (story 4 below) only the ending is more amazing. The two ladies were distantly related, they knew each other. In fact Umm Aaylia visited Umm Rayeesah a few days before Umm Rayeesahs death, only back then none of us knew Umm Rayeesha would die, or even that Umm Aaylia was even suffering from cancer let alone that we would soon be attending her funereal just a few weeks later. Subhanallah the two ladies are even buried in the same grave yard (Gardens of peace in Chigwell London) just parallel to each other. Subhanallah! How Allah brings together the righteous in life and in death. As mentioned above during the stage when the doctors were conducting various tests, Umm Aaliya had a dream that she was drowning, after that dream she was very scared of what was ahead and she kept saying her goodbyes to everyone. She knew she was going to die, even though everyone kept trying to assure her but she was certain. Even her family didn’t actually think that she would die. Eid Al Adha was on the Monday. At that that time we all thought that she’d get better, but 3/4 days later her condition worsened and she was in and out of consciousness, she was put on a heavy oxygen mask, on the Friday of that same week, she became very weak My Auntie (Umm Aaliyas daughter) said Umm Aaliya wanted the oxygen musk to be removed it was causing her pain, but they (her family) did not want to remove it. Umm Aaliya kept saying ‘’Behind this mask is Malikal Moout’’ ‘’behind this mask is Malikal Mouut’’ (angel of death),My Auntie told me she (Umm Aaliya) wanted to go she wanted to return to Allah but the family wanted to hold onto her, and would not remove the mask. The room was full of people all concentrating on her. Umm Aaylia then began talking to someone (not the people in the room), saying ‘’Yes’’ ‘’Yes’’ (in Urdu) Her family then removed the heavy oxygen mask to replace it quickly with a lighter musk, but in seconds between the changes of the masks Umm Aylia died, and no one even noticed until a while later. Her death was so smooth it was as if her soul just slipped out of her body as, someone would just fall asleep. Her death took place at around 11 pm almost an hour and a half before Salatul Jumma "Verily, those who say: "Our Lord is Allaah (Alone)." and then *they standfirm***, on them the angels will descend (at the time of death) (saying): "Fear not, nor grieve! But receive the glad tidings of Paradise which you have been promised! We have been your friends in the life of this world and are (so) in the Hereafter. { 30-32} ’’And those who remain patient, seeking their Lord's Countenance, perform As-Salât (Iqâmat-as-Salât), and spend out of that which We have bestowed on them, secretly and openly, and defend evil with good, for such there is a good end;’’ {13:22} The Janaza: The Janaza took place the following day Saturday her ghusal took place in the same masjid as Umm Rayeesah. I was unable to get detailed information regarding the janaza Dreams: Umm Assias first child was a still born. After the Janaza 3 people saw Umm Assia in their dreams The first dream was seen by a relative a few days after the Janaza they saw Umm Assia sleeping peacefully next to a baby The next dream was seen by Umm Assias son just recent to writing this Umm Assias story (3rd January 2009) she came to him and said ‘’I’m just sleeping peacefully’’ The third dream was a reoccurring dream that my Auntie, kept seeing My auntie said ‘’ I kept dreaming that we buried her alive’’ ‘’I still think did we do that ‘’ the reoccurring dreams felt so real to my aunt and reoccurred so often that she needs to sometimes remind herself that her mother did in fact die and she was not buried alive. The Person she Was: She was an elderly lady with 10 grandchildren and 5 children. My mother described her as ‘’ very humble lady, very down to earth, very patient she never raised her voice at her children, and she use to read the Qur’an a lot ‘’ When I asked her close family members who lived with her and those didn’t they all told me she was always reading the Qur’an she never missed any fasts, and was devoted in her salaah ,she would never sit idle, my Auntie said that, even when she was just sitting on the sofa, she would be making diker. She was a kind and soft lady with good character , she always use to tell her grand children to read Sura Yasin she use to say it is very powerful (she called to what she knew) Her patience: She went through a lot of hardships in life and was patient with them, without complainant. She was a loving mother and a devoted and patient wife. When she married she was told by her husband that she could not enter the house unless she agreed to bring up his niece which she did, after that her mother in law who suffered from a sever mental illness for many years was very harsh with her. She would scream and shout at her much. she ones dragged her out of the kitchen pulling her by her hair. Through all this and much more that I don’t even know about Umm Aaliya was patient without complaint. ’’Whatever is with you, will be exhausted, and whatever with Allâh (of good deeds) will remain. And those who are patient, We will certainly pay them a reward in proportion to the best of what they used to do .’’ {16: 96} The final and to me the most amazing of these four stories is that of Umm Raeesa, mentioned a few times above in Umm Aaliyas story, story:3 Story 4: Umm Rayeesah Died: Dhu 'l-Hijjah1429, about a week after Eid al Fitr Cause of Her Death: Cancer of the Stomach Her Death She died in a state of wadoo, as that is what she insisted on throughout the entire illness she also told her daughter in law ‘’no matter what happens make sure I’m in wadoo’’ (meaning when she dies, and so after the death the first thing my cousin did (though still in a state of shock) was to ask the nurses if she could give Umm Rayeesah wadoo. Umm Rayeesah lived a relatively healthy life until then, she even said her self’ from her hospital bed ‘’I’ve never been ill before’’ she lived with her husband with her son and his wife (my cousin) she was a very active lady who eat healthily and took care of herself, for some weeks before her death she had been complaining of a stomach ach, then after a while she began loosing a lot of weight at which point she was admitted into hospital, and then released no one thought much of it, until all of a sudden she was readmitted in hospital in the beginning of Ramadan she remained in hospital until the middle of Ramadan and died just after Eid al Fitr. When she was readmitted in hospital the doctors were very unsure what the illness was, and were conducting many test as in the case of Umm Aaliya, they suspected cancer. At the last stage of the illness, they informed the family that she was indeed suffering from cancer and that it had spread throughout her body even in her skin, hair and nails and there was nothing that could be done now . The doctors said that she had 2 months left. My cousin and Umm Rayeesah’s son and father never did tell her what was going on even until the end (though she knew) they didn’t want her to loose hope. She was sent home and the family had decided that after Eid they would all fly her back to Pakistan so she could die around friends and family ,. The visit never did take place. She had become quite weak in hospital in the run up to the illness After she was discharged from the hospital she remained bed ridden though was fully conscious then a few days before she died, all of a sudden she regained a lot of strength she came out of her room and sat in the living room (among the gusts for the first time) who came to visit her, it was at this point Umm Aaliya mentioned in the story above came to visit her, at that time we had no idea that Umm Aaliya was suffering from lung cancer My cousin (Umm Rayeesahs daughter in law) beautifully commented , ‘’with all the pain she must have been going through she still came to visit her (Umm Rayeesah) , and she walked all `the way to the conservatory (which is located to the back of the house) it shows that the righteous people do good deeds right to the end ‘’ She could not have put it more perfectly. Umm Rayeesah had lost her apatite throughout the illness but at this point she was in such good spirit, and in a sudden burst of energy that she even requested my cousin (her daughter in law) to cook a particular special meal and stood there talking her through it as she cooked it, she eat well that day. A few days after that she suffered something like a stroke and was taken to hospital, the next day I think it was 11 pm Monday night she died in hospital. The Pangs of Death: The day Umm Rayeesah died, My cousin(who had nursed her lovingly throughout the illness) had returned home for the first time in days to collect Umm Rayeeshas daughter and her husband who had just flown in from Pakistan to see their mother, my cousin said, ‘’we were sitting in the living room and all of a sudden I had this feeling as if she (Umm Rayeesha) was calling me, I just stood up and said I’m going to the hospital , I hadn’t been there all day my husband and everyone else kept saying to me, sit down , they just arrived ( Umm Rayeeshas daughter) well’ go tomorrow sit down, but I kept saying I have to go I have to go,’’ Allah was guiding her, if they had waited they would have never seen Umm Rayeesha again. When she arrived at the hospital, Umm Rayeesahs situation had quickly worsened her breathing had become very constrained and she was in a lot of pain, my cousin called her husband and Umm Rayeeshas daughter and husband telling them to arrive at the hospital immediately , there wasn’t much time left . They arrived as Umm Rayeesah was in the stages of death though conscious, my cousin said. ‘’She was sweating so much her whole pillow was wet, she was taking deep breaths, I kept reading the Qur’an ,and encouraging her to say the Shahdah I said to her in her ear ‘’lets read the Shahdah together I kept reciting the Shahada in her ear’’ Umm Rayeesah’s daughter shocked to see her mother like that started panicking and saying goodbye to her mum, Umm Rayeesah looked at her, my cousin said ‘’ as to say I’m not dead yet ,she just wanted to get on with it’’ (the pangs of death). Just before she died ‘’she was looking up at something’’, then before ‘’her eyes rolled back’’ she looked up again I remember a specific incident my cousin told me, aboust Umm Rayeesah she said ’’ she never complained throughout the entire illness and she never cried except for once, her husband saw her standing to pray Eisha, but the pain and weakness in her body was so bad she couldn’t stand, she lay on the bad and cried so much that day because she couldn’t pray’’ ‘’However, those who believe are stauncher in their love of Allah" (Qur'an, al-Baqara 165). The Janaza: It was a beautiful sunny day, almost Se’real , though it was a such a crazy time there was a strange air of calmness, the only way I can describe it is Sakineena, there was Sakeena that day. The funeral itself was very calm, no whaling no confession, no rush just calm My cousin said ‘’ She was a very calm person herself, and her funeral was also calm and everything was done Islamically only the mahrams saw her’’ She was referring to the fact that the family who are not practising, know a very cultural Islam, though with all of that the funereal was segregated and absent of most of the practises of biddda. Only Umm Rayeesahs Mahrams saw her at the funereal from the men. My cousin told me that When they began washing her body the room filled up perfume, my cousins said ‘’we kept wondering were the perfume was coming from’ it wasn’t in the room before. When the first drops of water went on Umm Rayeesah my other cousin said ‘’it looked like she was smiling’’. My cousins also said that her arm (where the injections would go in) kept flowing with blood, as they were washing her. Throughout her time in hospital whenever the nurses tried to administer her injections, they could never find the vain, and when they did it would be a difficult task trying to get blood out of her. They just could not get any blood. At the time of burial when her son lowered her into her grave and turned her head towards the Kaba my cousin (his wife)said he said ‘’he felt so peaceful in there ( the grave) he just felt like he wanted to crawl in and sleep there’’ I’m not sure at which point this was (weather before or during the illness) but my cousin told me that Umm Rayeesah strangely went to visit all her relative here in London, she even visited her foster mother too, who said ‘’ as she was leaving she said to me ‘’Fiamanillah’’ she never said that before’’. Though she was never told of her illness or that she was going to die, it seemed from early on she knew and was making preparations. Dreams: Again as in Umm Aaliyas story dreams were very prominent there were four main dreams in this story. The first was seen by Umm Rayeesah herself a few weeks before she got ill, she saw a dream which distressed her she got up in the night, at the same time her granddaughter (3 years old) also saw a bad dream my cousin took her downstairs to the kitchen trying to keep her away from Umm Rayeesahs room (near the kitchen) so not to wake her, but she (the granddaughter ) went straight towards Umm Rayeesahs room pulling the door handle , at that same time on the other side Umm Rayeesah was opening the door handle my cousin said ‘’when they both saw each other they were okay’’ ‘’My father in law said she (the grand daughter) knew from then that Umm Rayeesha was going to die’’ After Umm Rayeesahs death, maybe 2/3 weeks after, all of her children saw her in their dreams The first dream her daughter saw her and she said to her’ ’ ‘I’ve got cancer yes I know I’m okay’’ The second dream her son (my cousin husband saw her) he was quite distressed about the death she said to him ‘’Why are you upset what I have here is so much better then what I had there’’ The last and most amazing dream her youngest daughter saw, the child who was most attached to her, and was still in Pakistan throughout the entire ordeal she was unable to attend the funereal. She said she saw her mother on ‘’a Golden Throne’’ ‘’These! For them will be 'Adn (Eden) Paradise (everlasting Gardens); wherein rivers flow underneath them, therein they will be adorned with bracelets of gold, and they will wear green garments of fine and thick silk. They will recline therein on raised thrones. How good is the reward, and what an excellent Murtafaqâ (dwelling, resting place, etc.)!’’ {18:31} And (when) it is said to those who are the Muttaqûn (pious - see V.2:2) "What is it that your Lord has sent down?" They say: "That which is good." For those who do good in this world, there is good, and the home of the Hereafter will be better. And excellent indeed will be the home (i.e. Paradise ) of the Muttaqûn {: 16:: 30} The Person she Was: A family member described her as being a ‘’very very patient women, she never complained, she never spoke bad of anyone, even when we would be talking about someone in front of her and we’d say to her , what do you think about this person, she would just remain quit, she was so thankful she never hurt anyone’’ Again she was an elderly lady though mashalla quite active for her age and an extremity hardworking woman, especially in matters of taking care of her husband and children, She lived a very hard life (yet never complained my mother said ’’All her live she struggled and now when it came time for her to finally relax, she died’’ My mother perhaps didn’t see that Allah had tested his slave and now wanted his slave to return to him to rejoice in the fruits of what she put forward She was such a considerate person, never wanted to burden anyone, even when we went to visit her In hospital she just kept saying, sorry we had to come to the hospital to see her in Ramadan while we were fasting .My cousin sad, when she became bed ridden, and ’’ I would help her up, she would never put all her weight on me’’ She was not a practicing women nor were her family, (nor is my family) and they didn’t have a lot of knowledge about Islam but the difference between her and also Umm Aaylia and us was that they Acted upon what ever they knew, and their hearts were attached to Allah, they were not perfect they made mistakes, and perhaps they didn’t know about the Islamic ruling of this and that as many of us do and they didn’t know that many of the things they did culturally were not from the sunnah, nor did they know anything about tajweed They didn’t have the theoretical side but their belief about Allah was correct (Aqeedah wise) and they had the implementation of what they knew and they made their deeds beloved to them. Many people spoke highly of her, I don’t remember anyone having anything bad to say. There were 7 main characteristics people kept mentioned about her, She was extremely patient in the oppression of other, in difficulties of life, patient with her husband and in her illness all without complaint. She never spoke ill of anyone, even when people would ask her position on certain people she would remain quite. She had good character, humility and kindness. (General note though if we ever are in a situation when a Muslim is being backbitten we are suppose to defend that Muslim or walk away from the gathering) Diker rememberence My cousin said she was always making always Diker even just walking around the house Hiyaa modesty she was a woman of hiyaa when my Auntie was discussing who would be the ones to wash Umm Rayeesah, My mum offered to be among them, my Auntie responded ‘’No she was a women who had a lot of hiyaa, it’s not right ‘’ My cousin her sister Umm Rayeesah daughter and my cousins mum were the ones who washed her. Shuker thankfulness. She was a very thankful person generally. One incident, my cousin gave me an example of was that if the food would be burned she would continue eating it for dinner even if it was for a week she would never throw it away. she would just say, ‘’no this is from Allah’’, Mashallah Allah has blessed my cousin with wealth and their home had no shortage of cupboards packed with luxurious food yet Umm Raeesah would eat the burned food until it was finished. ‘’and make them remember the annals of Allâh. Truly, therein are evidences, proofs and signs for every patient, thankful (person)." {14:5} Ibadaa all I know regards to this is she never missed any fasts apart from the year of her illness for which she gave fidayaa for, and I know she was devoted in her salah, I don’t know about other secrets acts of worship, but what I know from my cousin is that she was devoted in her worship my cousin said in Pakistan she taught so many people to read the Qur’an free of charge .Throughout her illness she was particular wanted to stay in a constant state of waduo. She had a good character when people were rude to her, she would not answer back but remain quite ignoring and forgiving the person. She never held grudges, no matter how spiteful people were to her, weather they made horrible hurtful comments regarding sensitive matters, she looked the other way. She was a devoted and patient wife and outstanding mother, she would go out of her way to ensure the safety of her children and she was kind and gentle with them. The good character and humility is something you can see in all children ,What ever of Islam she knew she knew she would teach it to her children, it’s common to hear her children saying , ‘’I remember my mum told us she read this hadith or she told us this’’ My mother and others described how she served her husband so well without complaint, that he became so dependant on her, that not only would she cook fresh food for him for every meal, and lay it out in front of him, but if she had to go to get something at meal time, he would not even take the food out of the dish to put it on his own plate. Or spared the margarine on the toast in in front of him by himself .Yet with all of that she knew the rights of Allah had their place. In the early years of her marriage, her husband did not use to fast in Ramadan, she said to him ‘’ I don’t like it that in Ramadan there is food cooked in the house so your going to` have to fast’’ he never missed a fast after that. Subhanallah even after death she is benefiting people, since this experience my cousin (Um Rayeesahs daughter in-law) by the blessings of Allah is now wearing hijab and julbab, praying 5 times a day and changing her entire life around from haram to halal. May Allah give her success and give her an end as good or better then Umm Rayeesahs Ameen. ’’Their greeting on the Day they shall meet Him will be "Salâm: Peace (i.e. the angels will say to them: Salâmu 'Alaikum)!" And He has prepared for them a generous reward (i.e. Paradise ‘’) {33:44}. "Enter you therein in peace and security; this is a Day of eternal life!" {50:34} Mujahid said: "Beautiful patience is patience without any panic." There are many other stories that I have recently heard about from relatives, but time does not permit me to discuss those. There were also two bad ends I learned about that I wanted to briefly discuss. Bad Ends Story 1: Umm Shayla She was an old collage friend of my cousin (Umm Rayeesahs daughter in law) State of Death : she died while making a film in Pakistan The Janaza: My cousin said they flu her body back to the U.K (at my asking about her state she said) at the funereal I remember her body was stinking. Story 2: Umm Hanun State of death: on disbelief in the hereafter, in her underwear and handcuffs in her boyfriend’s car after being raped and killed. Her Story: This story is very famous many people spoke about it, it was also in the local newspapers. A sister I know told me that Umm Hanun was her cousin’s friend, she was a sister who had been practising for many years, she was described as being very strong in her deen. She was in complete julbab and niqaab, and was teaching in circles for some years . I’m not sure of the details but from what I can remember, there was a trial in her life and her emaan became weaker and weaker, until she stopped teaching and then later removed her niqaab , and then some time later she removed her julbab, then finally her hijab. She then began involving herself in haram such as committing zina going to night clubs etc, A few days before she died she rang her friend and told her ‘’I’m not sure if I believe in the hereafter’’ Soon after that she was found dead. ’’And the stupor of death will come in truth: "This is what you have been avoiding!" {50:19} ’’Verily! As for those whom the angels take (in death) while they are wronging themselves (as they stayed among the disbelievers even though emigration was obligatory for them), they (angels) say (to them): "In what (condition) were you?" They reply: "We were weak and oppressed on earth." They (angels) say: "Was not the earth of Allâh spacious enough for you to emigrate therein?" Such men will find their abode in Hell - What an evil destination!’’ {4: 97} May Allah protect us all from all forms of disbelief, kuffer ,hypocrisy and give us all a good end Ameen ’’Say (to them): "Verily, the death from which you flee will surely meet you, then you will be sent back to (Allâh), the All-Knower of the unseen and the seen, and He will tell you what you used to do.’’ {62:8} Conclusion I thank Allah for giving me this opportunity, to know the people who had good ends and to know of the stories of those who didn’t, the 4 deaths have affect my entire family in a good way, mashallah its helped everyone to come closer to Allah what a na’iema. Its ironic, the 4 family members were not overtly practicing nor had much knowledge yet Allah may have seen something in them that he loved and so he gave them beautiful endings, and the sister who was practicing for many years, learning and teaching, ending up dying on kuffer, May Allah protects us all from disbelief and an evil end Ameen. There are some reoccurring habits that I saw in those who had a good, I’m briefly listing those qualities below, your welcome to share your thoughts and views with me regarding this or other stories you know of . Characteristics for Success: Patience, in illness ,ibadaa (worship) when people are bad to you Diker remembrance of Allah constantly ,praising Allah with the heart and tongue during chores etc Qur’an played a big part in all their lives, reading it a lot and teaching it to people for free. Shuker thankfulness, being thankful even for the small insignificant things in life, counting ones blessings, as well as being thankful in calamity as well. Tawakkel, Trust in Allah without panic Speaking Good. Always speaking good ,no backbiting, complaining etc Honouring the guest Acting upon what is learnt, be it little. Contentment with the decree of Allah, without complaint upon the tongue. Humbleness ,kindness and generosity (general good character) Love of obligatory ibadaa Being a devoted patient and loving Wife, regardless if the husband is the same back. Being an outstanding loving and devoted mother Iklas in all deeds ’’He will sip it unwillingly, and he will find a great difficulty to swallow it down his throat , and death will come to him from every side, yet he will not die and in front of him, will be a great torment.’’ {14:17} ’’And spend (in charity) of that with which We have provided you, before death comes to one of you and he says: "My Lord! If only You would give me respite for a little while (i.e. return to the worldly life), then I should give Sadaqah (i.e. Zakât) of my wealth , and be among the righteous [i.e. perform Hajj (pilgrimage to Makkah)].’’ {63:10} .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 #EC_yiv1447287970 #EC_yiv1447287970 p.EC_MsoNormal, .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 #EC_yiv1447287970 li.EC_MsoNormal, .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 #EC_yiv1447287970 div.EC_MsoNormal {margin-bottom:.0001pt;font-size:12.0pt;font-family:'Times New Roman';} .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 EC__filtered #EC_yiv1447287970 {;} .ExternalClass #EC_yiv259500545 #EC_yiv1556714616 #EC_yiv75092868 #EC_yiv1651197858 #EC_yiv858625858 #EC_yiv981348717 #EC_yiv1568643469 #EC_yiv1000310778 #EC_yiv1667540676 #EC_yiv299034955 #EC_yiv1523295719 #EC_yiv1447287970 div.EC_Section1 {;} Completed: 9th Muharram 1430 Sunday 5th December 2008 __________________ "A servant of God will remain standing on the Day of Judgment until he is questioned about: -His (time on earth) and how he used it -His knowledge and how he utilized it -His wealth and from where he acquired it and in what (activities) he spent it on -His body and how he used it." *Al-Tirmidhi, Hadith 148*

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Abu Abuua Qabeelat Fawz Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Birmingham Posts: 290	Re: How do you want to die? SUBHANAALLAAH, jazakaAllahukhairan for sharing... does really make you ponder and think. May Allaah (swt) give everyone of us a beautiful death, in the state of Imaan and in a righteous action, Ameen.

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